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I propose a shift in attitude, that may make the process more enjoyable.

I see the (almost) inevitable request for more money as the price of getting these great GFE relationships.
NOTE: I did not say paying them, but tolerating the request from them.

I make a game out of developing ever more tactful ways of saying no or just delaying my response.

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It is cheaper to pay now and get it over with.
It is also easier to get them to leave.

allright now, update on the tica. i think im in love. she is pokito enferme today. but she's going to church anyway with her bambinos. she told me the restaurant i went to is tico, not argentinian, and it's called la casona, i think, or la casoda. something like that. she's awesome

To be young again, and dream. Jag it's your life, you have to live it. You have gotton great advice. Pro's and Con's. I'll throw my two cents in. Frist I know alot of the guys will talk about the culture thing. It's true but only alittle with any Americian. We are talking about Americian's, North, South, or central. I allways think it is funny to hear all the others dog the Mexican's because they are north like us. But there is the Spanish thing. And the climate thing. The spanish thing is that when a spanish girl works it is Her money, The man pays the bills. The climate thing is the whole world that lives along the equator is not real industrius. I have enough for today, why work more. I can tell you from experince that after they live in the states they become gringa's. And there ain't a damm thing anybody can do about that. They do like to make baby's, So! if you want alot of K*ds marry a spanish catholic girl. But you have to raise them, Here or there. Many of the guys talk about working girls and are they pro's or semi pro's.

I personely think that some women all over the world are alittle more like us men than others. They like to have sex. Enjoy it, Can't see why they should'nt try lots of differnt fruit. But all women at puberty figure out they got it, and men will kill for it, These are truths. And another truth is when they get to 35 to 45 Wow the urge goes away. It ain't the same with us. Now some of us will not admitt that we have our own mid life crisis. But we do. So, Your in love with an americain girl and you don't want to get hurt?

Love Hurts. You've never heard the song?

Great post and great replies. Been a long time since Jag posted last.

What happened with his novia?

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In my opinion you guys are being way too lax with this fool. He needs someone to smack some sense into him and and do it very quickly. He is getting played perfectly and will be sending this girl money which is very dumb.

Jag , all advice are pointing to an unfavorable outcome, so whatever you want to persue, make sure you can afford to lose be it your time, $, or your romantic heart, should the tica turns out to be really playing you.

A novia will never bed you for $ or ask you for colones for her time. Hope you will proceed with caution.

Compare to a friend of mine, your loss so far is minute.

He, thrity something and single, went to SJ last year and hooked up with one flacca (sp ? ) tica who works the usual bm routine. He fell for her , then did the usual shopping...etc. Flew back to Canada and sent her a computer for emailing. Sent $, chic asked for more. Dude flew back to sjo again, bought her furntitures and was stupid enough to give her a spousal credit card. ( you seasoned pro should be laughing by now )

Fast forward... he flew back home and eventually found out that the tica in fact sold all the furnitures that he bought right after he left. Sold the Pc as well, made up some lame excuse yadadee, yadada.... and not to mention the bill that she rang up on the cc.

Now, that tica has told him that she has a sister working in Canada, and he did managed to geta hold of the sister. The only advice the sister gave him was : cut the fu cking cc and stop sending any money. Pertty honest and helpful advice , and I was surprised that the sister had the good heart to say the right thing , I must say. All his buddies told him to forget about the tica and cut the loss before it's too deep.

And what did he do? He turned around and flew to sjo, along with a bloody 5000 CAD diamond engagement ring ! You folks must be shitting your pants from laughing now.

So, did the whole boy meets tica work out in the end ? Fu ck no

I am not saying that this kind of connection never happens but my point is, Jag , just be careful if you decide to fall for it.

And IMO, never send $ to a working tica .

Jag;

Learn your lesson, read these replies and chalk it up as experience.

It's funny how some people say we are being too easy on you. These are some of the same guys who have been burned, but won't admit it.

One thing is correct for sure. Anytime pay for play is involved, it is business, enjoy it for what is is, a business transaction.

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Dogman, love your mongering BCS ratings, been to MDE a couple of times, PM me lets discuss MDE.
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Almost legally single again! Voy a Colombia otra vece!!

hey fellows just joined am still with tsm also,,reading some of your posts believe there all players been running s and c america since 94 col eq pan cr had intro serv till 00 the one that thought he found his goddes wow ! let your litte head have all the fun it can handle keep your big head in check it's all a game and they know how to play better than we do keep tight grip on your wallet after 11 years i could tell you stories you wouldn't believe play have fun leave it at that!!!!

Great thread! The Vegas Bob prescription is right -- only when you're getting variety can you think clearly about anyone being "special" for you. (And only then, would she have to think about what she really wants to give you.)

Then when you actually think about it, you realize that you're doing all the heavy emotional lifting -- making up the whole story for yourself -- and she's just along for the ride. I've had the benefit of one being very honest with me, so I could just see me doing it to myself, as I go through the learning curve of shifting from GringaWorld to LatinaLand. Yes, it's a better scene overall, but no slamdunk!

We come out of this desert land where we are conditioned to expect you have to make a whole big deal out of any great chemistry you find with some chica, and freeze the picture right there, and make her into "The One." Hey, we grew up in that, and mostly never had a chance to "play the field" around home.

But until you're sure she's really one the same page, you're just deluding yourself; and usually, she isn't. The sooner you can see it through her eyes, the better, and fairer, too. It's not evil -- it's just a different world they are surviving in, and we're just visiting it, for a few days at a time. Respect that.

Jag's

For me this translates to 4th down & time to PUNT! NEXT!!

Jag,

I agree with the most of the posts. You weren't played, but you BOTH were playing the game. I have one that I talk to regularly. My buddy and her chica friends actually tell me that she is truly in love with moe. However, it all eventually comes down to her asking me for money in the end. She is a semi-pro. She has a very hard life and looks to me like a life raft. I tell her that I'll give her money when I'm down there (after mucho sexo, ofcourse). I just can't send money all the time from the US.

FYI... Her RFMs are always real. Her baby has a cold... turned out to be true. Her plumbing is broken... turned out to be true. However, I always tell her that the only way to guarantee support from me is through marriage. I know that is what she really wants... tells me all the time.

However, that is impossible for me now as I live in the states. Don't send money until you are in CR. Tell her you care... but shit... how long have you been with her? If it's only one trip, I'd hold her on a line. After multiple trips, and continuous great times, maybe she does like you.

JAG,

This is a late response and I don't know if you're still reading the board or not, but from what you've posted here it makes me worry about you and how you interact with women in general.

To me you seem to be the typical "nice guy". You think that if you keep on giving and giving to women they'll respond with effection and love. I'm going to give you a little home work assignment. I want you to observe the relationships of the most successful, attractive and intelligent women you know. What are their significant others like? Do their husbands or boyfriends shower them with lavish gifts and money, or do they make them work for every reward that comes their way? In turn, I want you to examine the romantic lives of the guys you know who treat women like gods rather than human beings. How are their romantic lives going? You're going to find that the guys who provide the women in their lives with challenge and mystery do much better than those who lay all their cards out on the table and constantly come running with heart and wallet open at a woman's beck and call.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where too much political correctness has taught men to go through life essentially without a spine. The result is that both sexes are frustrated. Women complain about there being no good men in the dating pool and men complain that all the women they like end up dating assholes.

I bring this up because no matter where you go, be it in the west or in the east, women are women... and the bottom line is that they WILL NOT respond romantically to a man who acts like he has no spine. They may use you for everything they can get out of you, but in the end they will end up with a guy who is capable of exciting them and challenging them and making them feel like a woman.

If this lady really likes you, then she will like you whether you are spending a ton of money on her or not. In fact, if she really does like you, then she'll respect and like you more for standing up for yourself and drawing lines that you will not cross.

I fear that if you'll fall all over yourself for a woman in Costa Rica you pretty much do the same thing for women in your home country and it needs to stop. I'm going to recomend a book for you. You can order it from amazon.com and any guy who is successful with women knows that this is the bible of books on how to be successful with women. Please invest a little money and buy this book. It'll be the start of a much happier life for you and the women you interact with:



http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0735200300/qid=1134889271/sr=8-1/ref=pd_bbs_1/102-5592956-9664134?n=507846&s=books&v=glance

Great post WebBew,
Not sure whatever happened to Jag, but you're right on target, it took me a long time to realize nice guys finish last or not at all when it comes to women. My first couple trips to CR were "pitiful" as KingCosta put it, the chicas were playing me along and will spot and move in on us "newbie nice guys" like sharks. In fact he was the one that got me started on the right path of taking charge, and told me "he with the dinero makes the rules."
I got some similar reading material that changed my behavior with women, and since I consider my time with the chicas "mini relationships" was able to test some of the techniques last trip with them and the results were surprising. Just some simple changes in my atittude and behavior had them pursuing me, I'll never kiss another woman's ass again or let her emotional games control things. One of the big revelations I learned is when women start to act up with the "drama" early in a relationship- they are testing our manhood, much like a 2 year old tests the boundaries of his/her parents. Are you going to cave in and freak out (like most guys) or stand firm and let her know you won't play into her games? Women want a man in control. Simple.

Well, you might say maybe all this doesn't apply to what we do in CR, but for me it does and is a great place to practice with the mini-relationships. I still see guys down there doing everything wrong-sending money, buying expensive gifts, kissing up to them, not being a man in charge, not making simple decisions, chicas see those guys as WEAK and will just take advantage of them. I know one guy that even bought a chica a car and for all his effort was nothing more than a sucker to her.
Anyway thought I'd chime in, JazzMusician discusses this topic quite a bit also and his successes with it.

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Well how about on update. I haven't checked this board in quite some time. I was actually searching through to see if anyone has experience with sending valuables through the mail to CR?


My tica is doing well. I haven't given her much. I did give her $100 about 5 months ago, but that's about it. However, I've made what I'm sure some of you will call a "big mistake." i bought her a laptop.

It's older and i got it off of a friend so it wasn't so expensive $400. But it will do the job when it comes to email/internet/chat/etc.

But how to send it to her? UPS says that CR does not accept "personal effects" which this laptop would categorized as.

Any legal way around this?


In any case, i talk with my tica almost everyday on the phone. and I plan to go see her soon.