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Age and nationality, Latinos tend to feel better among their own. As a matter of fact, if it weren't for the money, they would still be telling the gringos to "go home". Don't you remember the "yankee go home"?

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That's as true as Gringos feel better around Gringos - which is why there are so many of us who go to a land chock-full-o-latinos.

... only to spend 80% of their entire time hanging out with other Gringos at the SL or NY Bar.

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Nah, gringos and this Cuban go to those places for what we can't get here in the good old USA. If we could get the same quality of gringas here for the same price, most of us would spend our dinero here. I know I would!

Come on buddy, gringos don't want Latinos around, unless they're cutting their grass or cleaning their houses. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't want those noisy Cubans around my neiborhood either!

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I began reading this thread when it first started and kind of stayed out of it for a while but alas...I'm in. The first thing I'm going to say is that it just blows my mind that people thinks their position on a subject is the only right answer. In human interaction there are as many right answers as there are people. YMMV is the only RIGHT answer on this topic. What works for some won't work for others. The following is not a universal truth and it isn't meant to say it is always this way but rather to give a scenario where it may just not be the case.

To say that a girl is only hanging out with an older gringo ALWAYS JUST for the money is in my opinion is wrong. Is that the case some times? Many times? Maybe, but always? I would find that hard to believe. First of all and I am generally speaking here... men place a much higher premium on age and looks than women in general do. Part of the answer to why this is biologically driven. The traits that attract men and women to one another has a lot to do with pre-programmed instinct. Most men are programmed to be attracted to younger, attractive (subjective term), more fertile women. Women on the other hand have a whole other set of criteria when evaluating a man. Power, security, money, maturity. Since they can only produce a certain number of offspring the criteria they use is greatly different than what men use. They look for someone that gives their offspring the "best" chance of long term survival. I'm not saying this is a conscious decision but rather something that is pre-programmed. In addition to the, I'll call it "hardwired programming" you also have the programming that is a result of life and life experiences....The learned behavior. For instance, a girl that has had no positive father image as a ch*ld may well seek out an older mate to fill a void left from not receiving a father's approval.

Granted in the P4P arena what brings us together is without a doubt $$. I won't argue that for even a moment but lets just say you have a woman...Let's not make her too young... Maybe mid to late twenties. If she does not have Ch*ldren (I know, I know not that many of them in CR, but just indulge me for a moment) her biological clock is ticking away. Maybe there was no father image, maybe she has dated guys her age and found them to be immature and unreliable. She is thinking hard about settling down and starting a family and she uses a far different criteria in making her choice than perhaps a man would. In this scenario,.do you really think it is IMPOSSIBLE for her to meet a guy who is 45 -55 in the p4p scene and find that she enjoys being with and she sees all of the other things that he brings to the table? Things like stability. He can teach her things. He can show her things he has learned in life. He may be more patient and understanding. He may be less possessive. Personally, I find it unlikely that it doesn't happen based on the above. To say that it just isn't possible overlooks one of the basic differences between men and women as they evaluate mates.

Of course you aren't going to see a working girl with her MySpace covered in pictures of her John's. That is a invalid argument. While prostitution may be legal there is a social stigmatism associated with it and many times they simply don't want family, friends or potential employers knowing what they do. To say it is impossible sells yourself short. Just because a man is no longer 20, 30 or 35 years old does not mean that he doesn't have something to offer a younger woman. That's just my opinion and while I'm not saying that it is always this way but...It could be and it would make perfect sense to me when it does happen. All I'm saying is don't sell yourself short just because of your age. You may still have some very desirable traits that some young, hot, sexy women desire. Before I close I'll say just one more thing. There is also the possibility that you find what you expect to find in life. It's called the "self fulfilling prophecy". Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.

KenLee

KenLee – great post on the age issue. I always said that it is an obstacle but it can be overcome. While you bring a good point, from my perspective your post is describing a possibility of what could be. A very small one at that; but still a possibility.

The problem that I see is that so many of our monger brothers hang on to the possibility, no matter how remote, of finding the exact chica that you are describing. In my opinion, that is where the problem lays. Not only there is the age issue but so many others. This is where some guys start screaming “it is all about the money, stupid”. And because of the vast majority of encounters will be based solely on money, that MAJORITY will be right.

I do believe that if you go about P4P on the normal course of your stay, you could possibly come across the exact situation you are describing. But many a monger on this forum and probably the majority going to CR are using the reverse logic of it and they actually believe that finding that elusive diamond is just a matter of showing to the HDR. NOT!

Now getting back to the main thread, and because we see many members taking girls out for a vacation, unless you have found that elusive diamond that you so eloquently describe, it would be counter-productive to give them a vacation. And even if you find that diamond, there is no guaranteed how she will behave once she is there. That is why I still not convince that taking chicas to a vacation is a good idea.

What members do it is on them. But just for the sake of discussion even I, knowing some of my favoritas a little over 2 years, speaking fluent Spanish, within their age range, in shape, culturally similar, and connecting at every level with them, I have not been convince to take any of them out.

Now there are some “Lewis- Clark” types within our mist, that will take a chica without even knowing their name, but we also have to remember that there are many Indians/chicas waiting to take their scalp. It will be perilous not to clarify to the membership that taking a chica out should be taken under a conditional situation in which ALL pre-requirements, that have been discuss on previous post, should be met.

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Personally, I'm not advocating that anyone here either take or not take a chica to the beach - I've done it a number of times, though all of those except one were with a non-pro novia whom I wasn't in fact paying for sex.

Be that as it may, the only point I am making regarding this thread - and admittedly it's a minor one - is that it's a mis-characterization to call a venture like this a "vacation" for a working chica if you're paying her directly for her time to be with you. To her it's still work - plain and simple.

And if she did think of it differently - as time spent with an amigo rather than a john - I don't see why she would have a big issue posting photos on her Facebook site - perceived "social stigma" or not.

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Atta boy

But theres no option in this thread for that. Because if a chica wants to go on a trip with you, it wouldn't make sense to pay for sex. But this thread is under the assumption that all chicas on trips are getting paid for going. I can understand that, what I don't understand are guys getting bent out of shape because a guy isn't paying....


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I do not think that is what is being discussed. I know the thread have taken some curves but the main focus is whether you would take a chica on a paid vacation or not. We got your response. I know there got to be others with different views to this.

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Oh, I thought this was the first attempt but couldn't really understand it too much or where it fit in.

GR brings up a good point. I don't think it should be looked at as paying a chica to go on vacation. Like he said, to her its still work. Now if she truly wants to go and is down, that's a different story which isn't really covered in this thread..

Bottom line, you are paying her for her time no matter if you're at the beach or the HLH.. To me, if you feel like you are paying her "to go on vacation" then either deal with it, or don't take her...

If its a more "normal" circumstance and she wants to go with no expectations, then go for whatcha know..

How many of us have been paid for going to a place we want to be at? Yea, me either....


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Somehow I don't think too many of us sell sex for a living.

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Man, wouldn't that be the ultimate

Cujo

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