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I'm going back to SJ in August and have a dilemma...

There are two part-timers there who I met on my last trip who I've continued to keep in contact with. Mind you - I'm not looking for a novia here, but WOULD like to see them both again when I go back.

There is no money involved here at this point with either one of them (other than buying them drinks/dinner/date night stuff).

They both want to spend a lot of time when I go back and I'd love to spend a lot of time with each of them. HOWEVER, how could I possibly keep them separate, NOT know about each other AND still get to strike out on my own some more? I can't get two different hotels.

Any ideas fellas?

Don't go back. Really. I know this seems harsh, but you have forgotten what the "gulch" is all about. It is P4P. It starts with the cash and it ends with the cash. No cash and the chances of you getting some are slim to none unless you're fluent in Spanish. The entire hooker scene is an adult fantasyland. Their interest in you is money. You make the rules, You get to say no or yes depending on what you desire. You are the customer. The DR isn't dateland. You are the one in control. If you cannot harness that control, you'll get screwed in the long run. Hence... it might be better to stay home. That's how I see it.

Berk....

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I'm fluent in Spanish... There really isn't any money involved here.

But there are plenty there who DO involve money who I still want to check out...

Ok... 2 part-time hookers... right? Screwing or no screwing? That make a difference. I would only stick to screwing for $$$. That way you know where it all begins and where it all ends. Otherwise, you have "shit waitin' to happen". Really.

Are these chicas part of the DR scene?

Berk....

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Having had some experience in this area I can suggest two ways in which you might go about this.

The first is to pick one of the two, and not see the other one. Advise her that you will be down there with friends and would like to see her for part of the time that you're there. Simple, and easy. It just means that you commit to not seeing one and there should be no problem.

The second way is to plan it as "two" trips. Tell girl #1 that you will be there for "x" number of days, and would like to see her for part of the time. At the end of those days check out of the hotel and hop in a cab to go to the "airport" (new hotel) You then start the second part of your trip. with girl #2. Never the two shall meet and you won't be juggling these girls. You still say that you're with friends and want to spend free time with whichever one of the girls you happen to be seeing at the time.

All of this assumes that the girls don't run in the same social circles, and that you can plan activities that will keep you out of the sight range of the other one. If this isn't the case then either don't go or tell one of them that you're with the other one and make a break from her. This will be easier in the long run. No one wants the undue stress that comes of looking over their shoulder and hiding all the time. I've done that, and it takes a lot of the joy out of the trip.

Too Late!

They all ready know about this post.

They know where you are right now.

The little darling grapevine is faster than light and is everywhere.

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My advice is to be honest with them. Tell each that you are not exclusive and you will be seeing other people. They won't explode although they may make some interesting noises on their way to either accepting that fact gracefully or moving on. You win either way.

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It depends on what your reasons and goals are for returning to ground you have already plowed. That is a question only you can answer.

I agree with Berk. In the end it is always about money -- part-timer, full timer or not – it is about what you can give to them. Quite frankly, it is also about what she (they) can give to you.

Since you speak Spanish you are undoubtedly a better “catch” because they can comfortably communicate with you and get some sense of relationship by being with you (as opposed to the frustration of laboriously trying to communicate). If you are good looking so much the better for her (them).

But what they are interested in are the financial benefits you can provide.

I was going to give you advice here, but then I noticed you were soliciting it from 'honorable' types, and that aint me.

Whether they are pros, semi-pros or non-pros, you should level with them and tell them the truth. Let the chips fall where they may. I don't see any down side to this "dilemma."

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I was on your same position a couple of trips back and like Pac told you I came out clean and told them. They made a face and some noise and then ask when their schedule was up. Since then we are all a happy family. On my last trip, the tica reminded me that it was time for the Colombiana to show up. There are no part-timers it is only one of our fantasy concepts. Let them know and rip the rewards.

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Mysnoatb:

interesting interesting: Remember I do not know you and you do not know me. So this is not personal it is just a reaction to the words you put in your post. You do not have a grasp of reality and you have no imagination all at the same time. Any relationship with a girl you meet in the part of San Jose that we hang out in is going to eventually involve money. Maybe not the first day may be not the 10th day but the day will come. That's the part about not having a grasp of reality.

Now for the part about not having any imagination. Let's suppose what you are saying is true. Remember I do not believe it is. But if it was all you would have to do is plan a seven-day trip. Till girl number one you are arriving early on day one and leaving early on day four. Till girl two you are arriving late on day four and leaving early days seven. You get all you want and they get their theoretical one-on-one relationship. Now come on it doesn't take a genius to come up with that just a devious individual. Oh yeah that could be me.

Or you could show up and what happens happens it's not like you're in love. Just my humble opinion.

Lee

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Let me give you some advice from my experience. Never, ever, pin yourself down to one or two girls you meet in CR. I got hooked up with a Dominican that I was freakin' crazy about. But, I am also a hobbyist. I just have to admit that. But, I let myself be controlled by one female when I wanted to be free and sample all the merchandise available. So, once she got her "hooks" in to me, paradise turned in to hell. Everytime I went to CR, I would have to lie about when I was coming in to town just so I could play for awhile. I was caught on several occasions and it made the rest of my "vacation" hell.

Costa Rica is a playground for guys who want to hobby. Don't make the mistake of committing to one or two women there. They will hound you, follow you, find out your g*d damn flight schedule, unexpectedly meet you at the airport etc... Go, have fun, find other playthings and move on. There is an endless supply. Frankly, I have not been back to CR for well over a year. I go to Panama and Colombia now. Why? I turned paradise in to hell. I don't want to be hounded, spied on, followed nor harassed. Just have fun with the merchandise and move on. Forget about the exclusivity. It doesn't work in the long run. And, oh, yeah. It will become about money eventually. That is the nature of the beast. Nothing against the chicas involved. That's just the nature of the game. A game that you, I, nor anyone else needs to play. Just my 2 colones.

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MYs : You were with both girls, had sex, but didn't pay? Is that your situation? Now you want to see if they were part-time working girls who gave you sex because they really like you? Is that what you're saying?

I take a slightly less jaded view than some may. It's entirely possible one or both is attracted to you. But you mentioned you didn't want this to be a "novia" thing, so I'm a little confused what it is you want. In case you would be open to a "novia" thing (but haven't admitted that to yourself), it's cool. Latinas are the shit. Getting involved with a few myself was some of the hottest sex I ever had, and last night was mind-blowing (among other things blown). The only hitch I see is these girls in question are hookers. So nothing they say now or at any time in the future, is reliable. It's difficult enough discerning whether "civilian" girls are being straight with you. Even if you did have one of these girls in your back pocket, you'd always suspect they were bullshitting you, which is the M.O. of hookers.

In case you're thinking these girls are with you because of the great sex, then you really are kidding yourself. Great sex for a woman is a result of an honest, true relationship. It's not like men, who can compartmentalize. As far a seeing both for (or not for) money, and additional mongering too, it can be done. If you find the adventure of it rings your bell, go for it.

When/if you decide you want a Latina for your very own, get out of the gulch. Do a little homework, travel a bit, meet 25 non-working girls, and date some. Then you'll be in a position to make a sober decision. It may take some years but will be a blast along the way. If, as you say, you're not interested in a novia but want more than the same ol' p4p offers, then continue playing the games with these girls. It seems to be working, spinning this stuff in your head, getting worked up, etc.

It will probably be entirely different than what's in your head now - once you get down there. It almost always is!

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