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I think you nailed it...


I guess I just don't get it though...



Still, I can't be the only person who has had this happen to...

I will re-itterate, as ES pointed out, I did all I could for this creature, I can easily hang my head high, and not worry about it. I don't feel any need to be with, or help her anymore...

That's long gone out of my system...

What I don't get is the dick train... guess I won't ever...

I don't feel bad for any of the other MP girls, other than how hard their life must be, it's just that THIS one obviously tugs deeper...

Although I think jadcujo got it, I still don't get it...

Guys, let me take a different stab at this. While reading the above post and everyone patting themselves on their back because they “think” that they have figure out what a chica is thinking or their decision process, I hope everyone realizes that we are talking chica logic here. There is no way any of us or anybody in this world can put any logic to that. I know that for OUR own logical minds there have to be a plausible explanation into why she made that decision but there might not be one. For example; it could be that it was the closest MP to her bus stop/house and she decided to work there. Who knows? QBF, best is to accept it and move on. I’m glad you ask the questions but that is for your peace of mind, she could have been lying, the chicas have been known to do that.

Mis dos colones are that, who the Phuck knows? One of the biggest mistakes that we can make is to try to rationalize chica logic. It is so warp it makes Bizarro world look normal.

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I have over the years involved myself with many working chicas and they all last for about a 1 or 2yrs before thing change. If you plan on marrying the chica and taking her out of her environment MAYBE it will work out. I am a lifetime dater marriage is not an option for me. Your other option is to live in Costa Rica full time and see what happens. I blame it on the the environment but taking them away sometimes back fire once they start missing all they had and not apperciate what you have done.

The chicas mindset is clouded in mystery I just date them knowing that it is going to end and when i see them working once we break up I just wish them the best. That why I don't stop going to MP and see other chicas. I just do it respectfully and not get caught.

They do treat you good when you are with them and as a man that is what I am always looking and longing for one stable chica at home and the side chicas just to keep me going. The side chicas keep me grounded and not falling in love with the main chica. I do care about her I just don't want to get blinded by love.

It is not easy with time and more relationships it gets easier to deal with.




Cheers,

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Yeah. One of my favorite movie lines of all times -- Woman asks Jack Nicholson (playing a writer) how he writes the parts of women so well -

His reply - "I start with a man and I remove reason and accountability."

Mis dos colones --Don't try to apply logic in a place where logic doesn't apply.

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Poco a poco la vieja sube el coco.

I agree with Cujo,The girls in the DR have to have a serious type A personality to survive. It takes a lot less effort in the point and shoot MP's.

I don't know what the great mystery is here....the pain of unrequited love is a universal experience...doesn't matter what she does for a living...

QBF...amigo...she doesn't love you...lick your wounds and move on...

...and kudos to JOsie's dad

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Phuck....as a few of you know, I could write a dissertation on this subject. I'll sit back and enjoy the responses.

dapanz1

PR... its not about that...

alright Ill point out the 800lb pink elephant in the thread. QBF why is it ok for you to have mega sessions but her to limit hers

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You're missing the point...

I have no issue with her doing this if she LIKED it, but she doesn't...

I have no issue with her working at the rey, or prostituting even... that's where she can get the money...

Hell, I don't mind not phuking her, I'm not "in love" with her anymore...

I still love her, that's different... I always will... I am that kind of person, once I love someone, I always do...

My only issue is that she doesn't like the work, it's bad for HER health, she ends up having to go to the doctor once a week b/c of all the dick in her...

Me on the other hand, I LOVE phuking, if I could be a male prostitute, and phuk all day long, I would... but I would be choosy...

MP girls don't get to choose who they phuk...

So I ask the question...

How does one deal with watching someone they love hurt themselves like that?

I MOST CERTAINLY will not give her $ to get her out of the life, I don't want to be involved with her anymore, nor will I ever put myself in the position i have been in in the past with her...

Im just wondering about how to deal with watching someone you care about self destruct... in fact, it feels a lot like watching a loved one become a crack addict, only slower...

missed the part about her not liking her job

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Just a quick interjection. It's really not your problem. And I don't say that to be a smart ass. An even wiser piece of advice is to not even entertain the idea of "fixing" whatever is wrong. You don't know the issues and probably never will. Eventually the "I will always love her" thing will disapate. It's not your problem so don't make it your problem. Don't wonder about it, forget it. Not trying to be a smart ass just speaking for personal experience. Some people are born martyrs, she seems to be one. A lot of pros are martyrs. My advice is to reach in to your mind and heart and hit the "delete" button.

dapanz1

If you mean that the women change due to the puta experience, I politely disagree. Any opinion that all women do anything is false from the start. Yes, many are mentally and emotionally wrecked but I don't necessarily blame that on working. The work is more likely a result of other tramas.

It is a sorting process. My girl has worked for years and is amazingly well adjusted and has a very well behaved six year old. If I tried to "take her out of the environment" she would be unhappy in a minute. Her girl friends are her social network and her only opportunity to speak Spanish (gotta get old speaking English to the retarded gringo all day..).

As with any relationship, the lust starts to wain in about 18 months. If all you had was lust, you have nothing left. That is why it is important to find someone with whom you share more than sex. Does she spend a lot of time laughing or is she staring off into space a lot? If you find each other entertaining outside the cama you have a much better chance.

As far as ensuring that she isn't "working", who gives a shit? I never said she couldn't work and if she wanted to work right now I would not object. I am not "exclusive" so why should I expect her to be? (Although she has been.) If I am afraid of losing her to some other guy then that is my insecurity. If I treat her the right way (preserving her respect) then any off-the-farm phucking is purely recreational, which I encourage. Hey, I'm a party guy and I like to party in the same room. If seeing her smiling and stroking someone else's rod makes me crazy then I am not very secure in myself. I want her to have as much fun as possible and if her fantasy is two guys, my friends, neither of which is me, so be it. I want the full report and I certainly don't want her feeling guilty about it. My turn is next, right? I don't want her to think that I run a one-way street. When I make her pleasure my priority she feels secure with me and returns the favor.

I'm a different colored cat, I guess. I never saw a single good thing come from jealousy and worrying about who she may be with is purely selfish jealousy. Which of us has screwed more people? Who knows? Who cares! She is with me today because she wants to be and I am here because I want to be with her. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Reality: I am 57, she is 29. If she gets a hankerin' for some young tight-bunned Tico, should my response be "No, never, if you are with me you are my property!" or is the relationship stronger if I tell her "Go, have fun, tell me the details when you get home!" Treat her like you own her and she will show you how fast you don't! Show her that you are secure in the relationship, that you want her but care for her happiness, that you are not Mr. Needy and she will stay because she wants to be there and she knows men like you are very difficult to find. She is more than your sex toy, but enjoys that roll very much as well.

It's a sorting process...

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One other thing:

With all due respect: Horseshit!

There is nothing more disrespectful than planning to "cheat" and not get caught in the same country where she lives. This is a very small community and expecting to phuck some random chica and not get caught is a fantasy. These girls love drama and nothing is more dramatic than the scene a girls throws when her "friend" informs her that her man is doing some MP bimbo on the side without her knowledge. What, you think she is stoopid?

When she finds out, you are a piece of shit that can't be trusted and who does not deserve her love. You are not man enough to tell her what you want and give her the chance to accept the fact or not. If you lie to her about this, what won't you lie to her about?

Dewds, we are often our own worst enemy. Wanting other girls is natural. Make sure she knows it is just "masturbation with a partner" and she is likely to be a lot more understanding, especially when you are talking ahead of the act instead of crawling out from under it. If she loves you she will give you what you need, and vice versa. This is something that you need to establish up front: You love her but you are not exclusive. Have the nerve to try and you might find a whole different atmosphere to your relationship.

Just my opinion, and no, it won't work for every guy or every girl.

Its a sorting process...

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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This is a serious answer amigo:

Alcoholics anonymous has co-dependancy classes for people dealing with alcoholic family members. I took a seminar a few years ago and it really helped me deal with a family member struggling with addiction... Check it out...

http://www.codanyc.org/content/MeetingList.pdf

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