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Great post DP.

You know with the right gal (anywhere in the world), I would still have a family. But although my parents got divorced recently, I loved my childhood with two parents. Also one was french Canadian and the other British, so talk about different cultures. What I am saying is if I were to have K*ds, Id want to be with the mother for the long haul, or, Id rather pass.

About the "addiction", I would partyly agree. It is an addiction and I have it, but actually I am spending less on it tha my ballroom dancing (Id fly my coach in from Denmark for a week of lessons) ... talk about an addiction.

Another big part of it for me, is that I am very social. I like to meet people and talk to them. I really like chewing the fat with guys at happy hour, or at breakfast or dinner. When I go down, I know I will meet some un girls, but I also look forward to just hanging out.

In case I implied something ... I am not looking for a relationship with a DR gal. There is one there I spend some time with and whom I like, but there is also the model ... and next trip I am sure someone else.

Well being the guy that likes to bring little gifts, it is off to find some Christmas lights etc. Both gals talked about the love of luz at Navidad .. and for $8.88 at Walmart ... cant go wrong

So guys ... do what is right for you ... for your mind heart and wallet. ALWAYS be honest in what you are doinf and the frequency, and finally.... if you are ashamed to tell someone what you are doing (ie pals down there), then consider deep inside you may have an issue with it yourself

When I wrote this last night, I was drunk so I knew better than to post it. Upon reading it this morning, I find it is not too embarrassing and it really does reflect my basic sentiments about this topic, so here is my reply to Texcdn’s original post.
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For me, a big part is the GFE. Attractive young women make me feel like a young lover again. Recapturing that long lost thrill of young love once again is definitely a major attraction, but the other part is feeling good about myself by making someone else feel good about them self.

Virtually all of these women have been badly abused by men. I keep telling them how special they are, and I demonstrate that with gifts and little surprises, and I witness their self-esteem soar in my presence. That makes me feel like I am not just another john, but rather a positive force in their desperate life. Maybe that’s just another illusion, but it’s a big part of what keeps me going back.

Some GFs have cried when I left, and kept in touch afterwards. I know many of you insist this is all an illusion based on greed, lies and deception. Almost assuredly, you are correct, but I really don’t care. I think of the old 1970s song that goes something like: “If it feels this good being used, you can use me up.” I still keep a positive checking and savings account, and put the maximum in my 401K, so the money I spend on Ticas is really insignificant in the overall scheme of things, and has been well worth it.

For me it’s more about emotions than sex (although the emotions wouldn’t be there without the sexual intimacy). If it gives me emotional gratification and doesn’t adversely affect my ‘real life,’ I’m going to keep on doing it, and not over-analyze it until it becomes cold, clinical and no longer gratifying.

I’m rambling on here....one beer too many...

adios amigos

Songs By Bill Withers... Best known songs include "Ain't No Sunshine" (1971), the uplifting "Lean On Me" (1972), and "Use Me" (1972).

I didn't realize that song was that old. Where have the years gone?

I wasn't going to post anymore on this since we are all sort of saying the same thing anyway. But I do have a couple of other quick comments.

It's definitely an addiction. Whether it is like drug abuse depends on the individual. First, there is the question of what I'll call "financial capital". If one spends so much money that they become unable to meet their other financial commitments (including retirement) it could be a problem. This does not appear to be a significant factor for Tex.

The bigger question for Tex is what I call "emotional capital". Like drug abuse, the "chica fix" can detract from our drive to deal with "relationship" issues in a more complete and long-term way. It can act as a means to or at least a substitute for many of the things one normally gets from more traditional relationships, beginning with sex but also including, companionship, ego gratification or whatever. If going to CR for short term "fixes" take away from ones effort or drive to seek out more fulfilling relationships (or ones with long term potential), it could be a sign of "drug" abuse.

I said one shouldn't overanalyze things as long as one is enjoying and not hurting oneself, but Tex REALLY needs to ask himself what he REALLY wants in life AND whether the joy he gets from going to CR in anyway puts him off his path to acheiving his real goals. If fulfilling that "family thing" dream is not a top goal or his dalliances in CR don't detract or stand in the way of acheiving it, than by all means go ahead and enjoy. But do not think for one moment that there is any serious possibility of acheiving that goal with a DR gal. At best it's a pleasant distraction.

I know Tex is not looking for a DR girl to settle down with. That is for sure. He certainly likes to screw them though, as we all do.

I think I know what he is looking for. He wants to find some meaning in all of this, whatever it is we are living through here. He wants to find some hot chica that not only gives him great sex, but also stimulates his mind. He wants to make a bond or connection that goes beyond the simple act of sex for money.

He's learning spanish as fast as he can because he wants to extend the experience AFTER the orgasm and actually have a real conversation.

He's not throwing his money around like some losers, but doesn't mind doing the little things that make them think of us as real human beings, not just overly charged up hormone carriers.

He has become addicted to the culture....the way the Latinas think about life....the free wheeling attitude. The lack of concern for tomorrow....the tight bond of friendship that exists between them.

He has turned Costa Rica into his own private country club, where everybody knows him when he walks in the door, and the members of the club are anybody that sits on the rail at the News Cafe in the morning, and the Blue Marlin at night.

He is blessed with the freedom to be able to do what he wants....and would most often prefer to be in CR than in the states. He can make his own rules in CR, find his own beat, and pretty much do whatever the Phuck he wants at any given moment. The freedom is addictive, not just the sex and the chicas.

Yes, he is addicted. Who would not be. What normal American male would not be addicted if they knew about this place and had the means and the time to live the life he is living. Yes, he needs to slow down and examine his motives....but for now he is King anytime he wants to be. Not a bad place to be.

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Astroglide,
Are speaking for Texcdn or yourself?

Aha! Thanks Prolijo, this is one thing I have been looking at and thinking about personally, and was not trying to bash Texcdn in anyway for his many trips to CR, hell, I envy him and wish I could go as often.
Astro, some great observations, we are all king in CR, some guys just don't realize or haven't learned it yet.

Although I look at all I've spent this year going to CR I'm planning yet another trip, if you ask me was it worth it? I'd have to say Hell Yes! It was worth every colone...

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwUtj_YnNoY

Continued great advice. Myself, I am planning/saving for tomorrow and living for today. In time I am sure I will venture out and explore other countries (prob with a hobbiest twist).

As far as life stateside ... I travel a lot for work, and if I met someone who intrigued me ... Id follow it ... just have not met anyone tickling my fancy

Witling. You're right. That's me. Probably him too, with a few variations...but that's just my guess.

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model airplanes are fun if they fly...

Great observations as usual Easy. My only added comment on discovering CR when young is...if I had discovered this then, it might have saved me a couple expensive divorces . Mongering and/or shacking up with a beautiful Latina is much more fulfilling than the traditional relationships you mention here. Plus...25 years ago I think things were a little calmer in many ways here...from what I have heard from Circus and others with more experience.

Looking forward to seeing you back down here...

This is really a great post.

I’m 25 and have made 2 trips to CR.

I have played the dating game here in Boston and have learned a very important fact about myself. I hate the games played by American woman. I’ve been played and toyed with, used and tossed like disposable tissue. So as far as love goes I guess you can say I have been jaded. At this point and time in my life I am not looking for love. When the time comes to find the “One” I will have to make a choice if it would be possible to change my life-style. I don’t plan on falling in love with any of the women in CR. In fact when the chica starts to play the your my boyfriend game, I just say no, but I’ll be a friend. I remind my self that this is a vacation not a quest to find love. My only weakness is the fact that I’m a Cancer and many of you may know we tend to care about other people feeling too much. This prevents use from being rude even when its deserved.

And for me that is what lead me to CR, the life-style. Thank to the trip reports I had read off of this site this was my view of CR before my first trip. And it was true.
- Meeting and having your choice of many different types of Latin women. (Having grown up in a mainly Latin community I have always had a thing for the Latin girls in fact I even feel more comfortable with them.. They seem more alive and have the attitude that attracts me.)
- Meeting new friends.
- The escape from the way I am expected to act or be by my family and our society.
- JUST PLAIN FUN. (I think that some of the best years of my life were in High school, I was popular, constantly going to house parties, plenty of Latin girls, drinking, and or course the sex. Believe me when I tell you my high school was like the BM. For every boy there were 7 girls. God I loved those odds. In a way, I think you could say I am going to CR to relive my high school years, and if that’s true so be it.)

In Summary:
I’m 25 and need some fun in my life. That is my motivation.

They are the most honest women on earth. They flat out tell you they are phucking you for the money. I tried the marriage thing back in the 80s and found it wasn't for me. I like variety, lots of different chicks. I really like the sex, and not having to beg for it. I am, 41, about 40 lbs overweight and I like hot young babes between 20 and 25, something I basically have no shot at IRL. My prospects for a relationship are a woman over 30 with K*ds, something that doesn't appeal to me. I have lots of experience with hookers in the US and Mexico and am really looking forward to my first trip to CR.

Very good thread.

I don't post much, am more of a lurker. I have been to CR 4 times, yet only stepped foot into the DR once, and that lasted all of 5 minutes, and left without a tica. I went to CR with every intention of becoming a super DR regular, but it didn't happen. Why ????? I met a non-pro my first trip. She was not from the Del Ray, actually not even from San Jose. I met here well outside of San Jose and any norm Pro areas. I don't want to get into any beauty pageant type of debates, but she is very hot. I am 29, so perhaps younger then the norm, work out every day, have no trouble getting gringa chicas, speak some Spanish, blah, blah, blah, I am sure you guys can figure out the rest. Not saying this to sound important but to give a bit of understanding. It really does not matter who you are, or what your goals are, the world in Costa Rica is different from our Gringo World.

Anyway. I thought all the "positives" I have would lead any Costa Rican Tica to fall for me without hesitation. How could the little Tica I spent a few days running after like anyone after me ??? I went back to CR after a short time to see her again. This time bringing a lot of very expensive cloths from the states. Around + $ 500 worth of cloths that girls would not see in CR. I had never paid her for anything. No $ for sex, no $ for ______ whatever, so I thought this would be a fun gift.

I had no expectation of fidelity; God knows I wasn't while I was down there, but when I went to see her, guess what some of the 1st words out of her mouth were??? "Estoy embarazada " yea. Any of you Spanish speakers should know how scary these words are. Not mine. She doesn't even try to say it is. Yet it doesn't even seem like that big a deal to her. For me, Huge.

How could any Chica let herself get knocked up by a local guy when someone with much more $ was a few thousand miles away???? lol, reading it now it sounds stupid huh ? Well my friends, it is easy, she had sex. The whole world of Costa Rica opened before me. I had spent time in Haiti, Dominican Republic, Mexico, Panama, but had let myself fall for a "Tica Bella." I guess it is fun to fall and learn........again.

She wasn't a pro. She wasn't a semi-pro, and I still lost. She was a local girl. Anyone who looks to the Del Ray for a real relationship is in for a world of hurt, IMO.

I wanted to post this to tell anyone looking that regardless of who you are, how old you are, what you look like, or how much money you have you are entering a place that is different. You are in for a world of ___X___ if you want love in the DR. I looked outside of the DR and lost, but may try again.

Perhaps next time I will have some more fun and leave the DR with a Tica or tres.

Great recent comments (thx for the insight Easy!)

Just having returned from trip #9 since this May, I have also learned:

1) As long as I budget, plan and save for tomorrow, I am going to live today. I am so alive while I am down there.
2) I saw 1 new gal out of the Del Rey this trip ( a few repeats from others), but mostly the DR is about chick watching and hanging out with my friends - Happy hour, dinner etc
3) This trip I felt my Spanish REALLY was an asset. For those that know me, I like to K*D and joke, and now I can do it in Spanish. I spent some time just talking to gals (groups of them, and we were all in stitches) ... for me much more fun than the short ... "you want company discussions"
4) If you know a local gal ... heading to a mall or grocery store is nice .. went shopping for groceries then had dinner cooked for me ... WOW