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Take the Chica and her K*ds out. If she has any.. Leave the mom out of it once you do that you have elevated yourself from Favorite to Novia. So next be prepare to pay for the US Visa and the trip to America.. Listen to me experience talking here.. It happens to me...

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I dated a few ticas in Aserri when I lived there, of various ages.

I've dated for dinner and sex. Girls who work for someone, live on Ch*ld support, have one teenaged and one or more younger K*ds....going to the local restaurant, and to the 12 hour motels in San Francisco was a big thrill for them...I didn't want to know their situation or become involved. They are impressed and grateful.

Older women...the two I dated took me to their getaways in the mountain. I helped with some cleanup and maintanence, but they provided more.

I met the family of two...both daughter and I made up where we met. Since I was living in the neighborhood with Ticos, I acted with formality (which is less common but still known here) and gradually ingratiated myself to the family.

I haven't been in your situation....be careful about how much money you spend at the beginning...even if they are not out to soak you, they may come to expect it...particularly if they only experience with Americans is in the gulch...afterall, think back to your preconceptions about the girls...while Costa Ricans don't earn as much as we do, they don't have the expenses either, and usually count on family for major expenses like an illness.

Finally, pay attention to other posts that relate their experiences. It is a good teacher. HAVE CLARITY ABOUT WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! If its a temporary girlfriend, be direct...fool around and feel like part of the family for awhile, or whatever reasons are motivating you.

I have been in this situation many times in CR. The family ties are very strong between the siblings and parents in CR. I agree with Josie here. If you are not looking for something more in the lines of a continued long term relationship I would cancel any meetings with the family. Keep it to just her. You can not win. They will be like puppys in the Pet store with those eyes looking at you saying take me with you?


What I would do instead of taking the family out is. purchase all the meat, vegetables, seasonings, beverages at the Mart of your choice!
Have the mother and daughter as well as the many other sisters or aunts that she may have prpare the feast while you hang out with the father if he is present. Uf not. Check out the sisters and the aunts to see how your girl will shape up. Trust me she and you will enjoy this much more than going out to dinner. Keep it real! You are not in Manhatten and their expectations are not on that level.
However I will add to this that you could possibly be setting up for marrying the whole family in which case everyone will always be in need of something.

Even the pet dog sometimes needs money for surgery, food, vacunas, ropas! Phuck it something just happened and we need you to send money.

Papi!


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Listen to what he says Flounder, he is in prelaw!!

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Advice from all us knuckleheads is great, an you certainly should pay attention since you solicited it. But at the end of the day, you should do what YOU want to do. Are you interested in meeting her mom? Yes? Then do it! Would you rather eat at a nice place than Taco Bell? Then do it! Don't worry about impressing or offending her. Do what you enjoy doing. If that's not how she rolls and gets offended, well, NEXT!

I have a perfect example for you from my last trip. I had a chica in my room for an extended stay, and I offered to order drinks for us. She asked if she could have a glass of red wine, and since I fancy red wine myself, I offered to buy a bottle. I handed her the wine list - partly as a test, but more to let her have some freedom to choose something she liked. She selected the cheapest red swill on the menu, a bottle from South America for under 20 bucks. I'm not drinking that shit, so I insisted that we get something better and selected the lowest grade pinot (Kendall Jackson, I think), that I could actually enjoy. Her eyes popped out of her head at the whopping 40 this crazy gringo was going to spring on her. She commented that she's just a tica and doesn't need fancy wine. I assured her that it wasn't her, it was me, and that she should just enjoy MY wine. She did, she drank most if the bottle on her own, got hammered, and gave me AMAZING sex. I got what I wanted, she got a nice treat, and all was swell in my world that night.

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One-eyed and peg-legged is how I like 'em, ARRRRR!

Ask her what she would like. Maybe a day at Parque Diversion with the K*ds or....

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but your love don't pay my bills,
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MY BLOOD RUNS COLD
MY MEMORY HAS JUST BEEN SOLD
MY ANGEL IS A SEMI-PRO

I have done this a few times in CR and TJ.Even in Indonesia, matter of fact.She would enjoy showing you off.You are a sort of prize, being a westerner.Be nice, respectful and bring a small gift for Mom and chica.She will reward you later in ways you can't imagine.

You need to figure out whether you are the type that can handle saying no to the inevitable requests. If you learn to say no to unreasonable requests, typically the chica will understand and act like there was never a request. Make whatever arrangements you want clear. For example, if you say I am giving you xxx per month and you will stay with me during my visits, then stick to it. By the way I am not recommending that type arrangement (I do hear it sometimes happens ).

BKTUNA
I am never going home

I got an idea why don you just ask her to move to the USA right now? Why dont you just give her 5 grand right now?
Why not just send her your atm card right now?
Why not just give her your car title right now?

WTF man--just bang her--have fun and then move on or be prepared.

Meeting her family wtf...I personally dont give a rat turd to meet the family that is when the relationship starts to suck or get much deeper.

just my 2 cents not that it means anything

You haven’t been to CR yet and already flaming. For some this dating the family sometimes work. It mat not be my cup of tea but if you can make it work, it has its rewards.


“The moment you say 'I know everything' is the end of your growth.”

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Josie you are right --I really dont know shiit from shinola. ALthough, I will say that once you meet the family--you are in for more than just the good times. I am pretty sure this works everywhere in the world, and from what I am reading expecially in the Latin-American culture. As a personel experience relationships in the US became much more once I went to her parents house on a regular basis, and then it began suck as I had to go there so often--it really pissed me off--but I digress that is my opinion of a personal situation

I am not flaming at all--I am just saying that I would imagine these things are next--if that is what you want then wahooo and go for it but if its not what you want then--->isnt that where you are heading.

No flames intended----just trying to take the emotional aspect out of it. Emotions (ohmy gosh she really likes me....... she could be the girl of my dreams that I have been waiting for.. the girl who makes my heart and head feel as light as air)

He: Darling, say those 3 words that make me walk on air
She: Go hang yourself

Ok, so totally irrelevant. I stand accused.

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Whoa definitely moving into novia territory. I don't have much experience with Ticas, however my journeys through Panama, Honduras, and my limited experience in Costa Rica leads me to believe that you should save dinner with the family until you are ready to make the novia leap.

Buen Suerte con tu favorita - the novia sex can be amazing!

Taking the family to dinner is a nice gesture. And yes, it will send some "novio" signals, I wouldn't worry too much about it. They are not going to start mailing the wedding invitations out just because you took them out to dinner.

I agree with BkTuna that you must have enough balls to say "NO" to any RFM's. The mother won't ask you for anything directly (unless she's got no class), but the chica might do it on her mother's behalf. You've got to be strong enough to say no.