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This interesting discussion provides me with more reasons to stick with
my solo approach to mongering. But not always in the past. I used
to hang out with a group in Canada, and one night I made the mistake
of asking one of the ladies for her phone number. It turned out
that she was on a "date" with one guy in the troop. Later I found out
that the guy was offended, and for a little while I had trouble
understanding why. My frame of reference was that she was
a working girl who was going to see lots of different guys in the
future. His frame of reference was that this was a date where the
usual rules of a date should prevail. I interfered with his fantasy,
and in retrospect I regret it.

We male humans are fascinating animals. On the one hand, we
are absolutely driven to compete with each other, deeply and
biologically, when it comes to sex with women. On the other hand,
running with a pack of dogs who help each other out and share
info and make us laugh is great fun. My tentative solution is to
run with the pack of dogs at work and in the nieghborhood but to
monger as a lone wolf whose only code is to stay away from
a pair in negotiations and to expect the same. I don't want to be
sitting around wondering if a guy has real feelings for the "favorita"
who wants work or whether he just wants to top-dog cock-block
every other drooling mutt in the room.

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Nice point Toledoguy ....

1 more thing .... Each guy does X women per week on average .... although there are a lot of gals there will be overlap.

Marking territory doesnt seem to apply, does it.

One thing I did was to be cordial to other CRTers (and others) but only hang out and shoot the crap with guys I get to know and like.

A few CRTers are nice enough in their own right but not folks I want to hang with as they have demonstrated this type of behavior.

Now before the bashing begins, I am not being elitist ... I think we are all men and can choose to hang with whom we please. Being part of this site is great, but does not glue all of us to each others hips.

On that note, hang with folks you know share similar approaches .... and if some other guys dont want to hang with you ... respect their decision ... I am sure several guys dont like hanging with me ...

my 2 cents worth...

when dealing with one's favorita or "novia" ...

If he is a friend, ask.

If not a friend, when she is "released" to the working pool(Gosh, like that phrase too!) she is fair game.

discretion & good taste is always a class act

PIDD

Most of my friends and I have always maintained a " non- cross pollinating policy". Then there is no chance of misunderstanding, and if you can't find another fish in a fully stocked trout pond--you are one lame mofo

Agree. I simply don't actively dip into other's bowl if I am not too sure about the situations. BUT, if the chica grabs my little danny and says " vamos papi, vamos," then what am I to do ?

Maybe I'm old fashioned, or transferring acquired ethics into my current mongering practices, but to me, the relations that I have with my friends is infinately more valuable than some whore grabbing mi pinga, especially when we are taling about thousands of available whores out there. Now, I am not saying that I have never shared chicas, however this situation had been based upon pre-established arrangements

It seems to me that being a little proactive can take care of the problem before it even becomes one, 95% of the time, at least as far as the guys you're with are concerned. before the action even gets started, when you sit down in the bar, ask the guys you're with if they have any particular interest in a favorita there. You know where you stand right off the bat, and can avoid these kinds of complications. of course, there are sometimes late-comers/new entries, and you can't avoid that, but it should be a low percentage thing. I doubt that most of the time most guys you choose to sit with will try to segregate strangers out of the herd, if you're a friendly enough group.As for your behaviour towards others not in your immediate group, common sense and common courtesy prevails.

Hell when it comes to P4P women what the heck I don't mind criss crossing pollination at all it is fun to compare notes if your buds don't BS too much & tell the truth about what they got out of it. It is a sport & fun game nothing else & after all most my friends have their heads screwed on straight about screwing p-ladies anyway the more the merrier too me. I can be really crazy about one but since she is working in this p-lady arena she is everybody’s girl from what I see. If one wants one for them self take her out of the pollination pool & pay that price???

Maybe I am different & have what I want in life & am a very happy guy? The first thing I do went I find a great one is tell my buds you got to do this one. I don't hang with insecure guys that are jealous phucked-up types anyway that are so disillusioned about things they think some p-lady is his gal?????? The way I see it they are all of our gals & the Chica makes the final decision who she will go with & I accept that as the final word in most of this & that guy generally is the highest bidder that she trusts. Chicas decision making is different in the P4P arena than in the real dating arena. After all they are working & not looking to fall in love.

One huge thing in the P4P area is do they feel comfortable with you & trust you are not some psycho & a clean guy & not how handsome you are & of course who pays them enough without hassles. In the real dating game sure they want the normal things any girl wants & will put up with more to be with who they want to be with or who they percieve as cool.

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Fellas,
I apologize if I repeat anything already said, but I didn't get a chance to read all the previous posts on this, I just got back from work. I was at the hospital after work, my brother had a baby girl. I'm an uncle. (Sorry, had to share, I pretty psyched right now)

The first part... I think if the guy can't see her that night, she becomes fair game, but out of respect, it would only seem right to talk with the guy first before ever approaching her. And definitely don't flaunt her in front of him. I have never been in that position, so I don't know what I'd do.

The second part... and this actually happened to me in October. A bunch of us were sitting at the BM one night and I was sitting and talking with a chica who was sitting with her amigas at the adjacent table, but had her hand on my leg. This drunk idiot comes over to their table and starts talking to one of her amigas, then turns to her and tries to engage her in conversation. He was incoherent but I yelled something at him. I was irked and was about to do something about it, but I think he realized what was going on and walked away. I don't know what I'd do in that situation since he was piss drunk. If he'd been sober, that's 1 warning and if it continues, he's basically asking for a beat-down. To me it clearly shows a total lack of respect, especially after being warned. Look, sometimes it may not be clear that a guy is talking to a chica (maybe he walked away to get drinks, whatever it may be), you're allowed a mistake. But after a warning, if the guy persists, that's going too far. As far as eye phucking a chica... if all you are doing is looking at a chica and she looks back and ignores the guy she's talking with, I don't have a problem with that, it's fair game. Now if he starts talking to her or motions her over or anything, that's not right. Again, shows a lack of respect for the guy. And no warning there, as it should be pretty clear that she's talking business with another guy. And it doesn't matter whether he's a CRT brother or not. If anybody expects all guys to avoid eye contact with chicas just because they're talking with them, I think that's pretty unrealistic. Personally, if a chica that I'm talking to is not focused on me while in my company, let her go. I don't really want her.

Many of the posts state: Why poach if there are so much
free-range game? But how about situations where the ratio of
guys to ladies is very high, for example, at the Sportsman's bar
during a football game? I was there in November, and a lady
at the bar who was sitting next to and talking with a gent (but there
were lots of guy with him at the bar and near-by tables) was eye-
phucking me. I happened to be exhausted after a trip to Zona Blue,
so I did not have my usual interest. But the question is: Was she fair
game? I am sure she would have come over to my table if I had smiled
or made an arm motion. Would this have been an unethical or
inappropriate intrusion? Should I have talked with this stranger at the bar
to get his OK?

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Too much competition will just drive the prices up!

Im sure I could find another one to satisfy me for the night. However, If she has rejoined the workforce (or you are playing hard to get) she is fair game IMO. Its really her decision anyway.

Surfdog

P.S. stop screwing all my damn favorita's

that's right

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VB for me the golden rule is, do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.

In the situations you described I can not think of any other rule.

In my opinion, yes, it would be inappropriate. I would never interrupt an ongoing "negotiation". Now, if she comes over on her own, that's a different story. If the guy had a problem with it, all you say is "She came over on her own".

This is a tough one! There will always be a grey line on this. I will give several examples:

1. I have a friend who spent a week with a girl (who I introduced to him). As we were leaving from Rio, he told her he did not wanted her to be with anyone one of his friends. She accepted ( i bet she is laughing at him) and they kissed. I have been messing with him that I am going to take her as soon as I see her. He really does not like this, but it is fun to pull his chain.

2. I have been in situations where I am with a girl, and a guy comes and offers her X amount more than I am paying her. Some times, the girl has stayed, some times they have left with the higher bidder.

3. I have once (in CR) seen a girl I liked talking with a guy and approached her. I did not offer her more $$ r anything. Just introduced myself and invited her for a drink. She accepted and we ended up spending three days together.

Now, I believe there is a fine line to walk here. The circumstances can be way too complicated to judge. I always (excpet the one time in CR) leave girls alone when they are trying to cut a deal with a client. I highlight cut a deal, because they are working and i respect that. If a deal is not cut, or a guy cannot make up his mind, to me the girl is fair game.