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Amen, brother. I will be back at the SL tomorrow to reinitiate the sorting process! And it sounds as if opportunities abound in this economic climate!

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Poco a poco la vieja sube el coco.

You are on the mark, Pacifica.

I totally disagree with Jester though the rule: NEVER TELL is absolute. If someone insults you, ignore them, insult them back or take it outside but you don't tell on them --ever!

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The sexiest part of the human body? The brain.

Getting involved in someone's personal life, i.e., telling the spouse that their sig other is having an affair, is probably the best way I know to earn a bullet between the running lights.

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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NEVER TELL... stop talking to them, kill them, frame them for murder, WHATEVER, but never tell...

There's a lot of biological justification (by men) going on here to support their infidelity. It's like when the men in Latin America say that they "have more heat" and are "more passionate" than North Americans or Europeans and that's why they have to have to many sexual partners. And the men *don't* take it well when they find out that their girlfriend, wife and/or mother of their Ch*ldren is or was cheating on them. Sometimes they don't even take it well if their ex-girlfriend starts seeing someone else, even if the guy himself has been seeing several other women.

So, yeah, if you're going to have an open relationship, be straight up about it and make sure your partner agrees. But don't give the old biological argument. It doesn't fly. We're all adults and we can make the decision about whether or not we are going to be unfaithful. That's a concious decision, just as doing the act itself is a conscious decision. It's called personal responsability and respect for the person you are in a relationship with and supposedly love. Or at least like enough to be honest.

Well damn, that's a helluva first post....



Cujo

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Who thinks Latinas (females) are monogamous?

+1

The cardinal rule in LATAM regarding infidelity -- both male and female -- is: Don't get caught.

mh

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The infidelity scene in CR, in my case, is puzzling. My non-pro chica of 2 years has two ex's in a very small town 10 miles from the beach, a K*D by each, never married either, both out of her life for a long time, but both get enraged when I am there. In this little pueblo, they know within a day when I am there. It's often an ugly, tense scene which puts a damper on many of my visits. I don't try to "father" their K*ds although I am good to them, just the opposite, always talk nice about their dads, never get involved in discipline or decisions even though they very minimally support them, $10 bucks here and there, and see the K*ds when they occasionally want them and then on demand, no structure, whatever. And I keep her from running her mouth off to the K*ds about them which she will do, they are still young. Actually her father, their grandpa, is their psychological father, he raises them, schools them, worries about them, goes to the school functions, etc. and doesn't like either of these "possessors", my word, not his, but doesn't get involved with this issue.

They call her a puta to the K*ds because of me. Hurts me. Can't tell you how many times I have just walked out for awhile to avoid what I'd do in my old neighborhood.

It wouldn't be infidelity by gringo standards, but apparently it is to Ticos. It's like they think, hey we were together, we have a K*D, so you are mine until death. But, I wonder why the two dads don't tangle with each other, she says they know each other and get along.