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Dave,

I ultimately agree with you. I detect that you feel pretty strongly about this. Fair enough.

I also agree with your most recent post.
the problem I have is one that others may also have:
Wise enough to know better, Stupid enough to do it anyway.

I absolutely would not trust myself to do the "right thing", because I know myself too well. I hope one day this will improve in the direction you support.

peace brother

KS

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check yourself before you wreck yourself

I was confronted with the charms of another man's wife very recently. I didn't succumb, but I wrote her an e-mail that her husband, at that time my best friend saw.

She was a stripper. Hot, blonde, legs up to her ears and the prettiest snatch I had ever seen (I had eyesight then). She even posed for hot photos, I ran the 35mm. camera while her husband shot the video. Fun and games.

However, on a couple different occasions when her husband was out-of-town on business, she came onto me rather hard. she dressed in next to nothing, did a lot of little touching games, vividly described her sexual habits and proclivities. In short, she set out deliberately to tempt and entice me.

Now, I never touched her. Not even once. However, I sent her a rather offensive e-mail, in which I berated her for acting like a prick-teasing slut.

I haven't spoken to my former best friend to this day, even though he lives a scant four blocks from me. Sometimes it doesn't even take actual sex to screw things up, and sometimes it doesn't even have to be "sneaking" around to do damage.

I think the bottom line is this: It's wrong if it's dishonest. Would I allow my wife to ball someone else? Yes, with my permission, because I still fill the role of protector for her, not because I "own" her. Would it bother me later? I don't know, as we've never crossed that bridge.

Another point: Most of us (male and female) would tolerate love between our partners and another person. Some of us would even tolerate sex between our partner and another. None of us would ever tolerate both.

Having been with the same, wonderful woman for 23 years, I can tell you that Dave is right when he says that we do what we do not to destroy the marriage, but to keep our lives and sanity healthy, thus helping preserve the marriage.

Higgamus-piggamus, man is polygamous. We're fertile 24/7, compared to females fertility cycle of perhaps 5 days per month. This in itself explains a lot.

Do I parade my sexploits in front of my wife? No, that would be hurtful. But being male and needing sex to preserve my health and mental stability, will I occasionally enjoy sex with someone whom I will never "love?"

Damn right I will.

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Pura Vulva! Wandering through the dark, I am El Ciego.

Zip, very contradictory statement. IF it were pure joy..worry and risk would not even be a factor.

dapanz1

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Paradise= Sitting outside the Bodega in Panama City about 1 am. Drinking cool Balboas with cool friends and blazin' hot Colombianas. I want to be there..RIGHT NOW!

El Ciego,

Great job resisting. What you say above is hitting the nail right on the head. My wife and I discuss this every now and then and her belief is exactly what you stated. You can love a person for the person that they are. You can have sex with a person purely for sex. Putting them together is basically replacing your old relationship with the new.

Have a Great Day,

Dave

a moment of clarity....

I dated a girl from Brazil last year, 28 years old, not a 10 but cute...she is a virgin, saving herself for marriage, and I have no doubt it was true.
Truly a rare girl. Christian girl. And she is totally in love with me, marriage, forever, etc...
So at one point, I find myself naked with her, fooling around, she has no idea what she is doing... and she gets to the point of BEGGING me to get inside her... though she is terrified of my unit (average) she wants me so much, never had sex, etc... and believe me fellas, I wanted to be the one to get in there first.... arrgh! I had a woody that would cut diamonds... and she was grabbing it, trying to pull it in... and I did not do it. A girl saving herself at 28 for marriage, and I am not going to ruin it just to bust a nut. So, I went and took care of myself after a bit, crisis passed... and after a week, she flew home to Florida, and I never saw her again.... though I kept in touch... On one hand, I think what a prime moment... the only virgin I will ever bust in my life, naked, BEGGING for it, and I passed....idiot! On the other hand, I felt so good about having done the right thing, and not stolen something that she treasured that way.

So, scumbag that I am, I have had my redeeming moments of doing the "right thing". The only married woman I have been with was in the divorce process, separated, and living elsewhere... but it is still hard as hell to turn down a fine-ass girl who is hot to trot...

BTW I was married for 10 years and never cheated tho I had ample opportunity...and even tho the marriage still ended, I feel good about getting it right in that area...

As a parent I have a responsibility to my sons to stay alive as long as I can, and sleeping in another guy's bed would seriously jeopardize that... maybe I could use that for motivation in SubAtomics shoes... but would not guarantee the wisest choice, based on my track record overall.

To each their own.

KS

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check yourself before you wreck yourself

King Solomon,

I applaud you for what you did or really what you didn't do. You will probably remember having restrained yourself much longer than you ever would have by taking advantage of the situation.

Have a Great Day,

Dave

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Slow down for the Curves...

I dont know what the fuss is all about. I have slept with many married ticas at the BM or massage places. They need the money so who cares. I am just amzaed that you got pu*sy and didnt leave a cleaning fee behind. These girls (latinas) are all business.

I was in a relationship with my first latina from the US who married the guy because he had money but she was lost like this lady. We actually fell in love and there came a point where she was ready to leave him for me (one of the most stressful nights of my life) because even though I cared about her I wasn't about to marry her and I kept thinking in the back of my mind if she cheated on him what makes me think she wouldn't cheat on me?

My advice is to be careful with your emotions and just enjoy her company for as long as you can but realize if there ever comes a time when she says she wants to marry you instead of him , RUN LIKE HELL!

C'mon guys. I just spent some time reading all your posts and opinions and the fact of the matter is, we are all different with multiple levels of knowledge, experiences, tolerance and morals.

What happened to sub atomic can happen to anyone anywhere. The fact that it happened with a Tica was a coincidence. It could have been a gringa.

It is certainly a sensitive situation, but I believe he expressed his thoughts on it in his last post.

He is moving on, and nothing can be done to take back what happened. Would this experience help him in the unlikely event he faces something similar again? Seguro que si.

Saludos a todos!!!