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Pacifica - Thanks for the info, bro. Good luck with your chica. As far as mine goes, we're just gonna be friends and lovers, when we've both got some free time. The more seroius stuff isn't gonna happen. Probably just as well. Like the saying goes, be careful what you ask for, you just might get it. If only I'd met her before she started 'working'. Asi es la vida. Such is life. Peace out.

Crloco,
If you would be paranoid about her still working behind your back, there is only one solution in my opinion. You can't be with her 24/7, so you pretty much the only way to get her completely out of that occupation/lifestyle would be to completely remove her from the whole scene, most likely out of the country. If they are exposed to it, it's too hard to resist for some, even if they are supposed to be "retired". They get used to the money, the attention, even the drama.

We visit SL quite a bit. It gives her a chance to speak something besides English, a chance to catch up with her friends and get some attention from men. Yes, she is still a woman and still needs attention.

As far as working goes, I have never made it a requirement that she does not work. She elected not to go with anyone else very shortly after we started hanging together. I think she was afraid to let me out of her sight long enough to make any money. She sure wasn't getting rich off of me, but I do take care of her needs.

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Orange - Yeah, I think you're right about how hard it would be for a girl to completely give it up. I not paranoid, it's just that I never thought I would meet a working girl that I would possibly consider as a serious novia, not just sex and some company, but the whole nine yards. If I ran into this one before she started working, we'd probably be married with a couple of K*ds by now. Not too many women that I can say that about, working or straight. So, I gave this girl some serious consideration. But her idea of serious is somewhat different than mine. She might make me her #1 or favorito, but I'm still one of who knows how many. She still 'needs' to work. If you're my novia, you're not working, punto! If you want to be good friends and lovers and whatever happens, happens, that's cool, I can deal with that. But to me that's not a novia. So we'll just kick it and let it flow. There's definitely some strong chemistry there. I really like this girl and will try to be a good friend for her. But she needs to know how I think, so we can keep our expectations more in line with reality. I don't try to judge people, everybody does what they have to do. Neccesity has a dog's face, as the saying in spanish goes. It's just that I don't think I can give my heart and soul to a woman who's still phucking other guys. "You can have the body but not the soul" as Hall & Oates say. Maybe the chemistry will carry us through, but like Pacifica says, it's all a crap shoot anyway. Peace out.

Crloco - If you don't want her to work, don't make a big deal of it. Let her know it is alright that she work because you will be doing other girls as well. The way it worked for me, as soon as she realized that I didn't care if she worked, "daddy needs the money" she quit post haste on her own so she could keep an eye on me.

Absolutely no sense in forcing the issue. It is what it is and it will become what it will become. If she thinks she wants you more than you want her you are in the right place.

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Pacifica - I'm not going to bring up the working issue with her anymore. I've laid my cards on the table, so she knows where everything stands. She'll have to come to me from this point on. If she wants to bring it up, I'll listen. And yeah, I'll start seeing some other chicas, as well. With the working girls, though, I think I stand a good chance of ending up in the same situation that I'm in now. After working my way through the crowd, I'll find that special one, again. And it will be deja vu, all over. I'm going to start slowly dating straight latinas. I'm fairly fluent in spanish, at least when it comes to rapping to girls. And I run into some great straight women during the course of some of my days. I'm sort of in a transition period now. I look at the working girls as therapists. But I'm looking for more, at this point in my life. I've been there and done the monger thing, when the Del Rey was a tiny bar, where you might meet for an afternoon drink, with the girl you met the night before at the Key Largo. The old days were a hell of a lot of fun. But now, I want a beautiful Latina, all to myself, to treat like a queen. One who will reciprocate, in turn. Not because I ask, but because it comes natural to her. Kind of like my girl now, but without the 'working' issues. I'll find her one day. Probably when I least expect it. Peace out everybody.

haha Funny story.. Had a DR chica like me for a while and she comes to visit for a week... She goes on and on about how I'm going to be her boyfriend... She says of course she will have to keep working though... I think she was looking for a different response, but I told her, "Damn right you're gonna keep working" and maybe give papi a small allowance... She wasn't quite sure about that one..

Crloco,
If you want her to stop working to be with you, you will need to financially support her, and I'm not talking about rice and beans, unless that's what she eats now.

Also... Don't take this the wrong way, but maybe if you can't hook up with working girls without having "feelings" for them, maybe this hobby is not such a good idea for you.

Well said, Orange. I cover all my girls expenses. Fortunately, she never developed expensive tastes. I pay $10c a week or her son's sitter, $200 a month for her apartamento (where she never stays), take care of her medical expenses (not much really...considering), clothes (four pair of shoes last week for $42...she was ecstatic and she really needed shoes). Three blouses last week ($38...nothing fits her right now, my fault). Food (rice and beans, 24/7...cheap).

Bottomline: Get the right girl and covering her expenses for a month cost less than mongering for a week.

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Brother Orange, I did not assume that Crloco could NOT hook up without having feelings - rather I surmised from his post that he worked his way through some number of chicas and when he found this one special chica, he developed feelings for her.

That said, I personally cannot imagine hitting chica after chica and not finding one that rang my bell. Hell, you would have to be hitting girls that you knew up front did not turn you on in order to NOT develop feelings for someone sooner or later. Either that or the monger just has no heart whatsoever. I do not want to be either of those.

Bottom line with all women, I think, is that your personal sorting process must be employed - nothing more, nothing less or you will CERTAINLY end up in trouble and misery. (Yes, Pac, I owe you a drink for using your patented terminology! )

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Thanks, Bu!

Before I was "captured" I maintained my sanity by always keeping two that I had feelings for. In that way I could always get a "fix" of #2 after #1 tugged my heart strings. Balance your act. If you lose #2, don't just keep hitting #1. Instead, find another #2.

Don't do any of them several days in a row unless you want to have them threatening every other girl in the place with instant death if they "try" with you. They are territorial and extremely possessive. Be very clear in word and deed or they will "misunderstand" your affection.

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Bambu - You got it right. This one caught me by surprise. I wasn't expecting strong feelings to develop, but they did. Does this happen with every girl, working or straight, that I meet? No. Not very often. I can enjoy the working girls and their company and keep things in perspective. Hasn't really been a problem. But everything's cool. We're going to keep being friends and lovers and see what happens. Friendship and honesty are a good basis for any relationship and I see that getting even stronger, between us. The physical chemistry is from another world.
Entonces, todo tranquillo. Peace out.

I can relate to what you said, brother Cr. I have not dated a gringa since before 1998 - more than ten years at this point. After dozens of dozens of latinas and cariocas and, and ,and I have had three who I have fallen for. The point is that falling for them is not a big deal, how you deal with that IS a big deal - for me anyway.

I have (so far! ) been able to keep it in perspective by remembering that it could all end tomorrow. And if it does end I need to let it go (so far that has worked). I am not myself when I try to control others as I can barely control myself. If it is meant to be then both parties will act in a manner respectful of each other.



Right on.

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I like Pacifica's idea about having two favoritas, both kind of different from each other. Keeps the girls on their toes, when they know they've got a little competition. A real party girl that I used to go out with finally said she'll tone it down to be with me. The booze is o.k. but not the 'you know what'. Have to see how this works out. Maybe she'll be a good counterbalance to the more tranquilla chica. Two favoritas, in any case, sounds like a good way to go, in the mean time. Good advice, bro. Peace out.

i love to repeat with my favorite girls. i have a nice collection of phone numbers and emails that i collect after great sessions. then i'll call em up and have them come straight overf to my hotel room. for me it tends to get better and better as we get more familiar with each other and there is a lot less guesswork. and so far no RFMs from any of them. i have seen my fav gal 5 times each of my last 2 trips. i usually stay 8-10 days. sometimes we will go out to lunch after. i like spending time with her. she is just a part timer going to school. so little over half the time i am repeating with my all stars and the rest i am am exploring new talent. of course, that is always a bit of a gamble. but the fun is in what i like to call the field research.