[quote="Jazz Musician Success in relationships, or at least efforts toward that end, is not a popular topic on this board, nor should it be. This site is about going to the promised land, CR, and banging your brains out until you're raw. I know this and have certainly participated. I remember when I discovered Rio, with all the perfectly tanned asses and bikini lines, to say nothing of the girl-next-door sweetness, and thought more than once I just might leave my dick behind.
I didn't mean to start another thread about gringas, either. It's really more about shifting priorities as one moves through life. These days cheerleaders don't carry the symbolism they once did. I don't think it's entirely explained away by age or being jaded, because there are some cool mature dudes in Miami paying 3K a night for gringas in cheerleading outfits. Or take Hugh Hefner, for example. He still reads reality into cheerleaders.
Perhaps the, "been there, done that" morass comes at different points in people's lives, while others die well before it happens - thankfully, some might argue. For me, I'll always enjoy picking off sitting ducks in the DR, or propositioning perfect pu*sy on Copa beach. I'll always enjoy a weekend trip to Cali, phucking hot, unspoiled Colombianas for lunch. But I trust it will not be my main diet again, and that point is brought home these days when I see girls trying to look sexy - gringa, or otherwise. What turns me on these days? Ramming it hard into a hot Latina who's begging me to phuck her silly, as I hold her down by the hair. She's got to want it...really.
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Jazz,
I can understand and relate to your sentiments. I was just a short time ago in the same boat you find yourself now and the ultimate decision of what to do was extremly agonizing for me. Good luck to you and your lady and best wishes to you both.
Cujo,
I agree with you that there is alot of gringa bashing on this board. Some of it is justified and some is not. Many here would be bashing any woman;
gringa o latina if they were only in a relationship with them long enough.
I too once was of the mind that my failed relationships with gringas here all would have turned out much differently if I would have only been in them with a sweet, loving & unspoiled __________ (Colombiana, Tica, Nica, Venezuelana etc., etc.)
Truth of the matter is that they are all women and they are all more similar than different. Mongering is most about fantasy fufillment. We go to the places where we are most able to stack the odds in our favor. Every once in a while we lose one of our CRT brothers to the fantasy of " a happy ever after with the perfect Latina".
Hey, Im not flaming anyone it almost happened to me ! But look how quickly we return to this board. We can never totally let go of the mongering lifestyle even if it is only by offering advice to newbies.
Cujo, I commend you for your success with the gringas/latinas but as you enter our 40s and 50s this may not always be the case. That is why I will always encourage you to go forth and explore new places while you are able to do so with youth and vitality. You can find wingmen to party with everywhere !
CR will always be here. Sorry for all the mixed thoughts on various topics that JM's original post brought out in me.
