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God, just kill me now........ PLEASE !!!

Da Nuck

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Throughout the history of mankind there has never been one shred of evidence that supports that life is serious..........
Don't believe everything you think ............

Dude
I wish I had the guts to actually ask for advice and listen as well when I was younger.

I was also married at 19 to a gal with three K*ds, I was a drunk and and a know it all, divorced and never left another women without having another waiting for quite a few years, always in trouble and got sober in 86.

I can't tell you what to do we are all different, But I chose to not have K*ds and do sometime regret it, but solve that dilemma by visiting family for a weekend and I'm cured.

I don't date much, my limits on bullshit are set so high when they enter the house I hand them of 8x10 glossy photo of the door before the first kiss.

I like being single, I like not asking or having a discussion in the hope that I may be able to convince her of some really stupid shit.

I don't care about new furniture or fancy dishes, I care about a big phucking TV my computer and whats in the garage.

If I ever build a house I'm gonna build a huge garage a put a cot in it.

I'll stop.

Good Luck!

1L2L,

I think you're asking the question because you want a girlfriend. This girlfriend would love you, treat you like a king, and want your K*ds. What's wrong with that? Nothing. That's my opinion. I think you're worried you'll not find that if you don't hunt for it close to home, and especially if you keep getting easy pu*sy in CR. Your suspitions may be valid. You know sex and fantasy is all you'll ever get from hookers. Period. That may be enough for some, but perhaps not enough for you.

Girlfriends and wives are expensive on the chance you'll be happy. The risks you'll fail are real. But ask the question in reverse. What chance is there you'll succeed in a longterm relationship if mongering is your entire goal? Zero is the correct answer.

Eighteen years with my second wife were some of the best years of my life. I married too young the first time but have a son from that union whom I love. I can pick up the phone anytime and he's always eager to talk. We don't agree on everything, but that's not what matters. Though we're not in the same city, we are in the same state and we look forward to having many years of talks, visits, and grandkids, and the whole nine yards.

It's possible for some to remain single and be happy, but I'm not among them and you don't sound like you are, either. You can't force the issue with regard to romance, however, and I know well the trials and tribulations with too many gringas. So my advice is spend some effort looking at home and getting involved cultivating a social life, but don't count out meeting a foreign girl. There are some smart, attractive girls who don't live in the States. If Spanish-speaking girls float your boat, learn Spanish and spend part of your time on your trips hanging out with local non-pros. Latin Cupid can assist in your search, too.

Good luck.

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"Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."

"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."

The question that you asked cannot be answered by another for you. Do what feels right for you. IMHO, you don't want to be an old phuck and regret not doing, or having something. The old thing about, "If I never would have tried, I never would have failed." Then again, the word fail is just a word that I allow my ego to use when I choose to beat up on myself, and it is by no means reality anyway.

Move the hardest eighteen inches in a man's life, from your head to your heart when asking yourself this answer. Your head (ego) will speak for what it wants at that moment, your heart will not lie to you and give you your true desires.

Health & happiness to all...

Steve - Santas Bro

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It's not the size of the wand that put the rabbit in the hat, it's the magic in it!!!

I just checked the board this morning and was surprised by how many responses there were to my topic. Thanks.

Jazz Musician, you must be a shrink. Your post was right on.

For whatever the reason, it seems that these latin girls just do it for me. I think it is more about the whole opposites attract thing than anything else. So a foreign women is not out of the question.

We all know how short life is, so it's nice to hear several different perspectives on the topic.

I was at the Sportmans lodge a few months ago talking to an American guy who is living with and has a Ch*ld with a Tica. I think they have been together 2 or 3 years. Anyway, he made a comment to me that his Tica girl made a 180 degree turn in attitude over the past year or so for the worse. He basically said she is a total pain in the ass. I guess this is an example of rich or poor - people are people.

I tell ya, I have been pretty close to picking up my bags and moving to (temporarily) a latin country. If I didn't feel a sense of responsibility to my current job, I probably take off. In addition to making a decent income in a crappy economy.

Thanks again for eveyones post.

1life2live

http://mingle2.com/dating/phases

1life2live Go up and read the tag line on the Jazz Musicians messages: "Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street." That alone is some pretty good advice.

My guess is those words are lyrics to a song. Sounds like the Blues or Country. Which is it Jazz Man? Your name may be the give away!

1life - If you want unconditional love, get a puppy. You want to get laid, go to San Jose. Don't confuse the two - love and getting laid.

Those 2 links--I only thought I had a vapid, pointless life--I'm actually the very picture of dynamic excitement. Hoo ha!
1life2live--You don't have to have a degree in it to be an effective psychotherapist--read JM's posts for evidence--he's hot on the one most times.

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"A man accustomed to hear only the echo of his own sentiments, soon bars all the common avenues of delight, and has no part in the general gratification of mankind"--Dr. Johnson
"Amen, brother"-ED

If I had chosen wisely, I would chose to have one with a family, one to make my existence mean something other than my pleasure. But there is trouble in River City. Women are confused. But many know intuitively that all is not right, but lack the exact words or advice to make it clear.

So, get a copy of Dr. Laura Schlesinger's, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". Suggest it to an interest of yours. If she considers it, you may have a keeper.

I had one, but lacked trust. Now I am here.

If you do decide to marry, do so for money. Make sure she is wealthy.

Diego - Louis Jordan. Here are the complete lyrics:


(Bill Doggett / Louis Jordan)

Don't ever trust a woman, until she's dead and buried
Yes, don't ever trust a woman, until she's dead and buried
One day she'll say that she loves you and the next day she'll throw you in the street

She'll smother you with kisses, when her birthday comes around
But soon as she gets her presents, she'll down talk you all over over town
No, don't ever trust a woman, until she's dead and buried
One day she'll say that she loves you and the next day she'll throw you in the street

She'll beg you for clothes and diamonds, until you're all in hock
And then you'll come home one mornin' and your key won't fit the lock
Don't ever trust a woman, until she's dead and buried
Well, one day she'll say that she loves you, the next day she'll throw you in the street

She'll call you every mornin', every mornin', noon and night
She'll call you in between times, just to see if you're doin' alright
She'll ask to borrow five and then she'll beg for ten
And baby that five and ten, you won't ever see again!

Man, don't ever trust a woman, man, until she's dead and buried
One day she'll say that she loves you and the next day she'll throw you in the street

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"Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."

"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."

I'm a big Louis Jordan fan, by way of my father. I don't necessarily agree with the sentiments expressed in that song, but as music it's great shit.

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"The only normal people are those you don't know very well." Joe Ancis

Jazz Musician Thanks for taking the time to put down the lyrics for me and referring me to the great Louis Jordan.

Very thought-provoking. I've dealt with these same questions, myself. There was a time in my life where I was quite open and willing to get married... just never happened. I've never really wanted to have k*ds, however. That's the factor I would think for most guys, whether or not they want to have a family or not.

I don't really mind being single. I've tried to have just casual relationships with the few women Ive dated, but that never works. They all get so dang clingy. I hate that. Also, like Smelvis, I have a limited tolerance for b.s. That might cause friction as well. I guess until the woman who can "tame the lion" finds me, I'll just keep things the way they are.

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