Mr Adventure,
I *think* I'm hearing what you are saying. I feel you are bringing up something VERY IMPORTANT to noobs, and to all of us.
It sorta boils down to the old saw: "If you ain't having fun, you ain't doing it right..."
But it goes beyond that. Maybe I could put it this way: "If you ain't having fun, and know know you did it right, check your heart, check your gut, and go in the direction they lead you."
That's it, what started out as fun then became a bore, then a chore, then just plain work...90% of the time in MP's I was trying to hurry up and finish so I could leave and at least 80% of the time "faked it" ran to the bathroom to remove condom, they never know or care. The repeat girls I had a friendship with I liked the best and so this wasn't as big an issue, but still existed...I hope I got that across properly. My intention is to support what you are saying and I feel that you are saying that, no matter how you try, it just isn't working for you so it's time to seek another venue that makes you happy.
Yes, something just isn't right internally...I find that I'm constantly evolving in this hobby. Often I ask myself if I was cut out for this (which, I realize is a different question than "where are my best uses of my mongering time and money?"). I ask myself that because a lot of things about this hobby appeal to me, and some things really feel like the wrong 'fit' to me. It's complicated.
Usually when a person has this much internal conflict it's because their actions are not in alignment with one's values and goals. That's what's happening, just thought of myself as a minor league hedonist at best who enjoys short vacations and the company of native girls. I find the term monger=sex tourist=exploitation...just not something I want to be a part of.I think a flippant "ok, bye" type of response to your post is unjustified, but oh-so-typical of a certain segment of this board.
yeah, haters gotta hate :lol:
Sounds to me like you just have the (wickedly cool?) job of trying new venues and see what really blows your skirt up these days.
yeah, POOR ME 
Who ever heard of a guy who has the time, money and health to go anywhere for girls, but for whom it just isn't that big of a deal, almost a "been there done that" thing, but I'm weird like that. There is a video about achievement that I really like and in it one fellow (an Aikido teacher) says that when you have a "stagnant spell" you are actually growing in your skill set. The "stagnant spell" (I know I'm getting this term incorrect) is a time when you are *INTERNALLY PROCESSING*. It is after this internal growth that you see the uptrend in performance. I am inclined to liken what you are going through to this.
Yes, a plateau, knew early this year needed to up my game, Medellin seemed to be the next logical step...but then it got to where it really wasn't all that funI think it is important for each of us to have these spells of re-evaluation, whether they are small scale or really large scale such as you are going through. I imagine a lot of guys can see how your thoughts apply to them on either a smaller or larger scale. They do to me.
Just never know where the road will lead, a lot of guys will come here and discover like I did "This just ain't me, I don't belong here" but I'm glad I did and would recommend anyone come for at least a couple trips. You'll never know till you try, and if nothing else will appreciate what we have in the US even more.FWIW, if you haven't already, take a look at theeroticreview.com , date-check.com ,
http://www.usasexguide.info/forum/ .
Think for next 6 mos will just try the locals, once you take out the emotional part, the remaining biological sex drive seems miniscule..TO looks good in the spring, both it and MED require much homework that I can't do now. I try to learn from the 'good posts' here, and I think yours is a good one.
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