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A few weeks, my good friend Zigmonger posted a topic aptley named "Right or Wrong". For his effort, he got blasted by some and praised by others.

Well, I guess its my turn:

The other night, my GF of 8 months announced that the company she works for told her that they are closing down and all 25 employees are out of work. This on top of the fact that she had her purse (with 120,000.) snached on Central about a week before.

She was in tears and I, of course offered all kinds of condolences and told her about a few jobs I had heard about.

She was a ZB chica about a year ago and she definatly dosen't want to go back there. She is the sole support of a family of 4 including her daughter, mother and sister. She has a degree in computer studies and was relativly successfull in that job. She made about 200,000 colones a month which, augmented by me and another novio allowed her to support the family and pay the rent. She is looking for a new position every day.

Well, here it is guys: Rent was due today and I paid it. Willingly, for nothing in return and I feel good about it. You know what? I'm home tonight and not playing in the BJ tournement at the Paradisio and thats the equivilant of her rent. So I miss one night at the casino, so what.
I feel like I've been able to help someone and it feels great.

LVSteve

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Just an old horney, fat gambler.

who's one man to tell another how or why he should spend his money....

except when that other guy uses it to buy bud lite

Posted: Sat Jul 16, 2005 9:35 pm Post subject: hello, lvs, glad you see things as i do!!!

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i wish i would never had posted about my special friend, as the thing became way overblown....Guess the thing to do was to just keep quiet about it, and not make it public knowledge, but, I do know one thing, I was able to help her, and I felt great. Just like you, it didnt cost us much, so why not do a heart good? Might have been the best 100. that I ever spent!!! My girl, just like yours, they are trying very hard, mine put in over 70 applications in and cant find a part-time job, but she will not take the easy way out, as she has morals...For these girls it is especially tough, and if I can provide a small amount of hope for this type, (financially and emotionally) then I am indeed a good person..(not a taker like I have been most of my life). There are always exceptions, and I believe you and I both spotted the real need, not some b.s. that they can spout from their mouth....Time to call mine, think she will be real happy when I tell her Im sending her 50. Just one nite drinking for me, no biggie, as she will get a better return on that, than my hangover the next day!!!
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Hey baby, if it is true that we are what we eat, then I could be you by morning!

Sometimes you just gotta do the "right" thing......... way to go.

Berk....

Steve my amigo,

I think you did what you needed to do. No one here knows what transpired in the past 8 months between you two so how can they analyze the situation? You did what you felt was right, you feel good so let it rest.

Those of us who live here are in a different situation from the guys who meet a chica in their week stay and then get the emails for money.

Good luck.

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Alex Levine

Steve (and Zig),

I command you for your self-sacrifices to help another. It sounds like you did it for the right reasons too. That's pretty cool actually. If only more people in this world were like that...

And I agree with Sub that nobody has the right to tell you how to spend your money, especially if your actions don't affect them. So what if the chica expects you to do it again in the future, you may or may not. If chicas spread the word and start asking us more often to send money, so what? They already do that anyway.

The only case where I'd say that others have more of a right to tell (advise) you how to spend your money is in a situation when you overpay (CIEN) for service. In this case, you may be making the situation worse for others by skewing prices, so they do have a right to speak up.

-Orange

Hey LVSteve,

technically, its not 'sending money' if you live there....
Nothing wrong with a generous man....

I think some guys here get fired up about lying theiving BS chicas tricking stupid gringos out of their money, and rightly so....

This is nothing like that.... I can better understand being generous with a loving, affectionate latina, more so that a fat gringa....
In fact, you get so much 'mileage' from a small amount to a chica, it is still a good 'return-on-investment'... I bet she appreciated the hell out of it.
How much cash does it take to make a gringa appreciative? It's like licking that lollipop... the world will never know....
Rather than being a high-rolling benefactor for a female, you have connected with one who needs very little money to get along... in fact doesn't that make you more of a cheap bastard anyway, choosing a girl so easily pleased?
Millions of American men would rather be you tonight, either way. Cheers LVSteve

KS

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check yourself before you wreck yourself

If it made you feel good doing it, how can it be wrong?

Well, not always. Once this gal was telling the others about a gringo who gave her the money to bring her sons to CR (the guy was a CR resident and at the BM at the time) and that the guy was expecting something he was not going to get: free pu*sy!

LVSteve, if it makes you feel good, why not!?

LV Steve:

A commendable act. The only downfall being that many times a repeated act of kindness has a way of evolving in to a continuing responsibility.

Lee

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PS: DO NOT SEND MONEY!

Did I read this correctly? She has "another Novio?"

IF so, then you don't have a novia, you have a hooker.

And paying a hooker is part of their business.

Even if she weren't a hooker-- how many broads back in the U.S. would you help out with money? If you're like me... probably none. You'd tell them to stop buying so many goddamn shoes, and start budgetting their money better.

By the way-- why is it that the rest of the family can't work? Even if it's standing in front of the house and selling fruit, or offering to wash driver's windows? Sounds like a "poor me, I'm a victim-- please give me your money for free because it's easier than working!" thang.

I think there is a real lack of work ethic here, combined with a "I need to rescue her to feel good about myself" syndrome.

But then again, it's your money to do with as you please.

Personally, I'd rather see you buy her a copy of the book, "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" -- and then assess how serious she really is about helping herself and self-respect as it relates to money-- if and when she ever finishes the book, reassess the relationship.

You can buy a copy of it in Spanish at Libromax.

I've had a few Ticos and Ticas ask me for money. I've refused and explained my position that I've been flat broke and busted, and never asked for hand outs. Some of the ticos disappeared when they realized I wasn't a bank. Others have stuck around.

It's very interesting, and a good test of a true friendship.

Personally, I'd never ask a friend for money because of financial hardship. I think it violates a personal code of honor amongst friends, barring a short run, "Hey-- I just got pick pocked, can I borrow $20 to get home," to a long standing friend. Of which, it was needed NOT because I needed the money, but rather because my accesss to my money was limited.

I'm rambling. Please enjoy.

Good posts from Rolex and Steve. I thought the point about the "other novio" was important. Only if the other guy is also contributing an equal amount should it be done. Just my opinion. Q: if she is sharing you, should you support her?

Rolex, Gopher;
I thought about NOT mentioning the other guy. If that makes her a hooker, so be it but its the way many of them get by here. You need to know, that she never asked - I just did it because I knew it would help her get over at least one hurdle in the next month. I did it with no expectation of free sex. I did it as an act of friendship and like I said what did it really cost me? Another night of losing 100.00 at the casino. I'd rather see the money go for some good.
For some strange reason, the one Tico or Tica supportng a whole family is really quite common here. The one who works, dosen't do anything else and is considered the head of household and is waited on hand and by the non working members of the family.
LVSteve

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Just an old horney, fat gambler.

Steve,

In my experience, I haven't found this to be the case once you get out of the Gulch.

Every Tico family I've met has almost every member of the family working, and the ones who don't are not working because they're home taking care of a K*D.

Even the dirt poor Nicas I've met all have jobs as domesticas or working in a tienda selling fruit or as a server in a restaurant. And these are girl who have it worse off-- they don't have work permits.

So-- from my very limited perspective of your situation-- and being a judgemental ass anyway-- it seems like your chick is being lazy.

Now, if you don't mind having this type of person in your life, then fine. But if you're giving her money, I WOULD expect "free" sex in return. Otherwise you're back in Gringaland under a new name.

One of my married buddies gave his on the side gringa girlfriends 50 bucks at easter. She said she needed some extra cash because her parents were visiting and she wanted to prepare a nice easter dinner for her family. Sounds legite. Her parents were not able to make the trip and this is what she spent the cash on, 2 live easter ducks, feed and a cage for her 16 year old son and her 18 year old daughter. Aren't these K*ds a little old for crap like that. They are broke all the time and when someone is generous enough to try and help them they waste the cash on useless crap. I dont think she is going to fatten these ducks up and put them in the broiler. Anyway, to you guys that are generous enough to send money to your amigos in CR, if you feel good about it and trust your instinct that the money is for rent, food and other needs, go for it.