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No, it sounds like you have your head screwed on right.

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Pura Vida...enjoying life to the fullest...

Soounds great but what is the upside for her? She must have something in mind to gain from this relationship (eventually) or why would she bother wasting her time with it when that time could be spent potentially earning 50-$100/hr.?

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Paco-
You are so jaded--could it be that she has found true luv

Ting,

Two points, con permisso

I tend to doubt that she will tell you of a "sexual exploit" she believes you will not look favorably upon, out of some commitment to honesty. I think it is more likely you will only hear what she wants you to hear. She will not want to provoke a confrontation just to tell the truth. What she does in the bedrooms with other guys you will not and cannot ever know for sure. If the fact that shes having sex with other guys doesn't bother you, I think logically you pretty much have to accept the worst-case scenario.

Plans to stop working all sound good in theory, but the fact is it is very very difficult because this is such easy money for them. The longer they are hooked on the dinero, the harder it is to extract themselves from the life. Even when she completes university she will not be finding a job that replaces the income. Eventually she will come to believe that the only way to leave the life will be have some guy rescue her. And then, when she does find that guy, she may think...hey this is great...but I can keep this guy on the hook, meanwhile work a little behind his his back and even make MORE money!

Anyway, I'm in the "GO FOR IT" camp. I am enjoying a similar version of your game and am pretty happy with the deal. Good luck.

PHX

Phoenix,

I too enjoy a similar version of the game, with a critical difference. I still pay her for her "companionship." She needs the money, I enjoy what the money provides, and everyone is happy. Otherwise, I think that things would become too complicated.

IMO, Ting is leaving something out of his discussion, i.e., what are the mutual expectations of the couple? What has he promised her, explicitly or implicitly? What is she expecting from this arrangment? Support, security, or just a booty call? Do her expectations match his? Is he just wanting free trim? Is he wanting "to see where this thing goes?" I think those are the questions he needs to analyze, as those are the details that can become problematic, IMO.

Ciaociao

A few things to think about:

She might very well be a serious student and is only "working" to cover her expenses. She may actually detest using her body to make money. If that is the case she may very well quit when she gets a real job. Money isn't everything to some people (just most of us).

She may actually like Ting and wants to see where it goes. Not that it has to go anywhere but maybe she enjoys spending time with someone that doesn't involve a business transaction. It can happen.

Ting, a couple things for you to keep in mind.
1. You should NEVER think about what she is doing when she is not with you. If you do it will accomplish nothing but make you crazy.

2. Latinas's views of "lying" is a little different than ours. They consider saying something that will prevent a hurt as permissible. Remember, they are all Catholic and know a "confession" will make it all better. You would do yourself a favor by not asking her anything that would put her in a position to lie and don't believe what she actually tells you if you do.

If you're the type that just has to "dig" for information do it in a subtle way that doesn't draw suspicion from her. You can gather little pieces of unconnected information then add them up later if you feel it's necessary. Eventually the truth will come out. If you can't deal with it then you need to keep this and any relationship with a working girl on a strictly P4P basis.

Pace yourself and see where it goes. Just be wary that there is a very good likelyhood that eventually it's going to go bad.

Wit

A "penis" will lead a fool to where reasonable men fear to tread. Something to think about.

Berk.....

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Witling...great advice in my opinion.



Here are a couple more to think about:

I would rather lead a full life and have some think me a fool than to be too timid to really live and have some think me wise.

This ain't no dress rehearsal, you only get to do this once.

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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I think you should enjoy the free ... er ... cheap ride. Just two things. Don't have unrealistic expectations of her and don't ask her about her work. Eventually she will feel she has to lie to you and the problems begin.

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That's obviously what she's hoping for, to snag a young gringo with adequate financial assets. Look how complicated this relationship is already, the problems have already begun.
Go for it and enjoy while it lasts however if you don't give much and only take it won't last long.

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QUOTE:

"....Go for it and enjoy it while it lasts, however, if you don't give much and only take, it won't last long."

Pretty much goes without saying, but.....enjoy the ride while it lasts.

Bien Dicho! The details always derail the best laid plans of mice and men.Buena Suerte (your going to need it)

Hey guys,

Thanks for all the advice. Proceed with caution seems to be the common theme.

Anyway, the answer the question(s) about expectations: I have no idea what she expects out of the relationship. I honestly don't know. A sugar daddy? A young gringo? Who the f knows? As for me, I'd be lying if the thought being in a committed, honest, relationship didn't cross my mind - I wouldn't have otherwise asked her to be my novia. I have two months of vacation in July and August, so my gameplan is to re-evaluate the situation then and see if it is worth it to spend a couple of months in Costa Rica. I don't mind it if I get the impression that this is legit, or if I get a bad feeling out of it then I'll say screw it and go somewhere else for two months. As I said before, I have no intentions of sending any money or doing her any favors on this end. All I plan on doing between now and July is to call, email, and do other "normal" long-distance boyfriend things. If that's not good enough, then screw it.

Having said that, I don't really have any expectations for this relationship. I am fully expecting it to crash and burn, which is why I am proceeding with my normal life back in the States. I'm trying to downplay the entire thing so that I don't get disappointed - I am still going out with my friends, still going out on dates with normal American women, etc. I got back into town Monday morning and haven't emailed or called her - I'll respond whenever she writes or calls, or I'll call her at the end of the week if I don't hear from her.

Sounds right. By the way, you can be as "in love" as Romeo and Juliet and it is doomed from day one if you are not both living in the same country. Moving her to the US is not an option. Just my opinion, but you can pretty much count on those two factors not changing.

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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Yeah and pigs might fly, the lame will walk, the blind may see and monkeys will fly out of my butt.