I would like to address a couple of things that chi-trekker said:
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This whole section and its treatment is what has me bothered. Guys on the board seem to think that novia = dating hookers. And, that is pretty much your ONLY option in CR or your BEST option.
I really don't know why you think that. Most of us are having relationships with women, most of whom have been working girls. There is a wealth of opinion that dating working girls is a bad proposition. I believe this board was formed for those of us who are interested in a better understanding of women in general and some of the special motivations unique to working or former working girl.
I have read many accounts of mongers failure with working girls. I believe that many of these men have never had a "successful" relationship with any woman, working or non. The common denominator in their failed relationships remains the same and seems to remain invisible to them.
The part that puzzles me is that many seem to come looking for reinforcement that the breakup was preordained because the woman was a working girl. Instead of asking, "why did the whole thing go wrong?", then listening to the responses and analyzing the input and examining what part may apply to them and how they might change their approach, they only seem to want validation that former putas are somehow impossible to have a relationship with.
My participation helps me to understand the thinking of others and is meant to assist those who want to analyze the common denominator and attempt to change. Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result. I try to offer a new perspective that may help those who are tired of failing using the same techniques; a new tool in the toolbox.
Sure, it is much easier to just get together and reinforce the (in my opinion, false) belief that the monger did everything right and the puta is completely unfathomable in her bizarre behavior. We can be a band of "phuck 'em, pay 'em and dump 'em" brothers because there is no way to have a relationship with a 'ho!
Maybe I mistakenly thought that we all wanted to know more about the workings of the female mind, and especially females who are or have been working. I thought that my perspective might offer some insights, since I have been single and actively dating a variety of women for all but three years of my adult life (a couple of quick learning experiences with matrimony). Ask me about raising K*ds and I am at a complete loss, but I have made a study of women and the way they think, what motivates them and what it takes to get them into bed.
Currently, I am living with a former working girl and have been for nearly a year. I thought this might possibly give someone a little different perspective than constantly getting the report from guys who have tried, failed and who blames the chica in toda, which seems to be the case in the majority of the accounts I have read.
For anyone who is so offended by my brass assessment that having a relationship with a puta is impossible that they must call me names and threaten me via PM and on the board, my sincere apologies. I am absolutely certain that you are correct: Continuing to make attempts at a relationship with little understanding of putas and women in general will invariable lead to failure.
Why do I even care about the strongly held opinions of those who disagree with me? Because many people are aware that what they have tried does not work or don't even know where to begin. I get PMs all the time saying that they may have been skeptical but that the things I have told them have proven correct and that it may have helped change their lives. The hatred I get from the few who are offended by my audacious assertions is more than made up for with the gratitude I get from the guys who want a little help getting out of their own way.
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I'm not wragging on P4P and believe it has its own good purpose. This is providing it is kept at that level. I have nothing against these women as women. I choose to think they MAKE SHITTY novias. Horrible in fact!!!! This is not an opinion, but this is a fact and supported by many, many cases.
And I absolutely agree with this "fact": Without a basic working knowledge of their motivations and how to deal with them, we are doomed to fail over and over. The fault is not in the attempt but in the fact that we need to be better armed for the fight. what we have now is simply documentation that trying the same failed method over and over will yield the same result.
Santa's Bro - I don't need to be right all the time and I don't need the admiration of all. I learn from others experiences as well. My opinion is just that and I am more than open to hearing opposing opinions when they are supported with some data. When guys decide to say things like I must think I am "Dr. Phil" and if I don't cow-tow to their chest pounding they will come look me up, then I know they have no real argument. They just want someone to commiserate with and share their contempt for working girls (and women in general, for that matter).
In summary, if you think that "dating a puta" is folly, please, don't read this board. We already have that opinion in spades. How about letting those of us who are working on it have somewhere to help each other in our soon-to-be failed attempts. Thank you.
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"Your love gives me such a thrill
but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker
Disclaimer: The above is merely the opinion of the author unless specific scientific data is included.
Your mileage may vary.
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I'm not saying a successful relationship with a girl who has a"checkered background" is impossible...just very unlikely.
