Bktuna wrote:
Being overly nice will only make them treat you worse. Firm but Fair are good words to live by.
Great advice Bktuna! I am going to tell my story for others to learn.
I think most people get smarter and wiser as they go to CR regularly. Apparently, the opposite happened to me and I got dumber. (I don't know how many times I've been there) My first trip to CR (2007) I was a prick, then I started to back-off a little and life was pretty good. All things were in equilibrium and I was treated fairly and nobody even tried to take advantage of me.
My last trip was completely different story. Maybe I got too excited about going, maybe I was too happy about being there. Who knows. In the past, I have read where people have brought gifts to the girls. In fact, if I were to look back on my previous posts, I criticized them for bringing gifts. Why do that?
For some dumbass reason, I thought I would give it a go and bring some gifts to the girls I saw regularly. These girls never RFM'ed me, treated me well and got repeat business each trip I made. They were timid around me and treated me with respect. I blame Zig Ziggler who said "acts recognized and rewarded are repeated."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8iOUDtO ... re=related (6 minute mark for those who don't want to listen to the whole thing)
Ohhh NO, I won't do that again. In Costa Rica Zig Ziggler advice DOES NOT APPLY. I was going through Sam's Wholesale Club the weekend before my trip. I saw some nice designer shirts for women that had a tag on them that said $80, but Sam's only wanted $12. Thinking I was being smart, I thought I would buy these $12 shirts and give them to the girls who would think they were getting $80 shirts. I bought 3 for the three girls I see regularly - total cost before tax $36. It worked! They thought they were getting $80 shirts and gloated about what good taste I had and asked if I had help picking them out, etc.
These wonderful girls of the past, who treated me so well and with such respect turned into money-hungry RFM's instantly!! As others pointed out, I showed weakness by rewarding them. I was asked
1) To advance them $100 for rent
2) Could I give them $20 tip
3) Needed EXTRA taxi money because they were going across the city to their house
4) babysitter money
5) They had to tip the doorman at SL (Really!! I am not making that up)
6) and finally, the ultimate insult when I wouldn't give them more money "You aren't taking care of me!!!"
Three favorites wiped-out in one week! So, my trick of giving $12 shirts that had tags that said $80 worked in that the girls really thought I spent $80 on a gift for them. It worked to where they thought they could walk all over me.
Although, I wonder what happens if all three show-up at the same place wearing the same shirt?
Trust me, once you show weakness you can never go back. So each session ended in a fight. A fight to regain my dignity. A fight to not pay them extra. A fight to get them to leave.
There is ONLY one Tica that has earned a gift from me and my eternal gratitude. I will take her a gift, but I will not use her service. She deserves a gift, but I will not see her professionally. Here's the explanation in this thread.
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