Estebanh wrote:
In the end, all that matters in life are the relationships you form. The relationships you have with parents, Ch*ldren, spouse, friends, co workers, putas, define your life. If you have no relationships then you have no life. If you live alone and have no friends, that's your fault. You need to work on that aspect of your life.
Mongering is like eating ice cream: it's damn good going down, but it's all empty calories. We should all enjoy a little ice cream now and then, but need a well balanced diet to back it up.
again, perhaps. My experience over a lifetime is that the bulk of these "relationships" are shallow, hold little depth, and when the it's time for the rubber to meet the road, you're, in the final analysis, on your own. Oh, you can fool yourself that you've a "ton" of friends but my strong suggestion is the bulk of 'em wouldn't think twice in abandoning you in your moment/time of need. You're lucky if you can count on one hand the REAL DEAL relationship that is worth the time of day; one that is based on mutual blind faith and trust; as well as one that is unconditional. The bulk are tit for tat or the "....what's in it for me...." type. No thank you.
At least with birds of the night, one can be most certain what the true nature of the relationship is built around and this knowledge is empowerment.
The metaphor of the infamous BOYD of this message board is the rule, not the exception, to the types and depth of relationships I believe most people fool themselves into thinking are true and genuine. The vast majority will not risk their "station in life" (what would the other club members say about them if it were made public they were helping another club member who was now publically showing/revealing his utter failures???) to get you out of some ridiculous jam you've managed to get yourself into. Most relationships never get "tested" so their lack of depth and true shallowness are never really tested. Thus leading that life of quiet desperation.
"And now she's with one of my good time buddies/And they're drinking in some cross town bar/Sometimes I feel like I've been down to the whipping post.....".
Yup, them "...good time buddies...." are the most insidious of all and to be avoided at all costs.
"The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude."
If you've wasted your life on the pursuit of money and career and success; have a divorce or two under your belt along with the offspring to further weigh you down and prove your own foolish decision; if you wake up in your 50's and begin to wonder where you went wrong; that you had followed all the conventionalities you were taught to follow (career; marriage; family; club membership(s); business associates; etc. and finally begin to wake up and conclude that it was all a big joke), you've little time left to make sense out of the non-sense and joke of a life you've created for yourself and had been leading before that internal dialogue finally began to break through as you realize you have nobody to blame but yourself for not walking to the beat of your own drum once you left "home". Nobody gets a "do over" and when you start trying to create your own "do over" via the world of "mongering", you're walking down the wrong path. It's a dead end road.
