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So I am sitting in the Key Largo and am listening to the music, and here
comes Maria from my last trip in August. She greets me with kisses,
flashes her boobs, and leans in against me. The problem is that I don't
want her on this trip. I want a new chica. I always want a new chica.
But I don't want to hurt last summer's Key Largo lady's feelings.

Don't get me wrong. I don't think she cares about me. Her feelings
have nothing to do with caring about me. But she is
vulnerable to rejection just as any salesperson, and more. She is
a woman, and all women naturally have a need to feel attractive
and wanted. It is hard on the chica if she thought she was
outstanding on the last trip (and actually she might have been
outstanding, but that was the last trip).

I just don't know the best way to handle the situation. If I hang out
with her for a while and buy her a beer, the subsequent rejection is
just harder on her (and she wasted some of her business time).
If I ignore her, I hurt her feelings directly, so that my memory of
good times with her on the last trip turn sour. On my recent trip, I
pretended as if I did not know a chica from the past (I felt dumb about it).

The problem would not occur if I did not enjoy the Key Largo. I like
it when a pretty new chica comes up and rubs up against me and tries
to teach me to dance. I like the laughs. Hablo Catellano poco.
Whereas most of my real sex play is at massage parlors during the day,
I like hanging out with a chica at Key Largo and watching the singing and
dancing. Maybe I will pay for her to visit me the next morning.

For me, the whole trip to Costa Rica is about being free without
hurting anyone. I'm not going to pay for sex with someone who
is not turning me on, but I hate the idea of wounding a chica's
professional and sexual self-image. Any advice from fellow mongers out
there who don't like to hurt others' feelings (everyone else can shut
up)?

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Rio_m

If you are concerned about hurting their feelings, then there are many ways to deal with the chica you saw last night. I'm sure many of the guys on the board can chime in, because we all deal with it. I often tell them the truth--that sometimes I like to repeat with the same girl and sometimes I like to try new girls, and let them know this is the latter instance. That saves face for the both of you .

OTOH, if the girl is either pyscho or your novia, the above may not work.

Ciaociao

This is why Cujo and I are always preaching to learn more Spanish. There are a thousand different ways to handle the situation and save face for you and her. Unless she is your novia or a sicko like Ciao said, she is probably probing to see if she can get a repeat from you. All the chicas are aware that we are there to Phuck as many different chicas as possible. I always tried to let her know the true and would buy her a drink but that I’m looking for something different tonight. If she cannot understand that then she is on the wrong business. Not your fault but she needs to understand that is a business and you are the customer. I sometimes let them know that maybe later or on another date I will be more receptive for a repeat. Otherwise just said NEXT!

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Exactly. I was going to ask Rio_m given the same situation in the states, what would he do/ say? Whatever that answer is, it should apply in CR as well.

Cujo

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I simply say I am waiting for someone, and it's always the truth.

I second (third?) the idea of speaking Spanish here. There are numerous ways to tell a girl that you have something else in mind than being with her. I usually use the Spanish equivalent of 'It's great to see you. I'm not really looking for company right now, maybe later.' Depending on the girl I may or may not expand on that or shrink it down. I may tell them I don't want to waste their time but if they'd like a beer I'd be happy to buy them one. But a simple one is the 'I'm waiting for someone' answer and it's pretty foolproof.

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I know you are all strong players and solo gents, and I'm just a novice but isn't this another situation where a wingman comes into play? "I'm a little peaked, just here for a couple of beers and the music but my friend who I told about you is just dying to meet you?" It may even be true and said wingman is not exactly taking one for the team, assuming she was a good provider and she's something like his type. Just asking. She'll probably go with the wingman just to spite you. The previous answers were probably the best resolution but mine ain't bad.

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"Amen, brother"-ED

This situation isn't complicated, sure if you're a newbie some will try and latch on but remember you're the one in charge of your time and dinero. Simply be nice, buy her a beer if you want then tell her hasta luego, you're going to take a walk. Just do what you want and she will figure out quickly that you're not easily manipulated, you like variety and maybe you will take her later - when and if you feel like it. Repeat with every chica you do and next thing you know there will be a dozen chicas vying for your attention and trying to seduce you every night.

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I think he's being overly sensitive. If she had a customer and he walked by, do you think she would be as considerate??? I don't think so... she would ignore him.

I would say - No estoy interesado ahora mismo. Punto. She's a big girl and will likely be totally cool about it.

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I believe the issue lives with Rio and not the chicas

it's important to understand that these girls are Actresses first and sex provides second...may seem like splitting hairs but beware!

you must understand that to before getting off the plane and into a MP, ZB, DR KL, SL etc.

There is no way in hell you could hurt their feelings..only their pocketbook.

The polite way to exit is any of the methods offered above or any other short gentlemanly way

Act very excited to see her, give her a hug... Then work into the conversation how you are absolutely broke right now and how good it is to see a friend... Most will be gone before you finish the sentence...

I had a chica the would not take no for an answer I was hungery so I asked her to dinner to cool her off what a mistake I think she ordered every thing on the menu went to the bano and I never saw her again good thing I was starving because the food kept coming It would have been cheaper to have taken her to my hotel.Remember its a job ! how do you run yours

I have a favorita that I've sessioned with 4 times all in the afternoon. The last 2 times she's had to leave early at 3pm to catch the bus back to Turriuillalba(sp). There is a strong possibility that she may not be telling me the truth, but WTF I like being with this chica. So the next trip, I see her we hug each other, smile and sit to have a drink together. So she thinks we're going to the hotel. I get up excuse myself and off to find another chica. I catch her by surprise because she knows I like her and it took some willpower to walk away but I feel that now she will respect me more. So now if I see her again I expect to get a longer and better performance. and if I don't there always next.

Just tell her that she is Miss Tuesday or whatever the day may be.

This one is funny because I have done this one before and talk about them losing interest on you. Just say “ No hay dinero” and you might as well be invisible.

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Hit them fast, Hit them hard and NEXT!
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