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Guy, Guys, Guys,

I took no offense from any of your comments. I feel they were all well intentioned.

I agree with you CALI about the Tico selfish mentality. In many ways the Ticos seem rather tribal in their approach to life - caring for family members, but willing to throw all outside their tribe to the wolves. We gringos have been taught charity from many institutions; church, kindergarten, etc. Comparing them to Gypsies may be appropriate.

I just have not met the mean spirited women in CR that you guys talk about. Most that I have met have kinder hearts than my gringa sisters. In fact, the things one of my sisters has done to her husband may exceed the meanness in any of the stories that I've read on CRT; and she think's she's a victim. Anyone want to meet my sista?

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Is low self esteem a prerequisite for being a good Ho or is it a result? ;-)

Besides . Even if a tica is faithful, you can never train her. Even when you beg and plead and demand she use a wood spoon or a plastic spatula. She will always do stuff like use metal forks to scratch you high dollar cookware you bought at Pricemart for $650.

Cali,
Excuse me for offering my opinion. You need to read things more carefully, so you don't start to infer things that aren't really there. I never said he was too old nor did I mention anything about how great my relationship is. I was merely pointing out the fact that a relationship with 35 year age difference doesn't have a high chance of success right off the bat. Do you disagree with that? I never implied age was the only variable in a relationship either.

And you are right, I'm blunt and may unintentionally come across as abrasive at times. That's not because I'm a New Yorker (:roll:), it's because that's me. Those who know me and whose opinion I care about, know what kind of person I am.

I sympathize with Lenny, I know break-ups are hard, so don't try to portrey me as some heartless know-it-all.

If you want to go further, relationships that are formed between hookers and johns don't have much of a chance of success either.

I would guess that during my time (eight years) on Houston hobby boards, I have seen about 10 couples try to make it. NONE have succeeded.

He did what many do. Wanted to be loved and wanted love back.

Not a crime, not even a mistake.

I test my chicas. One I gave 2k worth of Diesel tops to. My friend works in garment industry and these were all XS tops. Each one had a legitimate price of 140.00 and up. I gave her about 15 of these tops.

I come down one time and see her wearing one of my tops. I tell her that it looks really good on her. She tells me that she needs her cell phone bill paid, rent paid etc.

I ask her if I do this for you what will you do for me. Will you cook? Will you clean my condo? Will you get dressed up in nice clothes and accompany me to a few official dinners?

She is honest and says "no."

She states "I like my work and like the easy money, why should I do things only idiots will do?"

Their time is money, their feelings are what counts and their acting is somewhat better than Hollywood. What a shame that we overlook great ladies in the past and run after women who laugh at us.

Feel sorry for Lenny..yes..will he do it again?...yes.

Does it mean anything in the long run? Who knows? Maybe the next chica is his life mate. Maybe the next chica will devestate him to the extend that he does not function properly in the USA.

Playing with fire, many times you get burnt..to what degree..well, that is up to how man tell tale signs you want to ignore.

That tells it all.

i have seen a lot of relationships that have a 35 year difference work, like a grandfather and his granddaughter.. sorry just seemed funny...

OK Grandpas,

I get your point.

For me, I just remember the Jimmy Buffet lyrics:

......" I go for younger women. Lived with several awhile. Oh, I ran 'em away, they come back one day, still they manage to smile. Just takes a while. just takes a while"......

So you think I'm stupid for dating young women and that I should be a good old guy and date old women in the US and hire young hookers in CR when I want to get laid? I resemble that allegation. I resemble the alligator.

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Is low self esteem a prerequisite for being a good Ho or is it a result? ;-)

Lennydo,

I am a long ways from being a newbe here, But much of what you wrote could have been written by me over the past few months. Yes I knew what she is, I knew I could not trust her, I knew she would cheat, I knew she would take advantage of me. I knew I was spending a lot of money on her and the K*ds, I knew I was supporting her even though I had said I wouldn't, I knew all the reasons to run like hell. I knew that when she told me how much she loved me, it was really how much she loved the money. I knew she would leave the minute I cut off the money.

I finally ended the relationship about a month ago. After a couple of weeks, She called and wanted to use my place to have sex with her girlfriend. She knows how much I like 3somes and I knew it was a ploy to get me back. What the hell, I am a tough old 'pro' at this game!!! Several more trips to my place and she thinks she has me hooked again; and in some ways she did and always has had . But my eyes were still open- I think She left my place 3 days ago telling me how much she loved me and how happy she was that we were back together. Have not seen no heard from her in 3 days--SHE IS WITH ANOTHER GRINGO HOLED UP IN THE PERESIDENTE FOR A LONG TERM NEGOCIO. I refused to give her the money to pay her rent.

I knew that when I cut off the money, she would go back to "work", and thou it hurts a little I am fine with it, Better than me supporting her. What makes me mad is that she still feels the need to lie and not let me know where she is (other chicas told me about the negocio).

At least you were luckier than me in one respect--YOU GOT THE RING BACK!!! Hell mine has hocked everything I bought her.

And as many who know me are aware, NO, I never stopped seeing other chicas, I continued to visit the MPs and had other chicas come to my house. and for a long time I keep up with the money to sex ratio and I never spent more on her than what I would have been spending on the sex.

It just seems that no matter how much we know , how much we are aware of the facts, how long we have been mongering, how much our friends tell us what a mistake we are making, no matter how many times we tell ourselves how stupid we are being; the truth of the matter is that as long as there are hot Latina chicas working to get ALL they can out of gringos and there are old farts like me coming here and or living here, there will ALWAYS be us guys falling in love with love and giving in to the sexi young thing no matter how much we know it is a game.

The most important thing is to always keep your eyes open, never spend more than you can afford and feel comfortable with, and NEVER let her live with you nor let her come to the states (the laws here and in the states are always on her side).

GOOD LUCK to you Lennydo, and all others who have or have had the same problems--AND THERE ARE MANY MORE OF US THAN MOST REALIZE! and always remember:

NEXT

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Old and retired but still bang, and bang, and bang!!!

i was just making a joke. i would never advacate someone going out with an older woman especially not a gringa, but i think once you hit a certain age you should understand that with all women, "IT'S ABOUT THE MONEY!'
just how i feel.....

Lennydo, you did well getting out. Way to keep your cool.

I really think the reason hookers don't make good girlfriends is very basic - low self esteem. Deep down, they don't feel good about themselves so most don't feel they deserve anything good in their life. They slowly destroy whatever good there is so they can get back to miserable, but the tragedy is that they don't see it as though they are behaving badly to get back to miserable. When life is too comfortable, they can't take it since it is too foreign a feeling for them.

I believe the above, however I must say that it seems Asian hookers could actually make good girlfriends. Asians just seem different (I have no direct experience, however).

You got that right amigo!!!! I talked to at least one this past week! It happens all the frickin' time. Men who get into the WRONG line at immigration coming in to CR and the next thing one knows... they exit the airport with a craniotomy.

You're right about something else.... NOT ONE SOUL will learn a thing from this. Just look at the original poster. He joined CRT in 2005. These kind of experiences have been posted on this board for years!

I commented to a couple of newbies to the DR this past week that there are 2 national sports in CR. The first is well known... soccer. The second is... phuck the gringo. Even the chicas agree! It's a war out there. Wear your flak jackets!

Berk....

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LennyDo,

I'm glad you got out of it safely. I remember a year ago I sent you a PM that warned you about promoting workers to girlfriends. We've personally chatted several times since. Its nearly impossible to change a working gal. I learned very early-on and have stuck to my guns ever since.

Consider yourself lucky and move on!!! Rent them by the hour. If you want something more, you need to get more realistic and hunt in more appropriate locations. I can guarantee you absolute success in CR of finding a prospect closer to your age, who is also hot, by taking some risk and putting in some effort.

Its seems like many gringos go through some kind of a denial phase. She's not working anymore. She's changed. Blah, Blah.... These girls are all the same and should only be rented by the hour.

The thing I find bizarre, is that if you are looking for a long-term novia, why look in the gluch???? This is well documented, but guys seem to give a weak attempt and then go back to courting hookers, because it is too much work. Outside of the gulch, there are so many beautiful women and they are so receptive, if you have game. Lenny, I can think of at least 3 or 4 hot women in my gym, that I believe to be single. They are in their 40's and look 30ish. They are classy and have jobs. This is what you should be targetting. Shit, if I wasn't attached, I'd probably be all over them.

Best wishes bud... PM if you want to chat.

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I keep hearing this over and over. There seems to be a nice supply of single, attactive, educated, employed women in Latin America that have no problem dating older gringos and are not looking for a meal ticket or someone to take them to America. They must be fairly plentiful in Latin America, the mother (Colombian) of one of my best friend's in the U.S. wants me to meet her niece who is a Dentist or Pharmacist in Bogata (I don't remember which) in her late 30's. She is attractive, with a successful business and NO desire to leave her country or quit her business so some guy can "take care of her".

My question is why aren't gringos going after these types more often? Sure the 20 year old is smoking hot, but what the hell does a 55-60 year old college educated, well traveled, working professional gringo talk about with a 20 year old prostitute who dropped out of school in the 8th grade, watches only cartoons, and is barely literate?

You hit the nail on the head. I'm in my mid 30's. I don't want anything to do with a gum snapping, illiterate, lazy and immature prostitute in her 20's. I can't see how anyone older than me can see them any differently. You give them a present and they act like spoiled brats. You can go a MILE out of your way, and they aren't grateful. They could care less about you, its all about them. Phuck that. Rent them and then return 'em.

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Counte Dante Wrote:



The only thing this old fart has to say to these youngsters are two things:

How much?
NEXT!!!


I'm not looking for the great love of my life. I no more want to put effort into dating a fine older non-pro Tica professional, than I want to with a sweet young thing, or a Gringa. IMHO, once they get a ring on their finger, all women change, and not for the better. It matters not what's their nationality. I think it's an internal wiring problem of nature.

For me it's like renting a car, why rent the same one over and over again. Also, the good news is that every year they come out with new models to rent.

I wish all of you the best on your search for love, whether it be with a smokin' hot youngster, or an older non-pro professional. I choose neither, no matter what her nationality. NEXT!!!!!!

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