W617409 wrote:
MrLasVegas wrote:
It is a sign of great intelligence to give up the liabilities that come with chasing gringas and catering to thier bs.
No need to take a step backward and find yourself married to a creature who's primary objective is to leave you with half of what you started with.
i must be an f-ing genius. 35 here. i'm sure anyone who takes decent care of themselves can pick up attractive females here in the states but it begs the question why would a guy like Charlie Sheen spend thousands on hookers? Answer: because its fun, there's no hassles, and variety is the spice of life
Actually, that was not Charlie's answer to that question. I believe it was Charlie who first coined the phrase "I never pay them for sex, I pay them to leave."
Finding willing sexual partners when you're a young buck may be easy, however "getting rid of them" when you're done or grow tired of those "freebies" is usually not so simple. In fact, there is another saying in this hobby which suggests "There is no such thing as free sex. you always pay in one way or another." Maybe, you pay financially with lavish gifts, dinners at the front end and with expensive divorce settlements at the back end. Maybe the costs are nonfinancial and more subtle, such as the time and effort you have to put into wooing and seducing that young tail to get them into bed or the emotional handholding and other overhead that comes after you've succeeded. Despite whatever they say up front, NSA or FWB, those groundrules often shift quickly if you go to the same well too often, and then you have to start the process all over again.
These things are true at ANY age, young or old. Sure, in reality some of us old farts are paying for the younger pu*sy we can't get anymore, but most of us are also to some degree paying because a commercial relationship is in many ways a lot simpler than being forced to continually deal with a woman's irrationality, moodiness, emotionality, etc. A lot of these guys have been through marriages to gringas and just don't want to deal with any of that any more. Give the young bucks who participate in this sport some credit for recognizing the advantages of P4P early BEFORE they get burned too badly.
Am I sounding jaded and cynical? Perhaps. I know there are definitely some good women out there, even some that are gringas, smart funny attractive women who also have their heads screwed on right . But those types seem very hard to find.
Anyway, back on the P4P scene, here is some advice for our new young buck. That "Pay them to leave" thing also happens to have another meaning for us. In the US, Charlie may have been paying them to leave but he probably had to pay for that up front. In CR and many other countries, it is much more the norm not to pay until you're done. This shift in power and custom is fundamentally significant. Many chicas may ask for the money up front and some will even insist on it. Never go for that, assure them that, if they do what they say they will, you'll do what you say you will AT THE END (pay them as agreed). And if they refuse to go along show them the door. In nearly every case, when you pay up front the motivation to perform is substantially reduced and performance suffers. So that is my free advice for Stunna, encapsulated in just one clever saying.
Witling the wise also had some great advice although I think it still needs some "Prolijo" style expansion. Respect for other people you meet when traveling to other countries inlcudes BOTH your fellow mongers AND the locals. It may seem silly when we're talking about uneducated prostitutes but a lot of guys on THIS board don't appreciate terms like "bitches" and "ho's" (there are other boards with a more crass membership if that is more your style). These gals are people too, just trying to make a living and as such deserving of some respect. You can look at them and treat them like just some pieces of meat if you want, but changing your mindset will also have much more practical impact. If you treat them right, they'll usually reciprocate with a much better session for you.
and as long as I'm at it, another little thing that is a pet peeve of some of us - it is ColOMbianas with 2 o's and no u's.