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I have a few guys I work with my age and even younger that I talk to about going to CR.

I try and explain to them what a great time it is and how you can leave all your worries behind and just have a good time.

Which brought me to this thought/question:

Do you think guys particularly at SL or within tight CRT groups get along so well is because of the abundance of available girls?

Meaning, does it change the attitude or the dynamic of a group (of men) when that concern isn't there?

Not that I need a reason for guys to get along like brothers down there. But it brought out a social point that piqued my interest. Do you guys think the ability to party, and most importantly get readily laid turns us all into easy going guys?

Cujo

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I think that the attitude does change. And I think that the number of available women takes the pressure off. We're not all looking to score the same damn woman. It eases the situation and allows us to relax and enjoy each others company. No C*ck blocking. I'm in a rural area and the men out number the women 6 to 1. It sucks!

I agree, it really changes the atmosphere. Sometimes, you're too drained, all you want to do is BS with the guys for a bit.

You're not in competition any more. You went from being fellow predators to being the prey.

Just being on a vacation seems to let the average guy unwind. You're not at work or at home, you've gone miles away purposely to relax and not stress. This may not apply so much to the local guys, but it has a lot to do with it for me. I'll let you know when I get there. This theory needs further testing.

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Cujo, you may be on to something. I personally find Costa Rica liberating for lots of little reasons. Want to smoke a cigar and have a beer with breakfast? No problem, pura vida, bubba. Want to gamble at 3:00 am? OK, sure. Want to hang out with chicas? Any time, any place, any number, it's all good. The entire experience (including the delightful climate and general laid-back attitude of people) is so different than my normal environment in the US that I find myself open to comraderie with perfect strangers.


Osogrande

You can't buy happiness, but you can rent it.

Yeah! What he said!

Did you ever notice you will all be sitting around one of the SL tables Bull S*itting with the guys... a beauty will walk by and you all talk to each other like hey Go PHUCK HER, or I had her, give her a try.....

The entire concept is mind boggling as it would never occur in the states... Simply stated we drop all our ME ME ME mentality and tend to simply enjoy the sites sounds and times...

That and the fact non of us have that DSB in our systems.. "deadley Semen Backup"

Cujo

You may be on to something. I have a couple of opinions, as well, as to why so many CRTers are tight. First, guys like me, mongers, share a similar interest which is generally frowned upon in the US. We get to CR, say the Del Rey or SL, and find it full of guys who are like minded and we find ourselves actually accepted for who we are. No guilt, no shame and we share this powerful interest. That, in itself, breaks down barriers. Second, most of us are orgasmically happy to be down there, and at the time, have no worries. Thus, we are the best and friendliest we can be. There is no rank, no stratification, no social pressure, as all these elements are left at home. We're just there to have a good time. IMO, these factors, together, lend towards a strong bonding experience between us.

Ciaociao

IMHO- the answer is yes.The abundance/availability of women willing to go with you for a price takes the competitiveness out of the equation. Result everyone should be able to find what they want. It also takes looks (ours) out of the equation.Ymmv comes into play more than we might think as the girls might want to be with a younger/fitter guy or one she just feels comfortable with etc. etc.Example some guys love repeats some want a different women every hour,every trip .This makes the majority of mongers comfortable and looser and willing to be friends rather than adversarys.However if you had fight to get a tica(not many working girls) 99.9% of us would be somewhere else. OK time to study raceing form.

When the party is sausage-laden, it's always a downer!
When bunda is in abundance, it's certainly going down!

my .02...

And some extra change:


--WARNING! HEAVY STUFF AHEAD!!--

-> The alpha, or predominant male, exists in almost every mammalian society, and even moreso in the primate-derived ones. The leader of the pack certainly exists in CR within our individual mongering collectives. Within each click, one can find a key figure who espouses the model of the pride leader: someone familiar with the territory, comfortable in their position, and generally having time with many of the females, especially the younger, more desireable ones, sometimes exclusively even if high rollers are around. They are temporary nomads in the day-to-day cycle of Mongaritaville, and are generally ignored, hence many of the posts about "Man, San Jose Sucks ass because I didn't get any hot pu*sy!". And girls are trained and know better than to pay them attention, as the alphas are always there when the party dies down.

-> To be an alpha to any number of women, and among your peers, you need two of the three key offerings: time, wealth or youth. It's a Venn diagram and it makes sense, especially when it concerns our ladies who behave and act as they should - as hominds, as we do. They respect those values - be they Latina or Thai. I think we can all agree a woman will treat a man in her social circles more favorably if he provides a higher percentage of those three virtues. Penis length (or in my case, girth ) aside, it takes some serious honesty with yourself to understand that this isn't so far fetched.

-> As a societal analysis takes hold in your mind as you review this, you may agree that this is simply psychology 101 -- that we, as mongerers, are no different in San Jose than we would act in another city in the world. Consider a scenario where we all were very successful Chinese businessmen who visited Las Vegas frequently. Assume for a moment that the quantity of women were similar (from Canada, Britain, Australia, and Europe) and it were legal. The only variables here are your time, your money and your youth. We all have a pocket full of money the first day, and for a day, you can almost live likely anyone else. I also chuckle when someone in my conversational range mentions that they have "it made, because we look like Brad Pitt!", inferring that simply our youth will provide the keys to the Vagina Castle. Problem is, with youth comes inexperience, so the Venn diagram has a magical fourth dimension and I can't really explain it but somtimes luck, sometimes fate dictates who truly has a good time in San Jose.

-> As males, our instincts and needs are no better hidden than those of the women we seek. While we seek the ability to spread as much seed as possible (Hey, It's Genetic!) women innately desire stability, a monogamous relationship (ha!) and security for their offspring. Coupled with their desire to seek out the stronger, more successful males, and you have it all in a nutshell. The alphas tend to get better, more frequent pu*sy, probably at rates that would piss most of us off. As with everything, I believe there is a catch to this panacea -- that the alphas are tracked and preyed upon like no others by the hotter women, and that they may actually work *harder* not to get latched into a societal sticky point - be it fatherhood or legal issues - within such a promiscuous playground environment. It's a coin with two definite sides.

-> When I consider my mongering history, I can safely say that I had many women in my bed prior to mongering, and could easily have many now outside of San Jose in my stage of life were I to put a little time, money and effort into these relationships. As I review my position in the standard deviation of "loser" to "lusted-after", I am happy with my position of chief cook and bottle washer. Simply put, I pick as many nits from the scalps of those I socialize with as they do when they socialize with their clicks.

-> In closing, I can honestly say the more time outside of your established social norms you spend in alternative settings, the more classification you can place on your relationships with others. I am both impressed with and depressed by the people I know and socialize with. Of course, some of that depression comes because they speak better spanish, have more money, or have more time in the great land of milk and honeys.

-> Finally, consider that San Jose is a time-compressed version of your teenaged years, but with the option to relieve it Groundhog Day ala Bill Murray if you choose. Some folks take several trips to realize it can be a Fantasy Island or place to get Lost.


Of course, your mileage may vary.

There's women, there's beer, we've been getting laid like crazy, there's no rules, there's no responsibility, there's even more women, we are treated like rock stars, we're getting laid some more.

Yeah, we're all happy down there......did I mention there's women


PURA VIDA!

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Good thoughts, ZBW. I think your "youth, money, time" paradigm may be askew a little.

Money is good, but without wit, humor and confidence money can get boring real fast. If money is her only motivation the resulting "passion" suffers. Yes, having enough money is important or at least giving the illusion that money is not a problem.

"Time" is also overrated if you are talking about time-on-scene. One of my best, most productive gigs was to go into the local gold clubhouse mid-day. If an interesting specimen was available I would engage her in conversation before I ever sat down or ordered a drink. I would quickly let her know that I found her look interesting and would like to get to know her but I have no time. I am here to meet a friend, don't see him, and have another imminent engagement. Her guard is down because I put a time constraint on our conversation. If she finds me interesting, she is forced to give me the data now of lose the opportunity. Total time in the clubhouse: 10 minutes or less, expenditure: $0. The venue establishes my financial situation, I obviously am busy and have a life.

As far as getting back on topic: I clearly remember standing in a group of 5-6 guys at the SL. We had just said hello to a well respected provider and shared our notes. We had all been with her, some multiple times and we all agreed we would do her again. Not competition required!

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Ciao and I have talked about this very thing before, and I'm in total agreement with his points here (as well as most of the contributors).

These are indeed the reasons.

I was hanging out in an AMP here in the US. I was talking to my friend, the owner, and I was watching the security cameras. I was fascinated by the waiting room. Sitting in a 12X12 room on couple little couches was a man in a nice suit, who drove up in a nice Merc, a frat boy in a baseball hat who drove up in a pickup, a hispanic K*D in dirty painters clothes, a black guy who was blinged-out in a Caprice with 22" rims, and older white man who looked like your average ex marine from the Vietnam era, still sporting the buzz. You couldn't find a much more diverse group of guys in the country, and definitely would never have them all in the same confined space. These guys had nothing in common and wouldn't give each other the time of day in any other venue. But here I was staring in fascination at the scene and listening to them talk away like the best of friends about baseball, the local election, the roads, and the girls. Hell they may have all been waiting to see the same girl. It was a sight you wouldn't see anywhere else other than in a brothel. No barriers, no cliques, no socio-economic walls, no racial divides, just men. Men getting what they wanted.

In many ways it was the egalitarian thing ever I've seen. There is one little funny note though. All of the guys would pay the same price except the painter. He would be charged $20-40 less than everyone else.

I think that when men are not getting laid whenever they want ( which is the reality for many men) the energy and frustraton have to go somewhere and that may be into a pissy attitude or an aggressive tone.
Suppresson of the libido can lead to violence. One of my theories of why middle eastern men are set off so easily.

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