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Damn San Te! Why would I rely upon a gringa to define for me a "Normal" relationship. She can define what's "Normal" for her, but that probably won't match what's "Normal" for me. But I agree that chasing young nookie in CR can change your view forever on having any relationship with an older gringa beyond platonic friendship.

I only know of a very few guys older than age 50 who think they have a wonderful relationship with their wife. Most that I know are living lives of quiet desperation. However, most of the guys older than age 50 who are chasing young nookie in Costa Rica, Colombia, etc are personally happier than they have ever been. The young nookie is nice, but it's also not having to put up with a complaining gringa with a fat ass and an impossible attitude.

I have an 82 year old friend here in Florida that divorced his bi-polar wife after 20 years of marriage because he was worried that she would stick a knife in his chest while he was sleeping. He's a hell of a nice guy, in shape and has a few $$. I've invited him to CR, but he wants a wife, so he spends his days meeting women between 55 and 65. He spends hours talking with them on the tele and sending emails and he's been doing it for 3 years now. Nothing to show for it. He's just now beginning to realize that what he wants does not exist.

However, if I brought him to CR, I bet within 3 months he would be homesteading a beautiful young chica and having a wonderful time getting a "Good Morning" Blowjob most every day and if she acts up, the operative word "Next" is all that he would need to remember. After a few months he could homestead another chica. AND, he would have invested less $$ in that plan and absorbed less bullshit than chasing old gringas every day here in Florida.

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Is low self esteem a prerequisite for being a good Ho or is it a result? ;-)

Wrong: He has PLENTY to "....show for it....". His time has been; was; and evidently continues to be occupied in a pursuit that brought and continue to brings him joy and allowed him contact and access with "....the outside world..." he otherwise, perhaps, would not have had. Seems to Steven1 he made good use of his time and enjoyed himself in so doing. He was having fun. Why does some prick want to go and f u c k that up? How dare you try to take that away from the fellow with your own demented concept as to what is a constructive use of time. He did all this without dropping coin one; going through lines; getting hassled by a Grade C "security officer" or two; didn't have to leave the comfort of his own castle; was surrounded by HIS stuff; and simply had to turn on his computer to have all this validation flow into his lap. Sure beats the shit out dropping $1000 just for starters to get a 3rd world "IF" place only to see a fished out pond filled to the brim with loser peckerwoods trying to sell him crap.

Steven1 suspects he anxiously awaited each and every reply as well as each and every opportunity to write his thoughts down not to mention the pleasure he obtained from feeling/believing he was wanted and needed that somebody was actually interested in him, etc., etc, etc. Too, he may very well have known the nature of the game and simply enjoyed/enjoys sending a receiving personal emails and somebody, somewhere, was interested in what he had to say and write. you think he doesn't know his $$ is in the equation somewhere? How about getting off of his cloud and let him enjoy himself? Steven1's money says he looks forward to both sending and receiving the correspondence and the telephone calls. He's probably a whole lot smarter than you give him credit for.......It is what is.....

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- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

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Is low self esteem a prerequisite for being a good Ho or is it a result? ;-)

Steven
You don't honestly think a man of any age can get "joy" from gaming a 50 or 60 year old gringa? I'm surrounded by these type of women and they are the most boring, self absorbed or any women on the planet. Remember, these are baby boom women. They are entitled. Their shit still does not stink, and they are wrinkly fat.

Latin American women, on the other hand, still have their femininity intact and have an economic need to be fulfilled. The gringa is only worried about her own happiness and you, being the pig you are, should just shut up and do as your told.

Dwarf sighting last night seems that itch may have been scratched at this point

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Now my good brother, Estebanh,

You are but a man Ch*ld compared to a guy in his 80's. Plus, your own bitterness over your familial relationships, well documented throughout the message board, underscores you just don't like white women. I love white women. Alabaster skin; creamy white; smooth; blonde/strawberry blonde; brunette; blue eyes; yada, yada, yada.

I detest the dried up shrews who walk amongst us too, and that is that why I do not interact with them here, there, everywhere. The folly of youth is an attraction, but it's also a bore as one runs out of "stuff" to talk about with the 20 somethings.

A 50 year old to and 80+ year old can be darn exciting is my assertion and seems to be so in the case "we're" discussing. Why else would the good fellow keep writing and emailing and talking on the phone. He's getting play and having a good time. If he weren't, he wouldn't be doing it.

It's ok for YOU to hate "gringas" (which I translate to be white women), but just because you do, doesn't mean everyone else does also. There are a lot of men of means out there who are perfectly comfortable with hanging out with, what are to me, hags....every bit the gold digger as the 20 somethings. Just look around. These guys are fooling themselves as much as the guys on this message board who proclaim f u c king whores doesn't jack you up psychologically in the final analysis as well all search for that healing power of he human touch.....and not just on our male members.....but that touch of the soul and what really makes us tick.....and that sure as shit ain't sex.

Why do you choose to be surrounded by these cuunts? I don't get it. Cut 'em loose. Quit the fancy clubs you've earlier written about; dump the circle of "friends" you have......join the real world of having fun by being your own man and not giving a hoot or a holler what anybody thinks. Do not be afraid to proclaim to God and Creation: "I F U C K whores and like it!!!"

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- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

I dont hate all white women, just gringas. Gringa being defined as a North American/Western European woman.

I have not been, but Eastern Europe looks good to me.

I'm a firm believer that many marriages and long term relationships fail because one or the other partner wound up "settling". They couldn't find a person they clicked with who also turned them on sexually, so they accepted what they could get and left it at that. Unfortunately, when one goes about living life in this manner they wind up living a lie, and as with all lies there is a price to be paid. When human emotions come into play (as they most certainly do with love and marriage), that price winds up being way too high. One or both people involved (and all too often their offspring as well) are left emotionally scarred when the fall out from the lie starts raining down. The reality is, not many people existing on this mortal coil actually wind up with their soul mate. Those who do are far more fortunate than any mega-millions lotto winner will ever be.

For the rest, there are two choices remaining once settling is removed from the equation: 1) Live a life of celibacy, or 2) Find another means to fulfill physical intimacy and sexual needs in a manner which does not involve lies and deceit towards ones self and another. I suspect that the majority of the people who are on this message board wound up choosing the latter after traveling down the rough road which settling lead them on. Most of the others here, for what ever reason, never managed to meet someone. In my humble opinion, I would have to say that of these two categories, those who have never been in a marriage or long term relationship are the most fortunate. There are no strings attached to these guys lives and they can freely go about their mongering business without having to take into consideration an ex or a family unit which they remain a separate, but vital part of.

There are many rewards to be gleaned by those who wind up walking the path of the life long monger. Mongering probably won't lead to a wife and family. That being said, it's worth noting that even those who are lucky enough to wind up producing a family with their soul mate ultimately find themselves knee deep in dirty diapers and college tuition savings plans. It's a great place to be for one of the truly blessed who has found the love of their life, but it's a horrible place to be for someone who wound up settling and is now attached to the strings brought about by a loveless marriage. Meanwhile, the life long monger gets to travel to some of the most exotic locales in the world and sleep with the kind of women that the person who settles or chooses a life of celibacy can only dream about and masturbate to fantasies of. It's a trade off. Family and all of the rewards which come with it vs. the single life and all of the rewards which it provides.

I happen to enjoy the mongering lifestyle. If I had the financial means to do so, I would go to either Thailand or Costa Rica at least four times a year. As you can also guess, I don't agree with StevenL's (and clearly many other folks) dark assessment of the underlying nature of the mongering scene. Granted, it's not the ideal male/ female (or if you happen to prefer, same sex) relationship dichotomy, but at the end of the day it provides some good things for both the buyer and the seller. The buyer obviously has their needs for physical intimacy and sexual gratification fulfilled. As for the seller (especially in third world countries where there is little opportunity for women to obtain work which will give them a comfortable lifestyle), it provides a way out of poverty and a means toward a decent life for them and their family. A bar girl in Bangkok can make in one evening what someone at a McDonald's in Thailand makes in a whole month.

So... I say play the hand you've been dealt and squeeze every ounce of pleasure you can out of this life. You won't be around forever. Sitting in a dark corner brooding over the fact that you're not living in a Leave It To Beaver episode isn't worth the time, because most everyone else isn't living in a Leave It To Beaver episode either.

good observation,
well said.
Red

Webbew:

"The reality is, not many people existing on this mortal coil actually wind up with their soul mate. Those who do are far more fortunate than any mega-millions lotto winner will ever be."

Very astute my friend and of course true.

A most excellent and well thought out written mindset, Webbew1. Thank you.

These "...dark assessment(s) of the underlying nature of the mongering scene....." are re-examined ONCE one is able to see the forest for the trees and acknowledge, if to nobody else but themselves, the exact facts of life you have very aptly posted. Does Steven1 continue to view "mongering" as an overall vacuous and hollow endeavor? Yes. Does Steven1 know and assert "mongering" is soul killing and ".....the devils brew...." (As opposed to Miles Davis' Bitches Brew...)? Yes. HOWEVER, does Steven1 continue to "monger on", albeit not nearly to the extent Steven1 once did, YES. Why? Because Steven1 can and because there are a couple of moments where/when it almost seems like it's the real deal. The question then becomes are those fleeting seconds worth the investment (all around....not just financially); some days my answer is "YES!", most days, however, the answer "NO".

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"Actual happiness always looks pretty squalid in comparison with the over-compensations for misery. And, of course, stability isn't nearly so spectacular as instability. And being contented has none of the glamour of a good fight against misfortune, none of the picturesqueness of a struggle with temptation, or a fatal overthrow by passion or doubt. Happiness is never grand."
- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16