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Very true, Archie!

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Gracia Amigos.

As I said, it's a whole lot more complicated than we are all addressing here (or could understand). But there are reasons.

Great thread guys. It's got the whole range of opinions and experiences. I liked what Santa said about loving with your heart. I've fallen for a working girl myself. I feel things with her that I've never felt before, or it was so long ago, that I've forgotten how they feel. Not just sex, although that was the initial attraction. How do I deal with it? A couple of other chicas that I've come to like and enjoy, when mine is most likely 'busy'. I try to be open and honest with her, even about the other chicas. The other chicas have started to become friends, so it's nice to have another perspective on things. Sometimes they can even shine a little light on 'chica logic', which is still largely a mystery. I'm just letting things flow. Trying to analyze with my head, but act with my heart. If it's in the stars to be, then so be it. If not, well I've come away richer for the experience of knowing her and feeling what we've felt together. Is it hard on the heart at times, hell yeah! But life is too short, not to go for something good.

never seen so much legitimate conversation without the usual suspects chiming in. thanks for sharing everyone

Actually, a lot HAVE chimed in, only so far with very interesting/useful info...

I must admit, a lot of the stuff said here rings true...

I also am QUITE sure that she doesn't even think about the miles of dick she sucks... it gets compartamentalized in that chica brain with the - "it's a job" thoughts...

Her sister is a puta, and she's a puta...

And you guys are 100% correct, the problem is in MY brain... it's not that I can't wrap my mind around her being a puta... at first that was DEFINITELY true... I couldn't stand that she would sell her body, it infuriated me, and made me go nuts...

Several guys here can attest to how crazy this whole thing made me.

HOWEVER, I did let that go...

As to not going to her MP, and that easing my mind, well, it doesn't. I tried that, and I kept thinking about these girls, and how much dick they go through, and I don't care about them, but it takes my mind to her...

The problem is not her being a puta, but going through that many guys that she otherwise would rather spit on... (and I don't mean on their dick for lube...)

I KNOW this is MY problem. What I'm trying to figure out is how anyone can watch someone they care about do that kind of damage to herself...

I think PR's AA idea is a valid thought... This is the closest idea I have come to and seen an answer...

I truly appreciate everyone's ideas and messages...

Like I continue to say, I'm not in love with her anymore...

Now to the guy that said that that "love always" thing goes away, I REALLY REALLY REALLY wish that were true... I STILL love every person I've ever loved, no matter how bad the breakup was...

Again, thanks everyone for the ideas... I am still at a loss for how to deal with this aspect, but I HAVE moved on to other chicas, had 2 steady's, and AMAZING sexual encounters since her, and would never go back...

Would I be exclusive again??? Probably not... at least not in a LOOONG time...

I HOPE that I can figure out how to deal with this at some point though...

and as for not going to her MP.... HELL NO, I LOVE THAT PLACE, AND... my ATF Phuck in CR works there... This girl does things with her ass that just defy explanation...

Love is a moment in time that lasts forever.

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I would say that retarded is the wrong word. Period. Here's my take - all of us have genetically inherited a certain way of thinking. You can call it neuro-pathways. Its in our blood. For those of us, who come from good families with a long line of "good genes", it is very difficult to end-up in a spot such as - the need to suck C*ck for a living. Okay - perhaps addiction may be an exception.

To make this more clear - these girls just don't have it in their blood to change. Their great-grandparents, grandparents, themselves, and their daughters all mostly have evolved from a long genetic line of prostitution and surviving by selling their pu*sy. I don't believe that prostitution is inherited - but who can disagree that stupidity, which can lead to poverty is a learned or socialized thing??

So, you can give them an opportunity - and they won't see it, as such. Their neuro-pathways are not wired that way.

This brings to point a long standing opinion of mine - if you are okay with your girlfriends occupation and don't care - then cool. If you want something else, then why waste your time? There are many chicas in Costa Rica that are not "evolved" that way.

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Genetic prostitutes? I don't think so. They may be products of their environment but I don't think they are genetically engineered prostitutes.

Remember, in Latin America, most people live and die in the same social strata. The American Dream, upward mobility for the ambitious, is not part of their culture.

My girl comes from a good family. Her father was stricken with a debilitating disease and was no longer able to work. Her sister is finishing med school for her GP (yes, I have seen her in her scrubs many times). My girl ended up working because she was a rebellious young lady who was outside her parents control in her teens. She is remarkably well adjusted.

Many of my amigas, working chicas, are actively pursuing other work. One of the top girls at SL for many years is now working at Taco Bell. Another has several businesses (internet cafe, beauty salon). She works because she likes the attention and she is always looking for a rich boyfriend (pretty successfully).

If what you say was correct, chi, then all women who ever worked would still be working. It just ain't so, IMHO.

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Dexter, QBF. Thanks for being honest and sharing. We all have our opinions. They are women, And they are different. I beleive we have evolved that way. Which means the differences are in the genes. Now the diffences between women, hell I can not understand a woman. So understanding women is beyond me.

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DeterX's assessment that over 95% of these girls have mental problems, might be more realistic than you think. I don't believe its 95%, but its probably in the majority. But, this is besides my point.

No - I don't think there is a specific gene for prostitution. However, I do believe in evolution and I believe that these women come from gene pools where the strength IS NOT things like hard work, education and upward mobility. The strength is survival and maintaining a standard and following what mom tells you to do.

Case in point - there is a guy in Escazu who unfortunately married one, who also has a young boy of school age. They have not gotten along and basically she dumped him and moved. Why? Because he was trying to "reform" her. Why did she hate that? Because, she is comfortable doing what she did. It was her mom did. Its what her grandma did. Its likely what they keep telling her to do - and don't listen to the evil gringo with money. It sounds crazy, but its reality. He not only has a nice modern american home, but has offered to pay for tuition for her K*D to attend the Country Day School which is about $12k per year. What does she do? She moved out with the K*D and filed divorce. She is now living in a chicken shack in Tibas and most likely back to hooking. Why? Because she doesn't want to change.

The movie "Lady in Red" is simply a movie. None of that shit happens in real life. Why did this girl go back to the MP? She says she doesn't like it - but I think she is lying. She likes it alright. She might not like sucking C*ck all day long, but probably thinks there are worse things. She also probably thinks that this is her profession, her mom trained her, and its her slot in life. She might even be proud of herself and miss her coworkers and clientele.

Back to the gene pool - you can give these girls a golden opportunity - and MOST - because they have not evolved that way, won't even understand that is an opportunity. Rather, they will see it as a threat or uncertainty.

As for the girl at Taco Bell - I wouldn't hold your breath and pray she keeps her job there. After working over a hot stove for less than $20 per day, you might be surprised to see her back perched on a bar stool, smoking, drinking, gabbing and flirting with older gringos. This is soooooo much easier and she has a good chance at making $60 for doing very little. I've run into many who have gone on stints of studying, working in real estate, bar tending and what have you. They always end up back to where there started, because it is what they know best.

This IMHO is true for over 90% of them. There is the mine is special and different thing - well if that is true - she is in the less than 10% and IMHO will take a LONG TIME to change her ways.

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What a dangerous web we weave for ourselves becoming entangled with hookers. I agree with ChiTrekkers post in it's entirety.

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I think this thread have fallen off the cliff and has been hijack by “angry novios” and borderline racists living in CR. I was planning to write a big dissertation about this but I just do not have the energy level or the inclination to waste my time. Brothers, read your posted comments, reflect and amend your ways. Look inside of yourselves to see what is broken. We already know that the chicas have a problem when they have to do P4P for a living. But some of your comments have a hidden agenda that I’m not feeling un-comfortable with. As “broken” as the chicas might be, YOU might be just as bad.

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To the guys who want a novia, who is a sex worker, I think you should read the above quote over and over again. The thing I don't understand - why settle for this on a permanent basis, when all it takes is a little bit of work and risk, to find a non-sex worker in Costa Rica or anywhere in the world? Get outside the gulch and put some time and be patient.


When I moved down, I was determined to find a non-puta for a regular or perhaps a novia. It wasn't perfect and it was really hard. I kissed several bad frogs. My first real novia, was a disaster from a very poor family. Her only assets was her looks and her skills in bed. But, she wasn't a puta. So, again, the first one might not work, but give it time. I'm not saying you can't find a novia down here, you just might be "looking for love in all the wrong places" if she happens to be a sex-worker in the gulch.

I will also rewind amd give you one experience of mine which happened 3 years ago. I met a cute Tica online and we had our first date at the SL. (I KNOW LAUGH YOUR ASS OFF... SHE CLAIMED SHE DIDN'T KNOW WHERE IT WAS AND NEEDED DIRECTIONS AND BLAH, BLAH, BLAH). I was sucker. I was still a tourist and had not yet moved down here. I finally moved down and settled into an apartment. I truly believed she was not a puta until she moved in. Then, the nightmare began. I had heard rumors about her, but had no hard evidence to prove she ever worked in sex, except for her BUTT LAZY ATTITUDE, IGNORANCE, and a whole host of other traits they are known for.

Beyond the rumors, there were a couple of incidents that happened in her house, which gave her away. When I finish, I will explain their significance. One time, as a tourist, I came to her house and was welcomed with open-arms by her family. I gave J* my SL keys. She hung them right on the front door, next to the rest of the house keys, in plain vision. Now what does that say? It gave me a weird feeling, because after all, this girl has never been to the SL, except with me. It also gave me a weird feeling, because her family saw they keys, and didn't seem to mind. They know what the SL is!!!!! The other little hint - was an argument, in which her father was bitching about everything and then eventually started calling her a whore and using my name in the same sentence. My spanish was bad at that point, but I made enough of it out. I chose to ignore my inner instinct, and let her ruin my life for the next 2 months. Guess where she ended up after I kicked her out of the house???? Perched on a bar stool at the SL and rubbing it in my nose.

I LEARNED MY LESSON. Pay them for time. Nothing more.

What is the point??? We gringos have lost our basic instincts of what is right, wrong, good and bad, because we are saturated with computers, IPODs and the modern world. We also have this ego about us that thinks we can save these girls, because AFTER ALL WE ARE MUCH BETTER THAN THEM. Well, I'm not saying we are better, but what I am saying is we will never be their knights in shining armor. I thought I could save J* when in fact she was probably just looking for a temporary life raft. For most of them, that is all it is, a temporary break with an amante. We seem to be the ones that stretch it to more than it really is.

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This is priceless... I wake up eagerly every morning to see the next episode of Puta Love. Thanks for the morning entertainment, it genuinely brings a smile to my face.

Puta, Puta, gulch at night
Doin some business and doin it right
In the evenin
Its pretty pleasin

Puta chica, gringo Joe
Do the puta dance in the Del Ray casino
And they shimmy
And Joe is a newbie

And they whirled and they twirled and they tangoed
Singin and exchanging dinero
Then its on to the hotel rooms above
It looks like puta love

Nibbling on orejas, chewin on tetas
Joe says to his chica, honey, would you please take my leche?
And she says, de nada
Pero, necesito mi plata

And now hes slurping her chocha
Rubbin her clit
Cuerpo a cuerpo, steamy and wet
She screams O Papi..and her pussy’s so sloppy,

And they whirled and they twirled and they tangoed
Singin and exchanging dinero
Shaking the hotel rooms above
It looks like puta love

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