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I do not talk about it I have no wife kides etc I just dont kiss and tell as a rule.I do wear a BM tee shirt once and a while an you tend to get a few grins out some guys

i tell everyone except for parents and the folks at work. otherwise, i revel in my past trips to CR, Rio upcoming in April, Asia in summer. no wife or K*ds, so why not? without exception, all of my married friends wish they were doing what i am doing - they tell me so and ask for the details. life isn't so bad, is it?

Do I tell my friends who I really am? Hell yes! If someone has a problem with what I do to the point of judging me, phuck 'em! They were never my friend to begin with!

So many people hide their lives full of deceit behind a cardboard front then wonder why the need a shrink and meds to beat back the anxiety. My advice is to stop the insanity, be yourself unashamedly and sort out your true friends!

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This is a great thread with many interesting and varied points being made so far.
I think that the US is one of the few countries in the world where it is frowned on to such an extreme and this might not be such an issue for mongers from other nations.

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Yes, it cost him a relationship that was built on lies. We all know the risks that this hobby brings with it. Why would anyone want to cause himself troubles?

just my 2C...

Since I was introduce way back in Texas by some perverted co-workers to our hobby, we went to Nuevo Laredo, it is obvious that some of them know. I have repaid them by taking them to Reynosa and Tijuana. I’m still in touch with some of them and trying to get them to come to CR. But other than that small group, I do not share my exploits with anyone at work.

I just opened up to my brother because I saw him on a hospital bed after a heart attack and no wife around. The gringa had better things to do. He will be enjoying CR with me in May. No one else in my family knows about my trips. Not because I’m ashamed of the hobby but because I do not like to explain my actions to anyone. If I ever feel like sharing something, CRT is big enough for me to give a shout and get a response from like-minded gentleman.

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Can I hear an "Amen!"

I used to talk more about my C.R. trips until I quickly realized that any of the guys I was talking to about it will never grow the balls to follow my tapping cane to Central America. A few have been jealous, a few have been dismissive, but none (even the females in my circle) have openly been judgemental or harsh with me about it.

In fact, after a quiet discussion around my dining room table one night, one of the girls pulled me aside and confided that she had been a prostitute in Minneapolis, specializing in dildo shows/paid sex at bachelor parties.

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I liked what PacoLoco had to say and I’ve slightly edited it: ABSO-PH*CKIN-LUTELY NOT.

I believe it is okay to share experiences and knowledge with like-minded mongers or wanna-be mongers; people in whom you have a high degree of confidence and trust. I am careful to be discrete with whom I share the information. And I only share it with people who have been my wingman in the past or whom I know are mongers based on the subtle cues we give one another.

Another consideration is your position in life, meaning marriage, Ch*ldren or not; position in your work world and in your community. I know some people who are fairly high profile in their own environments and most of them have learned to keep their mouths shut.

If you are bragging about your exploits, you have to be introspective and ask yourself why you feel compelled to boast.

It is remarkable what you can do when you learn to keep your mouth shut.

I've only told my boss, he's openly envious of the photos I bring back, but he's married for all intents & purposes & unwilling to risk that for reasons I can understand.

My family knows I have friends in SJO & visit them frequently, but no more details than that. They're pretty straight-laced, while I'm apparently the milkman's K*D!

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I do NOT brag and I have some degree of "position" and if that "position" is in jeopardy, screw them and the horses they rode in on. I also do not need to take pictures of the women I screw, let alone movies/video. If I can't or don't remember what went down, it wasn't very memorable.

I, bluntly, don't understand the married guys....and especially the guys with stateside girlfriends who feel the need to cheat (and that is what it is). There absence is all the better for me....what would they think of their wife or girlfriend going to Jamaica to "...find her groove..."??????? What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

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I for one think that we should should not bragg about what we do. I have a friend who's name is Howard and he brings back pics and it has made it impossisible for all the married men in our town to go so I think it is to keep it to ourself.

Absofreakinlutely!

The reactions vary from the predictable "I don't need to pay for it" to "can you do that here...." etc. But when I have a trip booked and I'm getting close, as in the day before I leave, the envy starts pouring out of my friends, then they want photos and stories and they live vicariously through me, make me send TR to e-mail addy's the SO's don't know about etc.

FFS, I showed my boss my Excel spreadsheet listing all my anticipated expenses for my month in MDE. First he shook his head, then he got a little preachy about being safe, now he he just knows it makes me happy.

It helps I work the graveyard shift with 2-3 people on staff, I don't know if I'd be this open at work if I worked the day shift with 40-50 people including many women around that would find this offensive.

Told my ex-wife about my first trip, she hasn't spoken to me since, so I got that working for me!

Ha!

That's one huge benefit. And at least your honest...

I can appreciate the guys who want to maintain their reputation (personal, professional or otherwise) and keep their hobby secret. There's enough reasons already posted in this thread.

Perhaps, I'm throwing caution to the wind, but I don't keep my little hobby a close-guarded secret. Over the course of almost 5 years, I've brought at least a dozen guys to CR...and one buddy to Colombia. My wingmen have included friends, co-workers and neighbors. This Friday, my neighbor, a co-worker and four friends arrive in San Jose. For three of them, it will be their first CR trip. I know a number of other guys who would love to come along, but because of "family commitments" (a nagging wife) will never make it.

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I tend not to tell... I would only tell after I've figured out that the person is ok with the general sentiment of our hobby...

It's just not worth the heartache and aggravation in such an incredibly puritanical society as the US.