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My first question is how often do you get to CR?

1. It seems like you have a major age difference. Problem #1.

2. How do you expect her to live unless she works at the DR?

3. What other support system does she have in SJ?

4. You have the domestic violence issue here as well.

5. Does she have any other job skills?

6. WTF do you expect her to do while you are in the US?

7. Does she have Ch*ldren?



Here is you likely scenerio.

1. You sound like the typical rescuer we have described. If you send
her money. This, my friend, may actually empower to work at the
DR more and find another sucker like yourself.

2. If you don't send her money, she will continue to work at the DR.

3. Dude, this is a high risk situation. Not at all like mine.

4. She doesn't know anyone in SJ, she doesn't have other job skills,
She is probably 40 years younger than you, has domestic violence
issues = disaster.

5. Sorry.... I don't endorse this relationship.

On a good month I am Costa Rica 18-20 days, on a bad month 12 days.
Major age difference? You bet! That is her appeal to me. It is a GFE, not a future wife.
At present she is a live-in in my rental apartment with good security.
I have nothing personal there, and she can only come and go with the co-operation of my maid or guard.
I can afford that. In fact it sure seems cheaper than massage parlors and saying NO CIEN often.
There is no money given to her, and the most she would get is lunch money, if I send her to school.
The domestic violence issue? As in her mental state, or the TICO in Limon?
She has no skills, and appears to be smart as can be.

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That is why I asked about sending her to school.
No K*ds, no family or friends in town.

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That is why I asked your opinion. So when I head north, just say it's been fun? I can do that, and my conscience would tickle me, but I can do it.

King .. just a Q .. I thought you met your gal on her "first day" in the DR?

just curious

Texas and Vegas. It sounds like you are being really nice to this girl and she appreciates it. Also, it sounds like she hasn't been polluted by the Del Rey yet. Now,as you might have seen in previous posts, I'm a hard ass when it comes to giving the chicas money. In this case though, I think it would be a great thing to send her to school. And as long as you are being honest with her about the relationship, and I think you are, there is no reason you can't have somewhat of a relationship with her. I would be singing a totally different tune if she were a working girl, but who knows what kind of effect a little kindness could have in this girls life at this particular time. You are the only one here who knows her so do what you think is best, for you and for her. If she is an honest person there is absolutely nothing wrong with helping her. You don't sound like someone who is starry eyed and would get sucked into a bad situtation. The first time your instincts tell you something is wrong though, run for the hills.

Surprise,surprise,I have no problem with you doing things like helping with school. See I'm not the hard-ass ogre that I usually sound like. HOWEVER,you should be careful about what you do for her and how you do it. DO NOT JUST GIVE HER CASH. If you want to pay for some schooling,pay the school directly so you know she is going and can't con you and keep the money. I have no problem with her living in your apt.if that makes you happy.After all you are getting something in return and she can be thrown out in a minute's notice.It is certainly a shitload better than the assholes who send the chicas "rent money". What the assholes don't understand is that it is no longer "rent money" when the chica has multiple Gringos sending it. Understand that when you are "just helping" her,you are also getting her used to living off her looks as opposed to her brains and hard work.So,the ultimate result may be that you get her used to surviving by sex. In addition to school,I suddest that you make her get a job.This will force her to survive by more than sex,and it will keep her busy especially when you aren't around.If she refuses to get a job,then dump her because it is a sure sign that she is setting you up for the kill.

Hands....

I found out later that she was brought by a friend of hers that has married a Gringo to be introduced to my friend (unbeknownst to me at the time)
who was staying at the DR. I happened to be talking to my buddy and grabbed her instead. She was interested in a LTR with a gringo.

KC .. as always .. my warmest wishes to you ... the power of the GFE side (albeit with its many caveats) has touched you

I am back in the States for a day and had a quiet flight to reflect on stuff.
When I return tomorrow I will see about getting her a job, and what it takes to get her into school.

Remember, please this is a GFE.
My longest lasting one did not make 30 days.
So I have no blinders on here.
I ditched one because she said no when I was in the mood.
So don't credit me with being too soft hearted.


Initially I rejected that statement as total BS.
My self image is warrior/alpha male.
On reflection, you are right.
All my life I have helped others,
THAT HELP THEMSELF!
I know what an ENABLER is, and will not go there.

I have never sent money, and never will.
So I assure you that you don't have to worry on that account.

It is ironic: I come to CR to be carnal and lusty,
not cerebral and insightful.

As a mental game, I will deposit $100 in a account for every
day she is with me. I will deduct all her expenses, and see
what remains.
By that method she has a lot saved.
If she screws up she leaves with nothing.
If she does right, she will walk away with a serious stake to
get started in life.

She doesn't know any of this, so it will be interesting.

Good luck T&V

again if you are ever hiring ...

Tex maybe the term Mentor or Teacher would be better than rescuer. It seems like you want to guide this young lady if shes worthy and apreciates the oportunity your providing her.

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Texas and Vegas:

Appears that you get to CR a whole lot. Good luck to you. I hope you find what you are looking for.

Just take is slow and be cautious.

One of the CRT guys called me last night and basically said
"WTF are you thinking?" in regard to the $100 daily savings account.
A clarification is in order.
That amount will be for when she is 'with' me, not when she is in
my apt. and I am not benefitting.
This will help me keep it all in perspective.

T&V

You might want to be a little careful about setting a firm "savings account per day limit". Based on your criteria, if you stayed with her a month, you would be giving her $3,000 which is 10 times the average wage.

Exactly my point.
There were no 'earnings' for the time I was in the States.
I am doing this to keep the pressure on myself to be sure
I am getting value for the experience.
She will only know about the money when she leaves,
if she doesn't blow it.
I come back today and will find out about the University.

I have no doubt that you are receiving value for time your are spending with her compared to what you would spend for 1 hour sessions at the D.R.

I sense that because she is in a tough situation right now, you are using your financial means to take some pressure off her so she is not forced into a life of prostitution. I don't see any problem with what you are doing as long as she is not working at the Del Rey.

I do want to point something out to you that you probably are already aware of. Just because she gets an education, this does not necessarily mean she will make decent money in Costa Rica. Even well educated women are relatively poorly paid.

You might be better off having her get a job at a store and taking English lessons on the side. That way her time is fairly well occupied when you are not there and she is learning English.

I will tell you that if she is seen working in the Del Rey, I would only pay her for direct services like any other girl working there.