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Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly!

I go straight to the point and save bandwidth in the process. I did it because I was an stupid idiot (or like they say in my country of birth: a comemierda). Good enough!?

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Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly!

I think most of the guys that fall for women that work in the P4P industry are just looking for an easy way to nirvana; just like the guys that fall for strippers in the U.S. If you can get it through your head that the primary driver for your experiences with the girl is going to be money, then you should be fine. I pity the poor guy who mistakes it for true love, heck any women with lack of financial means is going to look for financial security in a man or many men, that is a given. However, add to that the fact that a P4P Deb in C.R. may have a host of other character defects such as immaturity, drug use, loose morals (obviously, and granted I am no one to talk) association with criminals etc. just like their counterparts in the U.S.

Therefore, I recommend to my fellow compadres that if you are interested in having a real relationship with a Tica or Latina in general, look outside the gulch or outside whatever mongering locations in the country where you monger and even then, you are in danger of being played. Learn the language so you can communicated. Those hearty fellows that really want to get a Latin bride or long term GF and bring her back stateside need to commit to moving down there for at least enough time to "kiss a lot of frogs" as there is no free lunch. Heck, I dated a total civilian in Guatemala with a decent job, two modest houses and a car and she tried to get pregnant just to speed the process along (luckily, the little swimmers have slowed down). Just saying, if a regular chick will do it to you, just think about someone with lesser scruples might do.

To those guys who think they can turn a hooker straight, good luck with that, it may work if you are on location and can put enough time and effort into the tryst to make it more than just a long term hook-up. But, these girls don't have a whole lot going for them in terms of tools to get past the P4P career path and the P4P habit is tough to break as its easy money. And the guys that want to try this on a long distance basis are just fooling themselves. : I see them whenever I am visiting the gulch; the guys with the "K*D in the candy store look on their face" "Time of your life, eh Joel?" They are so sex starved by whatever situation they are coming from in the States; bad marriage, general lack of possy, etc, that they are instantly smitten and enraptured by a hooker, go figure.

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“Good people sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.” And we are the guys that keep them in Eggs & Grits

Florida John
I appreciate your response concerning "ease of transaction", but I am not sure I agree with it 100 %, at least not for me anyway. After all, when you consider travel time & costs, hotel costs, health concerns, safetly concerns, transaction costs, being ripped off..., it may seem easy but I wonder if it really is. I think it might be easier to hook up with a lady through an over 50 dating service like "our time".
Unfortunately, most over 50 women don't do it for me, and the ones that do gotta be in high demand (i.e. a lot of effort as you say in your post).
Ideally it would nice to hook up with a non-pro or semi pro that you could "help out" and that you trust to establish a mutually satisfying relationship. Unfortunately, that is where the RFM comes in.
I do think it is possible to have Novia(s) or Favorita(s), assuming you can spend time in CR, outside of the Gulch, and can keep your wits about you.
My plan is supplement my modest needs with P4P, until I can establish this goal. The big question is whether I will be able to tell the difference between a P4P and this sort of relationship.
Sometimes the RFM is the price you pay to find out what kind of relationship you actually have.

This is all BS
Dr Mario... care to share your mistakes...

Mine is different just ask her the next time you she her

Yes the girls a get sponsore

One can get dumped in a heart beat over a better offer

Puma got her new choos

My story... I got lucky... no RFMs and no drama about seeing other chicas

I may over pay her... but I think she spends the money in a good way

When I come to town I bring her stuff for school for her daughter... She loves it

I do not ask to go to her house,and that is fine with me,and her as well

Like I said she is a cool chica and I would be friends with her even if she told me no mas sexo

She has a real job, and her family comes first.. I respect that

So if she can not go out to dinner no biggiy

Yes when in San Jose she will try and visit me almost every day... and does get pissed if I say no

One does have to say no once and a while... It drives them crazy

Am I getting played... who knows... If I never saw her again it would suck.. but not the end of the mundo... NEXT

Hank, I guess I should have been more specific by saying this is more of a current events thread. I know I asked guys to share their experiences, but I guess if they were past ones we don't need to worry about those guys who have gotten out of bad situations. I just thought it would get the ball rolling with guys sharing their experiences and maybe that will help the guys who might either be stuck in a bad one or for guys who might avoid a bad situation because someone has been there before and can offer some insight.


the DR


<--------OG watchin your backs........

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Dr Mario
I believe some guys (myself included), have been guilty of doing to much for a working girl for the same reason as the theme in "Pretty Woman". The romanticism of the rich slick guy who actually falls for the hooker with the heart of gold is appealing to many. After all, we want to believe their is something more and that we are victims of circumstances which we can change if we just believe in ourselves and others. I don't believe we are wired to be alone and many of us want more than just hanging with a buddy or 1 hour session of make believe.
I also agree with the previous post that it's not always monger 0, puta's 100.
But I gotta believe that finding a viable relationship in someplace like the Gulch is less likely than winning the Lottery.
Personally, I believe that even if you manage to hook up with a non-pro outside the Gulch, it's still pretty goods odds that you will find someone who is little more than an opportunist looking to cash in on a Gringo.
Be that as it may, I still rather be in the game even if the odds are against me.

Now this is the kind of response I am looking for from guys..... I personally have made the mistake myself, and I was lucky enough to see my way out of it. So if we can help anyone else with this it is worth the typing to me......Thanks for the response slink..........

the DR

<-----OG tryin to help.....

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One thing that might help is to set rules in advance and never deviate. Had one a couple months back that thought was going to be a good situation. An occasional hookup with a cool chica. The first was a freebie because I told her I wasn't playing that night, but she wanted to go with me anyway. She saw they kind of place I was staying in, so there were no illusions of money. Second time, I paid her very modestly. She knew I was looking for a job. We stayed in touch. Then she contacts me for help. Didn't ask any questions, just cut off all contact and haven't talked with her since. I'm sure I will run into her in the DR, haven't been in there in a couple of months. Moral of the story: KEEP IT SIMPLE!

The thing that never changes is that if a woman is jobbing you, the RFM always comes.....Even if it starts as a little of "buy me this, buy me that" it still has started. To see through all the BS is very hard for most men because we really wanna believe that this is true. Even to this day, I am always on the lookout for the signs. TW, you made the right decision IMO cuz you recognized the warning signs and got out before it started..... Golf clap for you sir........

the DR

<------OG'n it until the end.......

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Dr Mario et al
I book a flight to CR on 12/2-12/13.
I plan to spend some time in SJ for medical/dental tourism consultations.
I am trying to book at room at SL for the days I will spend in SJ.
The bulk of my trip I plan to spend with my Dad on his farm in San Vito.
I should be in town on the weekends, hope I can catch up with you.
Monger 0

Yeah, but at least if you find one outside the gulch, she is not actually involved in "the trade." she may be proven to be a liar, a cheater and a whore later, but at least for now those facts are unknown.

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As unpopular as this may sound there is a some justification for the RFM. Culturally we all raised to believe the man is the provider, the bread winner. Many of the ladies I met in Colombia were interested in finding a "Man" irregardless of age, looks or other. To these chicas a "Man" respresents security, dependence and even self respect.
The Ticas from good families in CR often rely on parents and/or husband for there well being. (The modern educated Tica is the exception, there are many now that are truly independent). The Ticas we CRT members meet likey don't have anyone to rely on.
I believe then many "Pros" are on a mission which is 2 fold: 1) get some $ now, 2) get some long term security. The "hustlers" we meet don't believe that anyone can be trusted and are simply trying to work any scam they can. Often the hustlers themselves are being worked over by a boyfriend, drug dealer, family member etc.
The problem with the "Dependent" scenario is the dependence is often confused with romance (i.e. love). A parasite does not love it's host. If it did, it would not be a parasite on the host.

yeah, but most of the women doing RFM's are pros. So they provide a service for guys who PAY them for it. So what makes it ok for them to ask for money on a false story. All it is is a woman tryin to job you. I mean I see girls in the SL sending the same e-mail to several different guys all the time. And if you think it is for the security, then please feel free to send them money, but if you are a monger, she is not sticking to the agreed contract of sex for money. This goes back to the law of attraction. If a girl likes you, she is not gonna try to job you to death. If she sees you as a mark, you are a mark. Period...... So making an RFM sound like it is just them trying to help themselves is just romanticizing the whole BS deal. And you are just making the title of this post true.... Just my opinion of course....


the DR

<-----OG-----

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“In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity"

It's wired into them. They are supposed to try and scam as much money as possible. It is the guys job to wade through the bullshit and use their heads. And that creates the perfect balance of the dance. Evolution simply put, the strong prey on the weak and the weaker animal is always eaten!