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I'm 36 and have been single my whole life and no K*ds. Whenever I think out loud in front of married men they always tell me the same thing. "Damn, you are luck. Don't ever get married. Believe me, stay single."

For whatever reasons in the last two years I've been open to the idea of getting married and having Ch*ldren. I've had lots of fun hanging out, chasing girls and never really was involved in a LTR with any of the girls I've been with in the past. I don't know why my feelings have changed, but I would like to meet a girl I can settle down with... I have yet to meet that girl. It seems to me that I get bored with women pretty quick. In the past, the girls that I've met usually like that I'm very open-minded and know how to have a good time, but then they find out they can't control me and i get bored with them that the realationship never last very long.

I don't know what to do!!!

Solamente…love the peanuts-airplane analogy…and I admired your post for it’s non-cynical attitude toward monogamy…you sound like a guy whose been through some wars yet has managed to overcome the natural tendency toward bitterness and cynicism…and learned to respect the enemy…and now have won some clarity as to your own limits and possible terms of engagement.

Traylor Park…Your post surprised me…in those of your posts I could remember I got a (vague) impression of you as someone totally sure of himself and totally cynical…this post of yours seems tender and honest…wow…it’s cool when that shows up on this board…I’d say to you read Solamente’s post and take that attitude toward marriage…it’s a possible but difficult thing…understanding that upfront might give you your best shot going forward in that direction…you also may be able to negotiate a non-monogamous marriage…there are websites about that…again, a possible but difficult thing...but there have been posts here about guys mongering with their wives…weird to me…but the point is that marriage can be something you make up…not a yoke to be accepted.

What strikes me as the key to your post is the desire you expressed to have Ch*ldren. If after soul-searching that’s what you want then the woman you want to marry will be one that you can partner with on a family and what marks a woman is do-able is gonna have to shift…the feelings you have for her might have more to do with admiration than desire…she’ll have her shit together and she won’t need you like a lot of chicas you’re probably dealing with now need you…but she’ll also need a partner…and she’ll understand that partners in a common enterprise go through stresses and become antagonistic…you’ll both have to figure out a way to deal with that…I’d say discuss everything with her, eventually, your past, your attitude and possible attitude toward marriage and sex…negotiating a prenuptial agreement can be a great help to clarifying what you and she are about, something that strengthens the relationship if it doesn’t destroy it…also spend time with K*ds and read about being a parent so you have better information to see if you can decide if a starker sex life is worth a richer family life. A lot of men have made that decision and don’t regret it--despite what they might say on a guys night to single brothers..

Decided recently that I want to have a K*D.. maybe not the traditional thing. I keep telling my friends that I'm gonna have a hijo in the next year to year and a half. No matter the relationship with the mother, I will always take care of my K*D.

Why buy the cow when you can milk her through the fence?

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I don't pay chicas to spend time with me. I pay chicas to not spend time with me afterward.

EXACTLY!! They have their problems we have ours & I go to CR to solve one of my problems not to create new ones!

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"Run silent, run deep"
Spunk glazed Chicas are the building blocks of the universe!

TP and TW ... thats what I found ... I am 35 and had a lot of fun messing around ... just it wasnt what I wanted ... I want the K*D, the little league etc

But heck little league here in CR is waking at 7am Saturdays for soccer

Get ready to hear a response to our male, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"

From female friends on opposite sides of the country, I heard this retort.

"Why buy the whole pig when all you need is a big sausage"


We need to start now with our responses to this new "Battle of the Sexes" war cry.

You was it that said, the battle of the sexes will never be won because there is too much fraternization with the enemy

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69 isn't just a number, it's a way of life

I'm great with K*ds.

Have been around them my whole life, growing up my mom always babysat the neighborhood K*ds. I watched a lot of the K*ds in the neighborhood grow up.

It's depressing sometimes whenever I find myself sitting in a bar next to someone my mom took care of when they were Babi*s. I feel so old.

My nieces and nephews love spending time with me. I take them to the theatre, movies, restaurants, art fairs, museums and as many summer activites the city of Chicago has to offer.

Anyways, I've been thinking about the whole "baby" thing for some time now and don't really want to get married so I can have K*ds. It's difficult finding a good women, especially in the states.

I've met a lot of nice young Ticas but none of them want to move to the US. They want me to move to CR. I've thought about it but the truth is financially it's not feasible at this time. Unless I win the lotto.. yeah right!!

I always thought about adopting a K*D if I ever got married, only after having my own K*ds. But that does not look like it's going to happen. The trips to CR don't help beacause it's easy to loose focus in the land of good and plenty.

Thirdworld, i feel the same way about the K*ds withot the whole traditonal realationship and pregnancy. I would like to have K*ds within the next couple of years. I'm not getting any younger!!!

We'll see how I think after having a chica with a two year old in the house for a couple of days.

If gringas had this attitude there would be no need to go to CR! One can dream!

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I don't pay chicas to spend time with me. I pay chicas to not spend time with me afterward.