Bilko wrote:
Prolijo,
I have every right to complain. I also have every right to refuse to play bad music. Prostitutes have every right to say 'no' to a fat ugly smelly old fart too. I played more crap songs in my 'career' than I would care to listen to again for twice the money. I needed the money at the time and didn't have any other option. I still had a right not to like it.
I have no idea what kind of work you do, but I rather doubt you take orders unquestioningly and always like it and never complain. I have never met anybody who doesn't complain about work, or their marriage, or their K*ds. If you are the exception, you are the first I have met.
Being the one who pays might make you 'boss' but it doesn't make your feces smell like honeysuckle.
Of course, you (or I or anybody else) always have a "right" to complain. I NEVER said you didn't. Your employers also happen to have the the "right" not to listen to you if they don't want to. And your audience has the "right" not to come see you, pay cover, buy tickets or drinks or whatever else becomes the source of the funds to pay you. You have the "right" to refuse to play bad music. Again, I NEVER said you didn't. But your employers and/or audience also have the "right" not to pay you anything if you don't play what they want to hear. You also have the "right" not to like what you do for work. Again, I NEVER said otherwise. But you also have the right to quit, seek other work, or do no work at all. And as for prostitutes, they have the "right" to say 'no' to a fat ugly smelly old fart. I NEVER said they didn't either. But then they don't have a "right" to expect that fat ugly smelly old fart to fork over so much money to them just for looking pretty. What I DID say was "you're not really
in much of a position to complain about it" which is very different. So, the issue is more one of validity or of whether you can expect anyone to listen or care, rather than of your basic rights.
My point is simply that if one agrees to take a job then they have to be prepared to take whatever is
normally expected to come with it. And, when it comes to playing music for money, that
normally means playing what the audience wants to hear, not just what you want to play. If the two are the same, then thats great. But if sometimes they aren't then you should either not necessarily expect to get paid to play "your" music or find some other way to make a living. There are always choices.
You said "I needed the money at the time and didn't have any other option." but there are always other options. You could always have taken some other job. Maybe the only other ones you were qualified for and/or were available at the time didn't pay as much, but if playing "crap songs" was really so horrible you could always have done something else. The real truth probably was that as much as you may have disliked having to play what you did, it must have paid better than the alternatives and/or the alternatives were probably even more distasteful to have to do (I don't know, bussing tables, cleaning toilets, servicing chickenhawks, panhandling or busking on the streets, or even living on welfare). Besides, what would you have done if you didn't even know how to play? Answer: You probably would have been even worse off. So complain if you want to, but you really shouldn't expect a lot of sympathy.
Finally, you questioned what I do myself. That is a valid question. I'm fortunate enough to work in an area that I generally enjoy, but even then there are times when some of my work is rather mundane and boring. Do I take orders unquestioningly? I may question how to better understand what I'm expected to do or even
briefly WHY I have to do it or do it that way if they don't seem to make any sense. But ultimately if that is what my employer wants me to do (and it is not something illegal, unethical or outside the scope of my
normally expected duties) I do whatever I'm paid to do whether I think it makes the most sense or is the wisest course for my employer or not. I feel as long as I have voiced my concerns and/or provided my professional advice (which are really both rather different from "complaining" any way), then I've done my duty to my employer but ultimately THEY are the boss because THEY are paying the bills. Was I always so patient and compliant? Not really, I used to have a lot less tolerance for what I saw as the stupidity of others but I have gotten a lot more philosophical about such things in my "old age" and I've found I'm a lot happier for it than I was when I was always butting my head against the wall. Do I still sometimes complain to others about work, marriage or K*ds. Well, I've intentionally avoided the latter two just so I WOULDN'T have anything to complain about there. I'll sometimes briefly complain (to no one really) about little things like we all do (such as when cars in front of me take "forever" to start moving after a traffic light turns green and it changes back before I can get through

), but I'm really not that serious about complaining about things that I can't really change or control and I certainly no longer let such things stress me out. I always try to live the Serenity Prayer and that has served me well. And, as for work, while I sometimes may grouse a little, or get a little stressed out or fatigued by it, that is about as far as it goes, because ultimately I can appreciate how comparatively very lucky I am even to be able to do the things I do and get paid relatively well for it, ESPECIALLY after having traveled so much in 3rd world countries throughout Central America, the Caribbean (especially Haiti) and the Far East wher most people are nowhere near that fortunate.