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QBF,
I feel for you, and know exactly what you mean. And your guilt and worry is rational but misplaced. A lot of what I'm hearing has more to do with YOUR perception of the game than hers. You obviously feel that what she does is wrong and that it's negative and harmful. There's nothing wrong with what she does for a living. We can get into a long and drawn out discussion on the perils and merits of P4P, but that will take forever (see my boring dissertation in the "What do they really make" thread). But the point is that it's YOUR perception that what she's doing is wrong, and it's THAT perception that is causing this problem.
She manipulates men's weakness for access to first-world money to use in her third/second-world existence. And she also does so in a way that allows her to be ironically independent of the control of relying on A man. And she does so with a little light labor and in a social setting where she's totally protected, has access to all her friends, and someone else conducts all her advertising and promotion for a percentage of what she would otherwise make. She doesn't have to manage any of that, which she probably wouldn't do as well since she doesn't have an MBA, or even a ColoMBA.
And as for her not liking the business, maybe she doesn't. Find me 100 employees and ask them how much they like their work and I will find you 70 who friggin hate it, 10 who really don't like it, 10 who don't care, and 10 who love it. And as for it being bad for her and hard on her, well all labor intensive work is, this isn't much different. But it DOES allow her an income she could not get otherwise. I don't know ALL the details of an MP chicas finances, but I do know all about them in the AMPs and in Asia and I can tell you at least there, the income they generate is significantly better than the alternatives.
In my opinion you would be FAR more productive and helpful to concern yourself (or beat yourself up over) the mismanagement of those funds than how she earns them. That is a FAR greater tragedy, and it ALWAYS is in my opinion. I've known a girl who went berzerk and earned $50K a month for three months straight before collapsing. But it was the coke and lifestyle that collapsed her in the end, not the astounding number of sessions on her back in such a short time. It was her Coke habit, Gambling habit and $1000 handbag habit that shocked me. It was her lack of financial planning (she still retired just fine BTW). Lament that failing on her part, not how she's able to earn a living for herself in a country where most women are reliant on others to help them.
So she does 8 guys a day. What's wrong with that? She's succeeded in being selected 8 times in a day by guys who have toiled for their hard earned cash only in order to come and give it to her for a few minutes of her time. They have notified her and all her friends that they're willing to work hard for the money and think she's worth giving it to.
It's complicated, far more complicated than I'm making out here. But I'd also like to echo the sentiments expressed earlier by someone (sorry don't remember who) who reference the fact that we will never understand everything that's going on. That is so true. And not because they're retarded, or because they're chicas (which is an aspect), but because no matter how well we know them, there's 80% of their lives at least that we do NOT know, and do not hear, and do not take into account, and that BELIEVE IT OR NOT, they don't share with us. They tell us what we want to hear, and often that is how unhappy they are and how much they want out of the business. Which usually has an element of truth, but there are also 1000 things that keep them in the business, some of which are dysfunctional, some of which are destructive, but many of which are rational, and lucrative, and rewarding in a very tangible and real way.
I have sat around the kitchen table and had long drawn out discussions about contractor management and tile selections with homely MP girls who were building commercial properties and trying to figure out how to manage their real estate portfolios, and also in the same evening trying to figure out how another gorgeous girl could get away from a heroin addicted abusive boyfriend she hadn't seen in three years, but who she was still sending money to (but she had managed to save $120K he didn't know about but was worried to strike out on her own "without him" !!?!!). Sometimes it defies logic. But when I would broach the subject of them getting out of the business and "bettering themselves" I would get the rolled eyes, and the impression that they felt compelled to start all over and break it down for the stupid white boy who still didn't get it. At one point along the way I did, and I quit worrying about them. They're doing just fine. Some are a mess, some are brilliant, some have issues, and some are evil. Most of them are just women. Women have for all existence been far better at managing us and our needs, while allowing us to feel like we have the upper hand and rule the world. I feel like I do because I get what I want from them and I'm genuinely happy. They do too because I keep coming back with loads of cash and they are free to do whatever they want with it, and if I don't give it to them, plenty of other men will.
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