Jazz Musician wrote:
Well, I'm going to take a slightly different position. Anyone who's read my posts over the years knows what I think about the States and the women who occupy them. Even though times prior to the feminist movement were often hellish for American women and at the least, women were often second-class citizens, it can also be argued the "solution" has had its own ugly side. While there have always been men who have given us a bad name (dicks), and in part helped define us, there have also been women who since the 1960's have hurt the cause of all American women (biches), and helped lead away from harmony between the sexes. I find it almost impossible for a young girl here to grow up maintaining her soft, feminine side who acknowledges inherent differences bewteen the sexes, while at the same time being bombarded by propaganda suggesting this signifies weakness and inferiority. Further, young girls are subjected daily to media images of "bitchy" women who taunt with their sexuality.
The question of how to pay for pu*sy is very individual. We all know the ways and have views which ways are more costly, more satisfying, and less risky. But pu*sy isn't the only thing we pay for. It seems the question ought to be how much is the cost of getting what we want? And is the cost only in terms of currency or perhaps is there also a cost in terms of risk? How much risk is worth the prospect of happiness?
I think one needs to risk in order to find what one seeks. The trick is to take risks intelligently. Why risk anything in a pool of women whose motives we often find insincere, two-faced, or even hostile? Women blame us for going to the third world, suggesting we are weak and unable to handle strong women - as if that is something we want to ponder. The simple truth is women in the third world get it. And that reality is the last thing American women want to admit.
I don't pay for pu*sy. I pay for a good experience, which includes pu*sy. And that can be in the context of numerous settings, including marriage. But I'm going to enhance finding a good experience where the pool of women thinks more as I do; that sex is good and not a weapon, attitude matters, and that men and women are equal but different. The "fat bitch" phenom can happen anywhere - but seems to happen more here, IMHO.
Wise words, and as always well expressed.
One fallacy I see in your discourse is that for many of us, happiness has nothing to do with any sort of permanence. I'm a LTR guy at heart, but for many of us this is simply not our truth.
I certainly agree with you that latinas seem to "get it," and we enjoy many benefits as a result. To quote Prince, "Let a woman be a woman and a man be a man." For many of us for whom our only exposure to women has been with sexually narrow-minded, greedy beyond what one could reasonably expect from her level of education, career and social class, and emotionally scarred and fearful...the prevailing latina mindset is beyond refreshing. It's nearly miraculous.
Despite what might be inferred from my above post, I really do not loathe gringas. More than anything, I feel sorry for them. The few truly happy gringas I have met enjoy sex for its own sake and not for its use as a weapon of manipulation and control. They joyfully accept their own femininity and loudly proclaim, "Viva la differencia." Sadly, these types are very few and very far between.
And while it's true that obesity happens everywhere, it seems to happen with a higher percentage of gringas than it does with latinas, with the possible exception of poor mexicanas. Take a budget Caribbean cruise sometime, and watch the gringa hogs and their equally porcine husbands queue up at the trough...
