Diego
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We're so used to gringa guilt-tripping here, especially over money, I think we extend our vulnerability to CR, where we go to get away from female head games!
This I have found to be all too true. We are products of conditioning & our conditioning is all screwed up in my opinion in the US. I believe American men to be the most vulnerable kind hearted souls on the planet & they see softies’ cumming a mile away. Ever wonder why they seem to like Gringos above all other men? One thing to help, another to be used & abused. Remember it is a mans world outside the US & you are in pretty much total control as long as you are holding your trump card in your hand (your money). Play it well & don't let them take control by taking your money first.
Sending money to chicas contributes to bad habits & makes a typical lazy person even lazier plus you take away their survival skills that they have learned. You may hurt them more than help, let them find their own way like I had too it will mean more in the end. Many of these Latinas wonder what we are trying to save them from as they enjoy us all including TOM, DICKK & HAIRY!
Here is what several Chicas ask me to do on my last trip.
1. Would you translate all these phone messages from these Gringos on my cell phone. Boy she didn't have to ask twice this was almost as good as the sex with her. I couldn't believe my ears. No less than 5 different Gringo voices, all drunk, all saying they loved her blah,blah,blah. What a joke & I just finished with her & she is giving me her phone # & I didn't even ask for it?? I feel sorry for these guys as they have to be lonely lost souls & I wish them well & good luck they will need it!!
2. Would you sit down with me & help me understand & translate these emails? I am thinking why not these ought to be entertaining & sure enough it was!! She was leaving with me for the evening as was arranged the night before but she had been busy sending out the standard Chica in distress letters to many different players. One bit & she was happy. Her letter said that these men stole everything in her house & got her sons Playstation 2 & her son was crying & crying but don't worry if you can help I won't have to go back to being a sex machine and all the time she is laughing as she is leaving with me. I told her you are terrible but great in bed & away we went. She is allot of fun & She plans to see me next time. Will I send her money? GET REAL I have her email & phone # she is not going to have a contact point back to me. I will call when the need arises.
Sending money to a Chica usually ends up as a big embarrassment to yourself more than a financial set back. I would just be disappointed with myself to know a chica scammed me (many with little education) & I wasn't smart enough or so soft to let it happen. In theory I comment these guys for being so kind but in reality I laugh & think what an insecure fool. Many men may just do it for themselves which is great as they want to be a do gooder but remember you may not be helping as much as you think or maybe helping some other guy in the background. One thing for sure they survived before they knew you & they will be just fine without you trust me on this one. Many Latinas I talked with had 3 & 4 little ones with different fathers & never been married. Now how do you even begin to rescue that, they don’t seem to worried about themselves obvious? These Latinas that live in CR aren’t about to starve, bananas grow in their backyard so remember this as they break their violin strings in your ear!
Throwing money at poverty doesn’t fix it just look at the US. Most of the time you just creat dependancy! If you want to help like I have wanted to help some teach them how to help themselves then odds are you will even be more frustrated is what I have found because the ones I tried to teach didn't like this idea as much as reverting back to what they do best. Believe me these are pretty lazy people. I have found much more depth, character, strength, drive, pride, will & intelligence in the Colombianas! Well all these good qualities do come with a price YMMV!
I will get off my box now, just don’t like what I see with many men being used. Many of us have been used & abused by Gringas why go back for a repeat performance?
Zippy