Dwayne2864 wrote:
prolijo wrote:
Basically, you're saying you couldn't have done what this guy did so you apparently have either some ethical or other personal problems with it, but that you think it would be okay if someone else did it. I disagree with that last part.
Didn't I clearly say:
dwayne wrote:
I actually have no interest in watching myself have sex with anyone. ...
Does that say that I have NO INTEREST? I think NO INTEREST means that I am not interested
in doing what this guy did - plain and simple - NO INTEREST. Does it also say that I have NOTHING AGAINST THEIR METHODS?
So how it is that Prolijo could come to this conclusion:
apparently have either some ethical or other personal problems with itIf I had some ethical or personal problems with it, I would state them but I hadn't so where does this come from? I said that I have NO INTEREST.
Let me get this straight. Are you saying you have NO INTEREST?

Exactly what do you mean by no INTEREST? If you have no ethical problems with taping a chica without her knowledge or consent, why do you "always ask for a picture before she leaves my room" when "to do it secretly is easier than asking"? Also, initially you said about secret taping that "It is bad". Then you changed your mind about it BUT only under certain conditions. Thats what I mean by being all over the map and inconsistent. All of that certainly suggests, to me anyway, some uncertainty on your part about the moral ambiguities of such practices. Then what did you say? Was it that you had NO INTEREST? Why don't you have NO INTEREST? Isn't that EXACTLY a matter of personal choice? You have a personal problem with it, it doesn't appeal to you personally, you have NO INTEREST. Whatever. Okay so you prefer to phrase it as having NO INTEREST in doing this yourself. Whats your point and who cares? It all amounts to the exact same thing in the end anyway. You don't tape chicas without their consent. Essentially you're saying the same thing as I attempted to restate from your previous posts, but you want to split hairs.
Dwayne2864 wrote:
prolijo wrote:
but that you think it would be okay if someone else did it.
Yes I do. I could care less actually.
Well, I'm glad I at least got that part right. EVEN if I got all of the above completely wrong, you're focusing on my choice of words in one sentence and completely missing the point of that sentence and the rest of the post. The real issue I was trying to raise out of your prior posts is either an inability on your part to differentiate between the moral issues raised by secretly taping a chica and the much more limited practices that you're willing to engage in yourself or else your complete lack of concern (excuse me, NO INTEREST) about the ramifications of those differences.
Dwayne2864 wrote:
...the religious right comment was because we're talking about morals. Morals on a site dedicated to sex tourism! Amazing, but typical American. We seem to want to put rules around everything to the Nth degree.
Now we're getting to the core issue. Unlike you, I see no contradiction or hypocrisy at all even on the part of a group of mongers concerning themselves with trying to practice their hobby as responsibly as possible. Actually because we are already operating so close to the edge we have to be even more careful that we don't step over it. This isn't about applying a bunch of arbitrary moral rules on other people based on our own personal choices. There is only ONE rule that I think can fairly applied to others and that is the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. In other words, people should be free to do whatever they want as long as they're not harming others or infringing on their rights to do the same. From that perspective, there is nothing immoral at all in engaging in mutually consensual sex with another adult even if there is a commercial basis to the act. Taping, photographing or in any other way recording another person without their knowledge or consent fails that test. It denies them their right to choose whether they want to be recorded. Its an invasion of their privacy. All that they agreed to when coming to your room was to engage in sex at that place for that period of time and not to have their intimate actions recorded for later sexual enjoyment by you or possibly others. Back on the Gold Standard, would you want someone to record you that way and possibly post it publicly or share it with others? Maybe you would, but that would be your choice, but how do you know it would be theirs? Would you want someone to deny you your right to decide for yourself?
But say we accept your argument that mongering is immoral either in actuality or merely in the perspective of the religious right, does that mean we should throw any other moral considerations out the window? Does it mean we're incapable of making our own moral decisions or disqualified from having an opinion on the moral actions of others? If we've violated one moral precept, does that mean we have carte blanche to violate others?
Dwayne2864 wrote:
So from a non-monger point of view and so from the view point that sex tourist are low-lifes, what is worse 1) having sex with hookers 2) videotaping a hooker secretly?
That's a stupid question. The answer is easy even from a non-monger perspective. It's clearly #2. In #1 you're merely having sex with a hooker. In #2 its implicit that you're having sex with a hooker but you're also pulling a fast one on her. In #1, you might be cheating on your wife or SO. In #2 you're definitely cheating the chica as well.
Dwayne2864 wrote:
This taping doesn't surprise me. It is bad, but is it any worse than mongering? You can't tell the average person that you are a sex tourist and you can't tell that you secretly video tape anyone while having sex. I mean both of these things aren't so accepted. So........ who are we to be judging?
Yes, IMHO, secretly taping an act of mongering is worse than simple mongering. You can't tell the average person that you just killed your wife either. Just because they all have lack of social acceptance in common doesn't mean they're all equivalent. And just because we may have violated someone else's moral rule doesn't mean we can't judge yet another person for violating yet another rule. Maybe the first rule is invalid or maybe it isn't. That has no bearing on the validity of the other rules.
The real question is whether you believe in absolute moral truths or moral relativism. Absolute moral truths often have little to do with what is accepted by certain segments of society or even with formal laws. Somethings are just plain wrong regardless of what different people might think. For example, I would think "thou shalt not kill" (except perhaps under certain proscribed circumstances) is a moral law most people would have to agree with however moral or immoral they themselves might be in other areas. That the view of mongering as somehow seedy and immoral is based on some sort of arbitrary standard of the so-called "moral majority" doesn't mean I have to accept that viewpoint. The distinctions I have drawn between mongering and the types of behavior we have been discussing is based on a more definitive standard, that of violating someone else's rights.
Moral relativism is much more complex. It posits that there are different levels of good and bad and that what we define as good and bad may differ between individuals. If you accept the idea that secretly taping is at all bad then secretly taping a mongering session is by its very nature worse than simply mongering alone because it compounds the situation. But what about the idea that some might not see taping as all that bad just as we don't see anything wrong with our simple mongering. As you said, who are we to judge? Again, it comes down to a) the fact that I have established a basis for my view and b) my so-called sin of mongering does not harm anyone other than myself whereas the "sin" of taping effects someone other than the sinner. If it weren't for that, I would say let the other guy do whatever he wants despite my personal view of whether it was moral.
Dwayne2864 wrote:
I don't think that she should come into my room thinking that all is well when I have to lock all my valuables in a safe. If you give most of these girls the chance, they will steal from you.
Dwayne2864 wrote:
We are always complaining about the girls getting over on us - conning us, RFM, stealing from us, trying for the cien, rushing the hour, lying to us - yet when one of us does something to the girl it high treason? What, we're supposed to adhere to some code of ethics, but they do as they please? Video taping - a non violent mischievous sneaking thing to do, but I think it comes with the territory (she was in his room).
Dwayne2864 wrote:
projilo wrote:
Again, this is the two wrongs make a right rationalization argument. The flip side would be that it is alright for her to steal from us because she's taken the risk of being taped.
It isn't about 2 wrongs making a right and don't get me started on the risks, because after AIDS, herpes, HPV, physical abuse, the common cold, the flu and even death since they are dealing with STRANGERS a secretly taped video is NOTHING!
Okay, maybe you didn't exactly say two wrongs make a right, but you do seem to suggest that two wrongs are no worse than one. And despite what you say about other risks the flip side does apply. We face the risk of AIDS, herpes, being slipped a roofie and then robbed blind. Does that mean that the risk of their lying to us, rushing us or snatching the little extra money we fail to lock up when we aren't looking is NOTHING? And as for the other things such as RFM's or paying cien, don't we have to agree to any of that? Just as we wouldn't want any of those things to happen to us, they wouldn't want to have some creep take revealing pictures of them without their knowledge or permission for purposes unknown. It may not be their primary concern but it is a valid one. Call it two wrongs making a right or the double standard or whatever you want. By any name it is still flawed logic.
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In the time it took me to write this I see we have a new guy making equally ridiculous statements. And now Dwayne is cranking out the dictionary and parsing the terms whore and lady. Well we've been down that road many times before. I agree that lady is being overgenerous with these gals, but isn't a value-ladden term like whore with all its negative connotations equally harsh in the opposite direction? I'm sure all of the above will draw another convoluted response from Dwayne or maybe Chi-town Monger will chime in with another inflammatory and disrespectful response. There is no reasoning with some people. They either get it or they don't. This post is my last comment on this thread. The rest of you can have at it.