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Ding!! Ding!! The truest thing I ever heard... Of course!!! They only expect a sucker to send money... Make Pacs post a sticky!!

Ya I should of filled in the blanks...Ok met a girl down there one of many..A very rare one..One that I have enjoyed the company of for multible occasions in fact I loss count after 5 or 6..I do not think I am in the double digits..thank God...We have become good friends never a rfm..Money is never discussed I give her what I give her at the time..I enjoy her company very much...Too much in fact...More than I know I should....that is the problem...to be continued .. I am going to go look for ROLLTIDE...I need a profesional...............

I have been seeing a chica off and on when I visit C.R. for 6 months. The first RFM was for a few extra dinero, I made the mistake and sent a few dinero.

After a visit to C.R. I returned home and a 2nd RFM, was more specific and requested $150.00. My reply was, "NO, and when I return to C.R. MAYBE we will get together."

A fast apolgy was sent to me from the chica and I quote her, " I will never again request any dinero." Moral of the story say NO and NEXT.

One more time..."no" is all that is necessary. If she insists on a continuing saga of RFMs, then "next". They ask because some guys are dumb enough to send the money. Their expectations are low: they expect a "no".

Don't take it personally!

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Some girls just want to keep in touch...they might actually enjoy your company...Or work is slow so they keep you on the hook...I dunno they are hard to figure out some are very hard to understand what they want...I have emailed one for almost a year she never asks for money just keeps saying when are you coming back??Freebies yes I have had..But that even confuses me more..So the moral to the story is........I honestly cannot figure them out!!!!!Too many mixed signals..Help me obi wan kenobi you are my only hope......I think I spend too much time with them outside the bedroom...Once you get to know them" the real them".It is easy to take it to another level...And the harder it is to just walk away from them...because they become more like a friend...then the other..I am sorry to say my heart is still soft and squishy..lol...

I've been lurking here for a while, but can really relate to falling for a favorita, from the DR. There's this one girl that stands out above all of the rest. Not really flashy with fake tetas and all of that, but a real woman comfortable with herself, and to me, muy guapa, very natural. Total GFE and more. Invited me to dinner at her apartment a couple of times. Met her K*D. She's been pretty honest, as far as I can tell at this point, except for some phone calls she got. Didn't know her own country code, when a call came in from the U.S., said it was maybe from her country. Had to sneak away to answer a text message, in the supermarket, once. Trying to figure out the agenda here. I am a local and have been here a while and am recently 'back on the market'. Am I destined to be the 'tico boyfriend'? I'm a gringo relatively fluent in spanish. She's about 30, with a K*D, and not getting younger. Is she thinking about settling down? Is that even possible? Can they ever fully leave the business? Damm, I wish it didn't feel so good to be with her. Everyone else is a let down, in comparison. Lord knows, I've tried. I was smoking a joint one night, thinking what the phuck am I doing looking for what I've already found. I'll guess I'll have to watch the Robert Dinero movie for some perspective. Am I on the highway to hell here or what?

Crloco, that depends. Can you keep it in perspective? Can you tell her "no"? But before all the other questions: Can you live in Costa Rica? If you can't then the answer is yes, (IMO) you are on the highway to hell.

Women need to be fed, washed and phucked daily (one told me so many years ago I have found her to be correct). You just can't provide the daily maintenance required when you are a few countries away for much of the time.

If that is the case, guard your heart. Find another with the same attraction you find in her before you hit it again. Then alternate. Add as many new "attractors" as required to keep you from falling off the cliff.

Do not play house!

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Pacifica - Yeah, I live in CR. Just been away from the chica scene for awhile. It seems to have gotten more mercenary, since I've returned. I'll keep both eyes open and see how things develop along the way, RFM's, drama, etc. I've tried finding someone with the same things that I see in her, but no success, so far, that's why I find myself usually thinking about her. Don't want to play house, although it would be great to 'hit it' every day. Thanks for the advice. I'll keep everyone posted.

I don't understand what is so complicated. First off your not "destined" to be anything you don't choose to be. Second, she sounds like every other working chica in the world- has a few clients that stay in touch yet is always on the lookout for more of a LTR with a gringo that will provide some steady support. Take it as far as you want, (and can afford) but you set the rules not her, buena suerta.

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Crloco: You say that the chicas have become more "mercenary" and that may be the case with many. Your ability to read women will sort out the ones who enjoy your company from the ones who simply enjoy your dinero. Watch her body language, especially when she does not think you are watching.

- Take her shopping: Is she constantly trying to get you to buy things for her or is she just happy being with you, letting you decide what you need and don't need. (I took mine shopping for shoes yesterday. She took me to "Best Brand", a discount shoe place. All she wanted was a pair of flat sandals. I helped her find the shoes she needed and saw several other pair that would look good with her outfits. I ended up buying four pair, my idea not hers. She was delighted and my total bill was $42. (Not bad when I compare with my shoes, Brazilian casuals at $100 a pair and cowboy boots at $400.)

- Take her to dinner: Does she want the surf/turf or a decent tico meal? Mine wants the rice and beans with a little chicken for around $3000c.

Girls with expensive "tastes" got them from gringos. The more she is dissatisfied with simple things, the more gringo influence she has been exposed to. My girl loves my shower and used a vacuum cleaner for the first time the other day. A roll of "facial tissue" is fine with her. She basically refuses to give her opinion on big purchases (car, bed, etc) because she is just not comfortable spending that kind of money. She often will try and do without rather than "bother me" with her needs. Find that in the USA...

In my opinion, there are plenty of good women who happen to be working. Of course, there are also sharks who are just looking for a free lunch. Some may say that your odds are better with a girl who never "worked". That may be true but not necessarily. You will find sharks in that pond, too, and they are much less likely to understand the proclivities of a monger (my girl brings me girls...try that with your never-worked girl).

It's a sorting process. Don't ignore your instincts. Maintain an exit plan: My girl has her own apartamento that I pay $200 a month for. I have never seen it and she has never slept there but I have the option of telling her to stay there if she ever gets too far out of line (she never has...). Yes, we have our moments but, overall, I am very happy with her.

Good luck, amigo. Only you can decide whether the up-side outweighs the down-side. Always wear the pants and get her used to hearing "no". Latinas have no use for a "yes-man" except as a walking ATM. Either you rule or she does...there is no inbetween.

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Thanks guys, for all of the advice. I always used to say that the more english that they know, the more trouble that they'll be. More time around gringos, etc. Mine speaks mostly spanish, which I consider a plus. I feel like the guy in the Hotel Grand novel, an excellent read by the way, who has the 'good luck' to fall in love with a working girl. Well, I'll try to think with my big head and go with the flow and run the show. Peace out.

Pacifica - Thanks for your posts. I really appreciate your insight. I've got some questions, as I may be heading down the same road that you probably are.

First off, it's sounds like you've found the kind of chica that most guys dream about having, after the HDR and KL b.s. gets old, which happens quickly, especially if you live down here. I was with the same woman for a while and faithful, too. Turned down lots of good offers from regular chicas I would meet during the course of my day. In my younger days, I guess I was more of a player, as even civilian chicas were readily available in the U.S. But since splitting up, I've found myself not really into the monger scene. It was fun for a month or two, but after a while, it all starts to seem the same, except for this one. I never expected to fall for a working girl, but I think she wants to take it to a more serious level, too. Since I believe your girl is or was a working girl, I am really curious as to how you've made the relationship work? For example -

Does she still work?

Do you really know for sure?

Do you care?

If she does a little work on the side, how do you deal with that, living together? I guess her bringing you other girls would help ease the heartache. I not really jealous, more territorial, my inner city instincts coming into play, not wanting to look like a chump because any asshole with $80 can phuck my chica. Just not wanting to share my woman.

If I'm asking too much information, I understand, but you seem to be one of the few guys who seems to have made what many say is a very difficult relationship, to work. I gave my girl the 'speech' tonight about if she really wants to get serious, get a straight job and I'll help make up the difference. She's got the tetas to do it if she really wants to. So, the ball is in her court. If she's serious, she'll show me. If she can't or won't change, that's cool, but it will be more casual as I'll be looking for the qualities that I see in her, in a civilian girl, as well as sampling some of the other merchandise out there. I'm pretty picky, but there is one every now and then, that catches my eye. I'm trying to be cool, right now, as I know chicas get possesive. I don't want to phuck things up, before they even have a chance. I want to see if this goes anywhere or not. The true mongers must think I'm really crazy and maybe I am. But I've had my share of women over the years, both working and straight, and I really like having one woman around who is all mine. Maybe I'm getting sentimental in my old age(early 50's). Wish me luck. I'll probably need it. Sometimes, you've just got to go for it, though. See if it's really a diamond in the rough or fool's gold.

I'll try to lay it out but every situation is different:

Does she still work? No, but I never told her she couldn't and she can whenever she wants.

Do you really know for sure? Yes, she is with me virtually 24/7 but it does not matter.

Do you care? Not a bit. I would be a fool if I did.The only reason I am with her is because I want to be and vice versa. She is free to do whatever she wants and I am free as well. I am not doing other girls right now but that is my choice.

Which of us has been with more people? Who knows? Who cares? If I got upset because some guy in the bar has been with my girl I would spend all my time upset.

Is it easy? Phuck no! There are lumps and bumps. You have to lay down what is and is not acceptable. When she crosses the line you have to let her know it. Tonight, we had a "discussion". After we had hashed out or respective points of view, I told her enough. She insisted on continuing to hammer her point. I said enough or I'm out of here. She continued and I left. I just got back and she is not here, which is fine. I only want her here if she wants to be here and I will only stay if I want to. Tonight, we don't want to.

Am I worried that she might be out with some other guy? Not a bit. I don't own her and I am not possessive about her. She is a woman and she is entitled to make her own decisions. If she decides to do something that I cannot accept she and I will deal with it at the time. My expectations are clear.

Would I be heartbroken if the whole thing went to shit? Nope. I truly hope we can make it work but everything is a crap shoot. You do the best you can and you don't compromise your self-respect. If you can't be with her and respect yourself, how is she ever going to respect you?

It isn't boring...

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Pac, I admire the way you keep your head and manage the situation..... For me it does sound like a lot of work. I guess I'm even too lazy to keep a chica in line. If your gonna do it though, you've got the right mindset.

thanks pac, I really learned alot and you probably saved me alot of heartache in the future.