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Obi-Wan,

I will just say that there is a big difference between a girl who will only have sex with a guy she has an emotional connection and/or sexual chemistry with, and a girl whose only requirement to screw any guy is to be paid for it.

I'm not saying that working girls are less worthy human beings or anything bad about them. But they are much less reliable to be faithful and committed girlfriends or wives than women who only have sex with a guy she loves or at least has sexual desire for.

There's a lot I could say about the "all women are whores" argument that you make, but I think "bullshit" about covers it.


Vince

Yea, I've noticed most guys there can't tell if a chica "really" likes him anyway. But its not tough for her to make them think so.

The reality of this will always be between wut u know, and what you wanna believe. Every angle could be looked at, but if she don't really like/love you, It's just another story....and if money is involved anywhere, then lets not even talk about whatever chica is in question....otherwise, of course it "can" happen...

Regardless of wut faulty monger thinking is posted in this thread, if a chica doesn't like you for real its never gonna matter when considering going down that road...forever and ever, amen..


Cujo

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Vince,

This line from your post is a classic:

"To her sex and love are like apples and chainsaws - completely unrelated"

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I like Cujo's line "The reality of this will always be between wut u know, and what you wanna believe".

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Boys all I was saying is to me the girl that claims it was love. sure took cash in the form of meals and entertainment.
That got her to the love feeling. Or shall we say the free flow of nookie. Stop the cash and the love will dry up. That is fact not fiction.

But the thread was originally looking at Could you, Would you. Did you?

I would never be married again. But love a working, sure why not.

Me personal view is just "love the one your with". Great song, great view on the subject.

Enjoy them all any which way you desire.

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I have never been the "you must speak the language" guy. I think you can have a blast in CR without knowing "No" in espanol. That being said, what would you think about a co-worker, who's english is subject at best, picks up a US hooker, then comes in the office the next day and claims, "I think I am in love, she really IS different". "Really Man!?!?!?!" would be the natural response.

How many of us would pick up a US prostitute, have great sex, great time, todo, and say..."I think this girl is dating material", without paying attention to what she says, how she acts, reacts, everything. That is pretty tough to do without knowing the language. Pretty tough for judging a girlfriend, impossible for finding a wife. Let face it, 90%+ of us would never consider dating a US prostitute. 98%+ would never consider marriage. Yet, everyday, some gringo falls in love in CR and thinks....

Back to original question/post...
No, not now. I could care less about how many facials she has had. That washes off. There are things she ( and I) have done, that you just can't take back. If you are asking, can I have a girlfriend and forget, YES. A wife/live in/life partner, no. I would never expect her to change given the chance. Just like I wouldn't expect her to expect me to turn down that girl in the checkout line behind me who asks "could you help me out with my groceries". We are who we are. We are people that have walked down that path, see things in a different way, and given the chance, we will.

As Chris Rock said... Options!

Very well put.

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You might not need to speak Spanish to be in a real relationship with a girl from Latin America (Portuguese for Brazil) but the girl had better understand and speak English well if you aren't willing to learn her language.

Any dude who thinks he can have a real relationship with a girl without speaking a common language is fooling himself.


Vince

Yep, and there's only about 1.2 million examples of just that. Imagine how this chica is lying to this hopeful gringo. Couple that with her having it easier cause he doesn't understand, and there you have about %95 of monger chica relationships..


Cujo

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I have seen what appeared to be 4 successful ho/expat marriages here in CR, but this was the common thread: These women were in their 30's, and probably tired of their ho careers. The girls weren't druggies or partiers, just uneducated peasant girls with K*ds they needed to support. The guys spoke Spanish well, and were experienced savvy expats. Their age variance was between 20 and 40 years. The guys provided a home, took financial responsibility for their K*ds and the girl no longer had to work.

In love ? Doubtful, it appeared to be a trade off, the old guy gets a "trophy wife" who is hot and sexy, providing poon tang and companionship. These guys would never get this in the states. She gets a life of comfort, respect, security and stability for herself and her K*ds, and has to only bang n' blow one dude. They all appeared to "like" each other and enjoy each other's company.

Some guys have compared ho's in the U.S. to ho's in CR. The difference is the U.S. ho's are usually drug addicts or deranged in one way or another, they lead an illegal, reckless and dangerous life underground. Many CR ho's I have met are decent girls who are law abiding, not deranged or addicts, just supporting their K*D or K*ds the only way they know how easily and legally in MP's or Gringo hotels.

Are there greater risks for naive dimwitted inexperienced blind and foolish expats, Yes.
Is it impossible or unlikely ? No.

To date 3 of the 4 I knew are still successful, the fourth died happily of old age, bottle of viagra 1/2 empty (late 70's, diabetes), and she scored his modest estate and I believe Social security benefits. Win win for all involved...

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The odds are against it, there are too many stories that back that up. So why waste your time and money trying to find the 1 or so out of 100 that might make sense. Those who have said to ask friends and look in other places besides the gringo traps know what they are talking about and you have to have a common language as has been said time and time again. 99 out of 100 of them are going to be just looking for money, they may or may not have relationships and if they do -- very likely to be with Tico(s). There is even a pattern to that. They use gringos to support their lives with ticos and in some cases the ticos are well aware of it and it brings in money. I have made friends with a couple of putas who I don't see for money or sex anymore but we have retained the friendship and they tell me all kinds of stuff now that helps. And they repeat it over and over and over. Putas just want money. Putas just want money. I had this one puta who I didn't really like that much anyway but we had dinner and she came over for a while and I asked her if she liked ticos and she said no no no, no me gusta. And so she was in a hurry to leave in the end of course, well we are walking to the cab and she gets a call from some tico and she is all like yeah yeah un trago? moto? cualquiere, nos vemos. Now she has money in her pocket so she can go and hang out with a tico, and has time available for that.

I just keep adding to this.

Then there is this Puta Code of sorts that seems hard to break out of. 1. Never see your client without money involved. 2. Never ever see your client without money involved. 3. Never ever ever see your client without money involved. And all for obvious reasons because once you break out of that...? Anyway, si Usted tiene any preguntas about this or questions, just see number 1 de nuevo.

This thread has wandered a bit.
Prostitutes are people; mongers are people.
Prostitute can give up the game much easier than mongers can.
Prostitutes have need; mongers have addiction.
All relationship is economic.
Love and sex are both commodity and currency.
Anything of value can be traded. Thus relationship exists.

"Could you?" - sure.
"Would you?" - depends on the ROI.
"Did you?" - every man ever married says 'Yes'.

Ho's are like attorneys, you can pay them for services rendered or have them on retainer. Every married man has one "on retainer''....

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the difference being you 'save' money having the Attorney on retainer. Where are you going with this analogy?

Been there, Done that, will probably do it again.

Oh wait, I am already in the process of doing it again.

I do not care about her background or what she has done in the past, and she is probably still doing it. As many have said these girls do it to survive.
If there is chemistry, go for it. It may work, it may not, regardless of the distance or proximity.
I can only speak for myself, I am willing to take the chance and possibly get burned or at a minimum singed.

I lay down the line, Lie to me, get caught lying, it's over. I expect her to "work" when I'm not there. "Work" while I'm there, bye bye: IF and ONLY IF we have an agreement, No agreement I can't and don't say anything.

Again: Been there, Done That, my choice with no one else to blame.

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