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I agree with this!

Women in the US aren't what they used to be - kitchen bound, baby bound and uneducated so don't blame them for having high standards is my thinking.

Of course I wish they'd just let me introduction myself and take them home for a good time, but that isn't real life, that's a dream.

Well, I will have to find some reason to get there for some fine, um, meat

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LittleKing...interesting views and experiences. I think the key in what you had with the Peru beauties was...you were their "friend". Once you are a woman's "friend"...you are no longer in the "game" for her. Women seem to want SOME men as friends, and others...often "bad boys"...for lovers. Its a control or be controlled thing. Many women have gay men as friends that they can bitch to about how their boyfriends are treating them. It's all quite confusing really.

Quite honestly, I have had many women...and attractive ones...as friends that I have never crossed the line with. They have taught me a lot about women that I would never have learned trying to get in their pants and playing the game or hunting them. So...I always had romance girls and friend girls. It all works out actually in learning to relate to women. This was on the gringa side of life. Now living in latina land...it is more difficult being "friends" with a girl...because they tend not to want male "friends" if they are hetero. They are more sex driven in my opinion...and very competitive with other women. Thats why here you will get looks from women more when you are with another woman than if you are solo or with some buds. Go figure...

Psychman...come to Panama with a healthy appetite ...

I have to say, what a mature and reasoned thread so far, and I totally agree with the notion that there's a subtle (or not so subtle) angry blame game that women are the source of one's problems in life (which for the most part, but not always, is bullshit). Actually refreshing to hear that pointed out.

I had 'nice guy' problems much of my life, women wanted to be my friend, and I just didn't have bad boy stuff inside me or was angry enough in life to have that kind of energy. Perhaps I was also too good in science and math!

But as I got older, doing a lot of work on myself, I noticed that my attractive quotient improved considerably, and the women showed up in my bed, though I don't consider myself un guapo by any means. And as all men get older, the available pool of women seems to grow profoundly. I know so many single women in their 30s-50s, and they're looking hard and very frustrated. Some have given up, resigned to a life of hanging out with their cats. After playing the bad boy game for a while, women realize that a reasonably sane and balanced hombre is what they want, and that commodity becomes their sought after prize. (of course, this applies to gringas, IMO, poor Latinas are often looking for a way out of some dire poverty, and gingos can be that door).

The original post reminds me of Back To The Future...Buff may get the girls in high school, but the good guy McFlys end up on top, and the bad boys end up detailing their car. Or as they say, 'the geeks shall inherit the earth''.

As for this former nice guy, mongering has blossomed in me a kind of bad boy thing (just be the naturing of mongering itself), and I can say that just about all of my sexual longings and fantasies have been realized. And I don't think many bad boys can say that - the reason IMO is that good guys, generally speaking, generate good karma and good results in life, and are generally speaking, more prosperous, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially. And the finance part makes those trips to monger destinations quite easy. Good guys just have a slower growth curve. I'll take my life over banging some chick in high school any day.

HERE HERE Philo. Great post and I think very true. Whether it comes to sex, money/career, or meaning in life...I'd rather peak in my 50s than in my 20s . I have met retired sports stars for example who have no clue what to do next in life once their stardom is in the past. And when it comes to romance, too many people only look to the past and have given up on the present or future.

I think nice guys in the LONG run finish on top though at times early in life it can seem very unfair.

Philo, great post. I know a lot of guys hate there 40s big time!
I not one. 40s are great to me...

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I concur. The 40's have been better to me than my 30's or 20's (or college years for that matter)! Thanks to CR!

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