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And that should be your first step for you to recover from it. But if you start trying to rationalized and excuse yourself for doing it then you are back to square one. Just move on and best not to even think about it.

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A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

This board is a great place to read and recieve advice about our mutual interests in Costa Rica and other quasi-related stuff. But that is all it is - a place for sharing and receiving ADVICE.

When one of the brotherhood shares an experience it is THEIR experience. By definition none of us know all of what that brother knows about HIS situation. Making suggestions and asking a polite question is one thing, but straight up posting that YOU know better seems, well, a little sabihondo.

RFM's may seem to be a black and white issue but almost everything in life is a shade of grey - RFM's are no exception.

I do not live my life in fear -- so afraid of RFM's (or anything else, for that matter) that I cannot talk about it without letting my fear show through. Lighten up boys! It is just a game, and like MH, we are all just players!

Patriot (and others) have nothing to regret if they enjoy the ride and learn something along the way. And besides, no one can say what they would do in anothers' shoes.

As I post this, I am sitting in my apartment in San Jose with my GF sleeping in my bedroom down the hall. If any of you all disagree with my post, FLAME MY ASS!!! I on the other hand, need to get back to bed.

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These are just the opinion pages and I am just submitting mine.

Poco a poco la vieja sube el coco.

I think that the vast majority of mongers will disagree with you on that one. RFM’s are one of the few black and white issues around. You either sending money or your not. No in between. Chicas do not take promissory notes. All connotations about RFM’s are bad. There are no positive outcomes or redeeming value to it. When you fill out that RFM, you have proclaimed to the chica that you ARE a walking and talking ATM and she has your pin number. But, if there is an example out there of a monger that fills out RFM’s with a positive outcome, let’s hear it.

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Hit them fast, Hit them hard and NEXT!
A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

JOsie,,, just another version of mine is different, huh?

Let's turn that around - let's hear about your negative experiences with RFMs that have led you to make such sweeping assertions.

I mean, it doesn't get any more sweeping than "All connotations about RFMs are BAD."

So let's hear it, J0sie... share with us your experiences with RFMs.



ETA: And don't come back with the standard Rolltide or Patriot stories. We've heard them before. I meant YOU personally.

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I do no have any experience with RFM’s. I’m not that big of an idiot. Now, is does not take that much of a leap of an imagination to know that if I put a bullet thru my head, I will die. I do not have to act on it to be sure.

Now, the redeeming value of this overall thread is that we are seeing all the RFM’s novios coming out. What is the saying about a sucker born every minute …

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Hit them fast, Hit them hard and NEXT!
A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

After reading through some of the recent posts, I searched through my emails to find all the RFMs I’ve received over the years and there were close to 30 of them, and only 4 email RFMs from my ex. I believe most of them were over the phone anyway so I probably lost count.
I will say that she never gave me any BS reason for the RFM, she just asked.

Of the other 26, NONE of them were honored. I did hear most of the standard excuses and some goodies as well. My reply to each of these requests was similar to “We have only seen each other a few times, so I have to say no.” Some of them I am still in contact with. OK 2 of the 12.

I want to re-state that because of the emotional attachment I felt for my ex over the years and then the baby issue I did send her money. I do not regret it either. It did take about 2 years of us seeing each other before she asked me for money, and it was about the time she got fired. I feel that when emotions are involved this is where the RFM issue becomes a gray area.

I also want to re-state that any one who is foolish enough to believe that any chica who is a working girl, and she tells you she will stop working when you send her money, is more naïve than I am. Unless you are in CR all the time and living together SHE WILL BE WORKING and may be working even if you are living together. This is black and white.
BTW my ex never said she would stop working and I never expected it.( Yeah I’m confused by this statement too.)

I do not believe that a person is of weak character for sending money. Possibly in a weak emotional state for what ever reason but not character.

I still believe that IF there is a true emotional attachment on both parts, as there was in the first 3 years of my saga but not in the last 2, the decision is yours. BUT you must be ready to accept the consequences and ridicule from other members of this board if you admit it. AND it does sting, trust me, but it will also make you wiser and more aware in the future.

As posted I did get scammed, and know what to look for the next time around, if there is one. She tried to use guilt on me in a recent email but it didn’t work and won’t. Legal action will work but not the threat of legal action.

BTW; Do you like the new signature ??

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

Thanks for the research but this isn't moving forward. Patriot, I don't know you but I'd like to treat you as I would a friend. I'm not trying to deter you from posting because we all could use every members knowledge.

I would encourage you to participate in other threads that don't involve a potential to talk about your ex. To first accept my advice you have to believe its sincere. I'm not here to feel sorry for you because that doesn't help you move forward.

Again, this isn't intended to be offensive just another reminder...


Cujo

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Does it have to be true or can I make it up?

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Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly!

Patriot – I really mean this “Vaya con Dios” – I think that you are one of the few that have gone thru the ringer and come up a better man. Kudos.

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A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

LMAO!

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Hit them fast, Hit them hard and NEXT!
A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

Like I recently said to a chica: "Saying something over and over does not make it so."

What about this new type of RFM?

https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewto ... ht=#324899



This type of RFM (Request for Monkeys) probably can't be good either, but it sure is entertaining

It's been reported on the ISG that in Thailand the LBFMs often ask for money due to a sick water buffalo at the family farm

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"All them women gonna make me,
teach 'em what they don't know how..." TMIB

True that Cujo, the last step in getting over an ex, is never talking about her in a negative light.

For me, experience.