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Pacifica55 · **Posted:** Wed Jan 28, 2009 3:37 pm

Nhhank - Right on, amigo, and they are connected. "We" overspend thinking we will get something for our money. What we get is a big sign on our foreheads that reads "Does not know the value of money."

Girls respect men who won't be played.

Thirdworld · **Joined:** Tue Nov 09, 2004 11:07 am **Posts:** 4858

Why do you suppose you have never gotten an rfm Pac? Because you don't send out signals that you are a sucker.... Not to step on feelings here but if you have even gotten rfm's on more than several occasions you might not be carrying yourselves the right way...... The girls definitely sense weakness....

Pacifica55 · **Posted:** Wed Jan 28, 2009 3:58 pm

Exactly, Thirdworld. Girls don't like to be embarrassed and won't ask unless they have a feeling that there is weakness to be exploited. I have shared my email many times and never got an RFM. "Miss you", "when you come back?" but no RFMs. If I ever got one, my response would be "things are tough all over. Sorry, but I can't help you. Hope you are around on my next trip!" Then immediately change the subject.

Nhhank · **Joined:** Mon Nov 10, 2008 2:32 pm **Posts:** 3399

The RFM is EVIL
ONLY IF YOU COMPLY
Saying no to one can turn out to be better than you think
Lots to be learnd hre fellow sports fans

Santas Bro · **Posted:** Wed Jan 28, 2009 4:20 pm

I must be really ph*cked.

I have only given my e-mail to about 5 ladies in CR. Not only have I never received an RFM, I have never even recieved an e-mail. :oops:

Thirdworld · **Joined:** Tue Nov 09, 2004 11:07 am **Posts:** 4858

Then you are probably doing something right Santa's Bro.

Nhhank · **Joined:** Mon Nov 10, 2008 2:32 pm **Posts:** 3399

S Bro mi amore papi Can I have grand so I can go to Costa Rica and go to a birthday party?
now you have gotten one happy
PS western union is right across the street Will it take long Papi?

Archieleach · **Posted:** Wed Jan 28, 2009 5:15 pm

In 23 years of active mongering I have given a gift ONE time (excluding little stuff like candy). And that one gift was something that I got for free. But even then I was so worried about giving a gift to a chica, and what it would mean, that I made sure to tell her point blank that the gift cost me nothing, that she wasn't to think it was a big deal, and that the reason she was getting it is that I thought of her when I received it. But that it wasn't expensive on my end, and I didn't go buy it for her.

Now all of that sounds terribly defeatist. It sounds like I would be giving up all the advantage of giving a gift. But actually it just shows you how dangerous giving away money can be. I was more worried about being labeled a sucker, than getting any credit for the gift.

So how did it work out? She was thrilled. She loved it. And when I explained the whole thing and made sure she knew I didn't spend a penny on it was she disappointed or looking at me like a chump? No. She had tears in her eyes. The only thing she heard was that I was thousands of miles away, had something pretty in my hands that I could do anything I wanted with and thought of her over all the others. She cried. And I didn't misrepresent the gift, and she didn't think I was a chump. All good.

Almost all of these chicas will NOT see generosity for what it is, they will see it as weakness to be exploited. It's not because they are bad people, or malicious trollops, it's a combination of their culture, their upbringing, the market in which they live, and their preconceptions about us, our culture, and our wealth.

And I've never received an RFM.

Jdd · **Joined:** Fri Mar 17, 2006 9:42 pm **Posts:** 600

Pacifica55 wrote:

Sadly, this drama is repeated on various scales daily. Buy her a drink? Not if I haven't already phucked her. She hasn't earned it. Her request for a drink or whatever is a "shit test" to determine if you have the balls to say "no" and risk losing her (you won't). Fail the shit test and you are marked as a softy. From that moment on, she has lost a degree of respect for you and, instead of trying to prove she is worth your favor, she is trying to see how weak you are and what more she can get out of you for nothing.

Pac55, very well said, couldn't agree more.

Redman69 · **Posted:** Wed Jan 28, 2009 6:46 pm

Mucho, I have to agree that I did not see it coming in Karla. As you and Boudman know I have seen her for awhile. It is a shame that kindness is taken as weakness. And I posted this so we could learn together. Pac, Thanks for you thoughts. I guess with knowlege it is not being mean, It is just being smart.

Well. I have had a few nexts. and will go back at it.

And thanks for not dragging me over the coals yet.

Cujo's · **Posted:** Wed Jan 28, 2009 7:22 pm

You got away basically unscathed Red. Better to move on, sometimes in the long run it's the only way chicas will learn..

Cujo

Pete · **Joined:** Tue Mar 01, 2005 9:35 pm **Posts:** 86

Redman69 wrote:

Was not off the plane 5 hours and talk to a guy at the del ray and shit if ain't DD. SOB new all my Irish jokes. Good to see you and that you had a network. Saw Cln20 last night at the sportsman while on the way out the door for some bussiness.

Just a FYI, I had been seeing Karla for 1.5 years. I westerned union her 250 as a christmas present. First time ever and had not received a request for money ever from her. Two weeks latter get the e-mail need money to go see mama in Panama. So, send 200. and state this is an advance for when I get there. 1 week latter get an e-mail need school supplys. Tell her we will talk when I get there. Called her from hotel a 5 pm. To meet at 7pm. At 8pm she is not answering the phone. so I head to Idem. Come back to hotel. no messages and no answering of phone. Call yesterday and no answer or messages.

So, never had a request for money. Sent a present and phucked up a good thing. Live and learn, Hopfully this is helpfull info for you guys. For info purposes.

If you feel a need to say I told you so. Feel free as I can take it.

I would not jump to conclusions... yet! Girls in CR constantly miss meetings, phone calls, etc... then show up again. Something may have come up. She may reappear with a story. especially if it's unlike her to do this.

Spock · **Joined:** Wed Mar 08, 2006 8:55 pm **Posts:** 690

Santas Bro wrote:

I must be really ph*cked.

I have only given my e-mail to about 5 ladies in CR.

That's 5 more than *I* have given mine to. :lol:

Pacifica55 · **Posted:** Thu Jan 29, 2009 2:23 am

Spock, I can understand if you just didn't like anyone well enough to want to stay in contact. Other than that, I can see no reason to withhold contact info.

When I was commuting back and forth (more time in CR than US), there were always a couple that I wanted to stay in contact with. Believe me, it is great to hit the ground in CR and have a reasonable expectation to be greeted with open arms (among other things...).

It is easy to set up an email account just for communicating with girls (gmail, hotmail, yahoo, etc.). Just say "no" to any RFM and, if she really pisses you off, just block her emails. JMHO!

JazzboCR · **Posted:** Thu Jan 29, 2009 2:48 am

Totally agree with Brother Pac55 on the importance of multiple email accounts. After all, they cost nothing and can be useful as "throwaway" accounts. I'm not the first to say this--just re-inforcing what you already know. Helpful with all manner of online pests.

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