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My hope is that this is not seen as an attempt to flame you, or anyone. My shadows have never revolved around women, but my shadows are just as deep about other subjects. They reside in my stomach, and revolve around fear, of being perceived as "less than". I have only been working on them for 10 out of 60 years. While I have always been happy, the past ten have been a real joy. In that time I have learned to embrace fear, I want to see what caused my psyche to recoil now. In the end I have found it was useless energy wasted. Do not try to predict the future, it is just the ego wanting something.

A story about fear:

Lions love to eat Antelopes. Antelopes are much to fast for both the young and old Lions. The old Lions hide in the brush ahead. The young Lions circle behind, and herd the Antelopes towards the old Lions. Just before the Antelopes get to the old Lions, they stand up and roar fiercely. In fear, the Antelopes turn and run back to the young lions who are waiting, and easily kill them. If the Antelopes had run through the roar (fear), past the old Lions, they could not have caught them, and would still be alive. Fear need not be an enemy, charge through the roar (fear).

IMHO, as long as you carry a negative opinion about yourself, you always will be "less than". There are as many ways of "wooing" ladies as there are men. They all want you for who you are, just not who you believe yourself to be right now. You are what you think you are, it can be no other way, and it always will be. It may serve you better to see yourself in a different light though. It is very easy to change that thought about yourself, this instant. Isn't it time to give it a try!!!!?

IMJ, from the words that you have written, you are playing a story over in your mind that may well be decades old. While your words sound like you don't like it, you are probably very comfortable with it, it has been with you for decades. It has been your old protective friend for so long. What's in it for you to continue thinking "less than" about yourself? There is a positive payoff that only you know. It was probably learned about the age of 5-6. At that point we were not big enough to stand up to the mental, or possible physical, beating. The ego found a nice comfortable place safely within (the shadow), where the big bad external forces could not hurt me. When situations occur as we get older in life that our ego deems similar, our mind (ego) automatically reverts to the safe place within, our shadow. It is not a good space, but it is safe. Find that place in your body. You will actually have a feeling behind it. Catch yourself unconsciously going to that place, realize you are about to enter a place that no longer serves you well. You are a man now, and don't need to go within for preservation. Change that thought immediately. Is it easy? Not in the beginning, but once the results are different than your norm, you will want more of the same. Come into your power as a man, for that is who you really are.

Start with this second in becoming who you want to be, change that thought if it is not serving you well.

Health & happiness...

Steve - Santa Bro

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SB and Pac, you remind me of the saying, trying to explain color to a blind man. If Srilm cannot see it or get it, it is too bad. We all go thru it. I, like SB has been exposed to TJ, talk about gauging a girl or situation within seconds. Most of the guys complain about the HDR girls going upstairs 5 times. TJ girls can average 10+ a night. I just got back from TJ and it makes me appreciate CR that much more.

I always said that some guys have it some don’t. Pac, you got great examples of men that are neither handsome nor extremely masculine but they do great with the ladies. I will say along with SB example of having confidence, you can use other methods. In TJ, I like to use comedy, jokes. I normally tell the chicas that management has giving me a ½ price coupon and work from there. Also, use a self-deprecating approach, and will start that since my dick is so small, I’m entitled to ½ price. Is just something to get the chica of her game and in your territory. They are playing the same game as you and try to determine how much money I can get out of this sucker. But no matter what, always remember that if you are not clicking with the girl, YOU are in charge. Next.

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A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

"A wise man is the master of his own mind
A fool is a slave to his." -Publilius Syrus

Great advice from everyone. Alot of knowledge.

There is a book called "The Magic of Thinking Big" By David Shcwartz. I HIGHLY recommend this book. (seriously, get the book)
This isn't one of those candy ass self-help type books. NO, this book will help turn you into a GO-Getter.

Audio Book: http://www.talking-book-store.com/Title ... tleId=1059

PaperBack: http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Ma ... 0671646783

"In order to be sucessful; one must project an image of sucess at all times"

Going bald? Shave it all!

Pasty white? Hit the tanning booth!

Overweight? Drop those pounds that hold you down and get more fit!

Every time you look in the mirror you will see a new you. Now all you have to do is have the confidence to make it work.

Srilm, you are a controller. That tells me two things: you are not stupid and you are not timid. Now stop lamenting what you don't have and start using what you do have. You have plenty!

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

Disclaimer: The above is merely the opinion of the author unless specific scientific data is included.
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A great movie dealing with overcoming fear: "Defending Your Life" with Albert Brooks, Meryl Streep, Rip Torn and Lee Grant.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0101698/

Catch the trailer:
http://www.imdb.com/video/screenplay/vi1671495961/

Amigo thanks for that tidbit of wisdom! (what a gem).Thanks for reminding us!

Srilm,

I have tried to be nice and not say anything negative about your low self esteme, but I think you just "hit the nail on the head" with the last part of your last statement! "what others think of us"

YOU ARE TOOOO DAMN WORRIED ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU Quit worrying about what you can not control, let yourself go and have fun. Life is tooo short, people here do not know you, and they could care less how you sound or act. They are too busy having fun to be worried about what some other guy is doing, and in most cases, they are being just as crazy as the next guy.

As they do not know you; and unless you live here, you will almost certainly never see them again, they will be reliving what they did, not what some other guy did, when they return to the states, and no one n the states will know what you did, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT

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Yep...what BB said.

And as I have said many times, it is a sorting process: You don't "control what others think...". You just look around until you find one who agrees that you are the shiat! Discard those who have no interest. Voila!

Never forget that women are gifted with an innate ability to make bad decisions. - Pac55

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"Your love gives me such a thrill
but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

Disclaimer: The above is merely the opinion of the author unless specific scientific data is included.
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Damn guys, I am really feeling old , so far only 2 have said they were older than me and if Houtexman really is 92 amd still mongering, IWANT TO BE Houtexman WHEN I GROW UP

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