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Question for y'all...

While browsing the boards I come across a plethora of post regarding phat gringas and how truly worthless they have become... I completely agree. And a lot of you celebrate this so-called hobbie of yours, expounding on how great it is to meet these beautiful latin women who are much different than what we're familiar with... anyways what I don't understand are the post which focus on how these "g*rls" are working every angle to get a green card. Someone posted "NO GREEN CARD" from me. Well from I gather there are a lot of older members here on this site. Some divorced, twice, and now looking for a better life after serving 15, 20, 35 or so prison terms. I've never been married, but if I was up in age and wanted to settle down with a fine women who would be more than happy to take care of me in my home, in my own country then I would have to seriously consider marrying a special g*rl from CR.
You get what you want, she gets what she wants... everyone wants something, right? And I have to at least respect someone who is ambitious enough to want to better their lives. Isn't that why everyone comes to America? We're all immigrants to this great country... we usually forget our true origins. Back to the topic. Why not marry a beautiful young outgoing g*rl, sign a prenup, hide whatever it is you think she might want to take away from you if things don't work out, and enjoy the latter years of your life. I'm not just talking about marrying the hottest g*rl, I'm talking about putting in the effort getting to know someone who seeks a better oppurtunity in life, besides the one they were dealt with.
The one thing that really impressed me was how many American men spoke fluent Spanish in CR. I know that a lot of you only know a word or two, that can be the biggest hurdle in trying to find the right girl for you. Sex is easy to get in CR, finding someone you can build something with is altogether different. If you want to learn Spanish, I have a great suggestion... why not volunteer to teach English in CR, when you do they offer you free classes in Spanish. It's something I'm considering doing next year. I can help ch*ldren learn English, while learning true CR spanish.
How do you guys feel about marrying a Tica for a green card? I'm not talking about finding a soulmate type of thing, which I find hard to accept that there is someone special out there for you. In fact, I haven't really met anyone in my life that's truly "special." We're all humans, no one is perfect. No matter what your emotions trick you into thinking. Think about the one g*rl that you were crazy about at one point in your life... where is she at now? Do you even care? Who cares? I look back and think what the ph*ck was I ever thinking. I was ready to give my life completely to this crazy, self-obsorbed, shallow, selfish, and not to attractive to boot b*tch.... I don't know what I was thinking but it was my emotions doing most of the damage, it was out of control. But thank god, I didn't marry her... my life would have been over. She had nothing to offer. Now these Ticas, you have to love 'em. If I was 50 years old, I'd marry a 20something Tica, hope it works for five years or so, she's happy to get the green card. I'm happy to have a beautiful Tica at home taking care of me and my needs. And after five years, if she wants to leave... I say thanks for the memories then I would book a flight to CR and find me a new younger Tica. Just make sure to hide whatever it is you think you want to keep. To me I don't have much, but I have a lot to offer... something that is not materialistic in nature. Lots of love and compassion, understanding and I love trying out new and different things. Getting old doesn't seems to bad after all. You know what I'm saying. Okay I'm rambling.... i'm out. Think about it. Life is good.

I think you're a little confused about what she and you want...at least now I'm confused.
There's a lot to learn from this old long ass thread if you care to read it- https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=1957
Not everyone longs to come to the states TP, in fact most Ticas do NOT want to come to the US, and if you're seriously considering latina wife material - Colombia would be a better place to start.

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Also, most don't want to better their life, they want YOU to better their life and in the long run for what it takes for you to better her life it isn't worth what you are getting out of it (sex.... little companionship if she is sane). I've 'sort of' been down this road and have learned a lot and glad I took the detour back to reality.

PacoLoco,
Great link... I sat here and read thru all the post. It's funny but no matter what someone says or does to help you out of the "state of illusion" nothing works until you fall deep into the hole. I'm glad I found this site before my first trip. But what's interesting is that I spend more time here now then I did before my first trip to CR. I browsed in the past, now I'm stopping to read everthing carefully, helping me get back into the real world. That was a great thread, required reading for all newbies, and members alike.

Short, sweet and to the point. And ever so true. Good post.

dapanz1

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TP I have thought about this same question before I got to spend more time in CR and what was said above is very true most don't want to live in the states and most want you to better their life. Also I believe that most of the post about not marrying a tica for a green card is for the girls that work. It is kind of sad when a girl enters this profession because once the do they can never go back to being normal it changes their brain waves. That’s just my two cents.

Question- If I met a tica I liked and just wanted to spend more time with could I have her visit here for a week, a month, whatever? I mean, it seems better than to use up vacation time trying to see her. After a few weeks I might see the light anyway and "pay her to leave".

FWIW, I have a friend that married a young girl from Russia(I believe). He met her while traveling there. He brings her back, they get married, have a couple K*ds, she becomes a total Bitch and files for divorce. I don't know exactly the circumstances but remember, she comes here without a single thing, right? She ends up getting the house, almost $4,000.00 a month after taxes, he has to pay legal fees. She actually ends up awarded more because her attorney argued she gave up the opportunity to make herself more valuable in the workplace to have his K*ds, that having his K*ds had an impact on her viability in the marketplace and he should be required to pay for that- in effect, the judge agreed she lost out on the American Dream even though she had nothing in Russia. This guy was so broke during this process he had to borrow a lot of money and eventually went to jail for nonpayment. It cost him almost a hundred thousand I think. Though he is an attorney I happen to know he's not a wealthy attorney. It's not at all like he accumulated millions while they were married.. He makes about $100k a year. The moral of the story for me is, seek competant counsel from experienced divorce attorneys and estate protection attorneys before you do anything that gives her a foothold under US Law.

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It is extremely difficult for a Tica to get a tourist visa to the United States.

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Do you know why? Is that our government restricting or theirs? I don't want to be political but it strikes me as nonsense since we have plenty of uninvited guests. I would think a limited stay with a "sponsor" would be easy enough with a little time and effort but it sounds like they don't see it my way.

CR citizens need to demonstrate a source of income (or personal wealth) and a permanent tie to Costa Rica; they don't want people entering on a tourist visa and then deciding to stay in the US. If you can demonstrate these two things, it's not that difficult. Working girl might not be the profession the US embassy fast tracks for tourist visas.

Uncle Sam has enough history that an unacceptable percentage of 'tourists' from CR stay and hide in the USA.
The bar is set fairly high, to get a tourist visa.
Typically a visitor from CR must own property in CR, and have enough assets to keep them from becoming an illegal alien visitor.

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It is cheaper to pay now and get it over with.
It is also easier to get them to leave.

I think you are dead on, but I want to clarify one point. You are talking about hooking up with a "non-professional" than I would agree 100%. The other point about having to speak Spanish is true as well as you will never be able to form a strong emotional bond if you can't communicate.
Anyway, you just about summed up my long term plan as I dated 3 women from CR & Panama, and two of the 3 would have made fine wifes. One final caution, discourage her from having Gringa friends or she will eventually morph into a Gringa.

Statistically, the marriage will last just over 3 years.
There is lots of documentation on this.
Check it out.

At that point she gets to stay in the US, with family, and go after your assets.
Is it worth all that for 3 years of company.

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It is cheaper to pay now and get it over with.
It is also easier to get them to leave.

I agree T&V this is one of those plans easy to blurt out but when you break it down it is really stupid I believe. Number one women are not logical & more fickle than anything else. You go into this thinking they will play along as it is a reasonable plan that helps both but what really happens (unless she really likes you???) is her demands will max you out & her performance will spin down only leaving you with how could I have done this to myself. In the end you lose all the way around. This Latina now gets costly not only with money but time & trouble.

Keep it clean & stress free just be a Love em & Leave em guy much safer less worries & better consistant performance as they can only act so long & once the acting is over the pain begins!

TimBones, do you think that the non-gringa friends are gonna be any better? Those are the ones who will be teaching her "how to dry the gringo" game, and no in a way you'll enjoy it!