www.CostaRicaTicas.com

So there I was. I met a Nica that appeared to be just the one for me. I started fantasying about her, and her K*ds, and me living out the lives one translator at a time.

But somehow our second nite...

We had spent the day with her whore friend and the whore friends Ch*ld (I mean whore in a negative way) I had spent about 80 dollars on the most expensive lunch (for four), movie, clothes shopping (she didn’t have a daytime set of clothes and her see through dress was giving her too much attention).

I wasn’t going to pay for her for another night (60/80/cien) so I told her to call me if she didnt get a client to come home to me. I am not naïve, and I knew she was out for money. I went as far as to tell the bartender I was in love.

“Did you meet her in a bar?” the Poseidon lady bartender said.

”Yes”, I replied

“What is she? Where is she from?”

“Nica”, I said.

“She’s just going to take all your money. Nicas are the worst. Do you have a picture of her? Do I know her?”

As I was fumbling through my Facebook account, and she walks in. Impeccable timing. We go to my room. We lay there for a while and she is tired and we get into bed. The discussion isn’t important, but get to the point about money and sex. I honestly would have rather her said no sex, or give it up. I only had $10 left in cash. “You understand this is little money?” I didn’t know what to say. So the deed was done. The deed impacted me though. It was clear she was stuck having sex for money for the foreseeable future. I could never change her.

CRT quote “you can’t take the whore out of the …”

I left her sleeping in the bed. I went down stairs and declared to the same bartender “no longer in love”

The point is that these women have it on their minds...money, and the poverty their experiencing only makes $$ a drug they are willing to do anything for. Some of these girls can make a months wage in a night. You, me, us are just money.

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"they call me Bob"
I am not Monger, I just like interviewing for new head mistreses
I once got in trouble for telling my students not to have get involved or have sex with other students, after a sex scandal!!!
Yes I believe in God, Jesus, Holy Spirit...But Im pretty sure he knows Im not perfect

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i think you may really be in love
not sure why you are fantasizing about her K*ds though
maybe the bartender is just trying to break you two up

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im way deep into nothing special
riding the crest of a wave breaking just west of hollywood

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Not banned yet...

Brother, brother,brother. Read, read,read. It is not, a Tica, Nica, Piasa thing. It is a female thing. It
is always about the green. The gringas are the up front liars. The working girls are just honest about it.
I find that so refreshing.

I live my fantasy with full realization that you get what you pay for. Having had a few wives I can tell you after
doing the math (divorce settlement vs sex received), I have paid 10's of thousands of dollars for and hour of sex.
So being told $50-$100 is so refreshing. Plus I get what when and where I want it.

Simple sayings say so much.

Why be owned when you can lease.

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May the force be with you my CRT Jedi.

You got off easy. You escaped relatively unscathed.

Emotionally, what do you expect? Do you think your time with them has as large an emotional impact on them as it does on you? Even if you are in the top 10% of clients she has encountered - respectful, sober, good hygiene, not repulsive, witty, and charming, etc. - she will be meeting a new you once a week. The days you spend with her are transitory, the poverty of coming from the second poorest country in the hemisphere after Haiti is permanent. Unless you can whisk her away from her situation instantly, she knows what is real and what is your monger fantasy. What, you think you will work out like it did for William Holden in The World of Suzy Wong? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewDwOHzg_mU

Why you let her friend & offspring tag along and mooch is beyond me, but if you do that sort of thing, then they will let you be the walking ATM for as long you let them.

Understand this about Nicaragua. For two generations, economic mismanagement, 40% unemployment, strong sense of family obligation, and the idea that succeeding financially is based on pure luck and not one's own discipline and effort, has fostered the concept of "el caballo" or "the horse."

Every family, even large extended ones, have a "horse" or two. Finding a job is like winning the lottery. There might be one, or if they are lucky, two breadwinners in the home, and that job or two will support up to 10 people. Imagine one horse pulling a cart with 6, 8, or even 10 passengers. In the States, most of us will feel a sense of shame about being unemployed. In Nicaragua, it is accepted, and the idea that the gainfully employeed will disentangle themselves from these leeches is foreign to them.

You would be amazed at how many Nicas in SJO are supporting a half dozen people back home.

I was in Nicaragua six years ago. I had given a Nica I met in SJO a "scholarship," meaning that I would give her few hundred a month to leave Idem, go back home, move in with an Aunt, and go back and finish her high school diploma. She was glad to leave Idem, she didn't have the psychological strength for that kinda work. (It didn't work out. Studying, even if you have nothing else to do, is tough. She married another gringo and went to the states.)

Her teenage cousin was having a birthday. I bought them both cell phones as a present. Then I got invited to cousin's birthday dinner party at a restaurant. Cousin, aunt, aunt's terminally unemployed boyfriend, a half dozen other relatives, a couple friends of the family. Another cousin, the only other male at the table with a job, and his girlfriend show up.

At the end of the meal waiter brings the bill and the whole table is pointing him to me. I was the "caballo" for that meal. Employed cousin picked up the tab for the drinks, but I was expected to pay for the meals for almost a dozen moochers. I wonder what would have happened if I had only paid for just me, Nica, her cousin? I was amazed that grown men had shown up and expected another man to pay for the meals and drinks of themselves and their wives/girlfriends. I had visions of giving the waiter enough for a third of the tab and walking away. Would the rest of the party be scrubbing dishes for the rest of the evening? Would they chase after me and my Nica as went for a cab?

When I went back for a visit months later, the teenage cousin was on the look out for me so I could buy her a new pair of Converse sneakers. I avoided her that trip and dubbed her "u-buy-me".

When you took the three of them on their little "moocher's holiday" you told her you were a walking ATM machine and a "caballo."

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"I'm not one those pathetic lietuenant colonels working a silly civilian job, working out two hours a day trying to reclaim a body they lost 20 years ago and four hours a night completing War College by correspondence in a sad attempt at colonel. Tyler Durden told us [i]'Self improvement is masturbation[/i].' My mid-life crisis is going to involve a new sports car, or the zoftig redhead with daddy issues in accounting, or better yet, racking up frequent flyer miles going to Pattaya."

I ran this through Google Translator:

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* These are the "Good Ole Days". Enjoy Them.

* RENT but, "Don't Buy a Home in Costa Rica" until you have lived here for THREE years.

It was mainly a blog type of post describing what I thought the section was about, but I appreciate your comments.

It was really apparent that I was ATM for the day. and I knew that when movies turned into finding something quick to wear and then lunch. I told her i wanted to go someplace where the locals go and inexpensive. By the time we were at the movies, we splitting the bill.

But in my mind the exchange was $80 for four hours of her time. She and her friend talked a lot, in Spanish, so it gave me a chance to just listen. Her friend had no idea how much Spanish i really knew, and she tried her dandiest to speak so fast that I couldn’t keep up. They argued alot about where to go and what to do. Basically let someone speak and you realize just how much they are a fool.

The woman I adore is older (30+) and she realizes her time is nearing, but she's not all Ho...she just doesn’t realize she's on the cusp of being a really good provider and a stupid ho like her friend. Did i mention she and I talked about how bad a mom her friend was to her daught -er there?

Some men's fantasy is sex or longtime GFE. Mine is being wanted in a relationship. For a while it was there.

She just facebook'd me telling me she didn't have enough money to go see her sick K*ds. no RFM (yet?). I told her i was thinking of going to Nicaragua next trip...she's the good mom there. Where are these men that make these Babi*s? I feel like an idiot trying to pick up the pieces for another man's mess!

I would absolutely scoop her up to the US as long as she did a few things i think wifing-up should be about (PM me private like), and after some shit here is completed. But I realize this is a form of sla_veryfor an ex prostit_ute...0.00001% chance.

Thanks for the perspective of 40% unemployment and the Nica horse, it'll help me decide how to handle this emotionally and the future.

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"they call me Bob"
I am not Monger, I just like interviewing for new head mistreses
I once got in trouble for telling my students not to have get involved or have sex with other students, after a sex scandal!!!
Yes I believe in God, Jesus, Holy Spirit...But Im pretty sure he knows Im not perfect

C-wood.

not busting ur balls, but that was the RFM, she just softballed it at ya...

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When I was born, I was given a choice - a big pecker or a good memory.... I don't remember what I chose.

Americans are not used to long term unemployment. Sure there are pockets of the 'dole culture' in both our rural areas and inner cities, and the current political climate is trying to turn the youth who fall for the seduction of the "99%" argument into the "free shit army" (as in, you have more stuff than I do...give me some of your stuff for free!) This is as seductive for 20-something that were told they were unique special little snowflakes all their lives then come out of college with worthless degrees into four years of 8% or higher unemployment as the concept of "free love" was for the squires of the post WWII affluence in the 1960's.

The baby boomers had everything they needed, materially, the only thing that 99% of them didn't have was brothels on the other side of the Mexican border within commuting distance. No wonder the real revolution for them was not against Vietnam - once the draft was revamped with a lottery system, most of the protests died down - but for the drugs and "new" morality that would get them laid more often.

But I digress. The Nicaraguan unemployment culture is different from the British one of "being on the dole." It divides up young Nicaraguans into three types of people. Those with the connections to the economic or political elite (you either are rich enough to leave the country/get the education needed for a career/can work in a relative's already successful business - or - you make yourself valuable enough to the Sandinista Party so that they can find something for you to do). Those industrious and ambitious enough to leave the country to find work. And finally, those that will be the Nico version of "Joey Basement," and will live with their family, work little odd jobs, occassionally do some petty crime, and live off the one or two members of the household who do work.

Since a real, steady job is a miraculous thing, and there are no welfare checks coming in, and you have watched your relatives and everyone else in the neighborhood go years without employment, the inhibitions against mooching, if they are developed at all, are eroded. Open your wallet once, and you are marked as, well...."a mark."

I knew a Paisa chica who had worked in Panama until she was deported, then, upon coming home, went to work at a club in an oil refining town near the Venezuelan border. How many family members was she supporting? I would not be surprised if it was 3-6, and I would not be surprised if they knew how she was earning the remittances she was sending home.

In El Salvador, one out of every four Salvadorans (what is the nickname for Salvadorans? I forgot.) is living abroad, mostly in the U.S. sending back remittances. There are towns where nobody works because they get more in remittances every week than they could earn in a month.

I have had my Nica tell me that a relative, who I have never met, wanted me to be the Godfather of her Ch*ld. Why? I was the most prosperous person they knew about, and since I was helping my Nica, why not see if the ATM would work for them....for the rest of the K*D's life?

And if you think the inner city has a problem with irresponsible, deadbeat dads.... There is no mechanism for extracting Ch*ld support. In fact, aside from calling the absent baby's-daddies "perros" (dogs) there is not word that is the equivalent to "deadbeat dad", deductions for Ch*ld support, or court-ordered garnishment in most of Latin America.

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"I'm not one those pathetic lietuenant colonels working a silly civilian job, working out two hours a day trying to reclaim a body they lost 20 years ago and four hours a night completing War College by correspondence in a sad attempt at colonel. Tyler Durden told us [i]'Self improvement is masturbation[/i].' My mid-life crisis is going to involve a new sports car, or the zoftig redhead with daddy issues in accounting, or better yet, racking up frequent flyer miles going to Pattaya."

Dude??????Dude??????????[size=150Duuuuuuuude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now go home, unfriend her on facebook, f**k a girl who looks nothing like her and Next
Seriously!

sorry dumb phrasing...fantasing about living as a family fantasy with two small Ch*ldren... reading bedtime stories and such.

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"they call me Bob"
I am not Monger, I just like interviewing for new head mistreses
I once got in trouble for telling my students not to have get involved or have sex with other students, after a sex scandal!!!
Yes I believe in God, Jesus, Holy Spirit...But Im pretty sure he knows Im not perfect

You can have that. But if you have that with a working girl, you will be living an existence of constant discontent. They are accustomed to the easy money and will always default to that thinking. They do not appreciate your money or help.

You give them 50 bucks and they think, "Aww that's nothing. I could make 50 bucks in an hour". And you will eventually hear that.

You can give them a MILLION dollars but if they don't have change for a hundred dollar bill, they will still blow the taxi driver for the fare.

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* These are the "Good Ole Days". Enjoy Them.

* RENT but, "Don't Buy a Home in Costa Rica" until you have lived here for THREE years.

Spoken like a multi-time (divorce) loser. Sorry, this is not specific to only you, but to all the guys posting the anti-gringa CRT rhetoric that is seen all too often.

There's plenty of negative things you can say about gringas. But to comapre them to hookers is a bit of a stretch.

Maybe the problem is not the gringas. Did you notice that your comparison was based only on your cost per Phuck? Do you think that could be the problem? Maybe thinking of women in terms of how much sex she will put out per dollar spent is part of the problem. Gringas are no different than latinas, they can smell a weak man a mile away. If you didn't get enough sex for your buck, it may be your fault.

"You can give them a MILLION dollars but if they don't have change for a hundred dollar bill, they will still blow the taxi driver for the fare."

That truism ought to straighten out some gringo's with lonely souls falling in love with a CR chica.