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I eventually was turned off of Jaco, because the Gringos that live there seem to be the SSI collection type (mental disability it seems to me). They remind me of men that hang out in pool halls (bars) where I grew up - hippy types (sorry TW, I know you don't hang in the BB) with the long greasy hair and unshaven and smoking and drinking their way through life. I know these guys didn't make it big in the USA (money wise) and they can't all be lotto winners so SSI is the only thing I can think of.

Anyway, I just can't relate to their mindset so if I cann't relate to that mindset, how can I enjoy Jaco? I think it would be difficult to enjoy it over the long haul.

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This is totally true. I've been seeing a chica in Santana who actually has a real job and is NOT hooking. Granted - she was easy to pick-up. I practically just had to say hi and buy her a drink. She liked my horrible Spanish and thats about all it took. We have been on two dates. Lots of kissing, but she won't even let me get in her pants. Shit - I've had an easier time with many gringas.

There is another myth that is common amongst gringos in CR. Everyone assumes they are all sluts and will do anything to be with a gringo... which obviously includes spreading her legs. This is because most gringos only hang around hookers. Ofcourse, THEY are easy. What do you expect?

There are classy girls in my gym that won't even look twice at most gringos. Its truly a fantasy if you think otherwise...

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Chi-trekker,

This is a signal from heaven that maybe you have found one of those special Ticas . They do make them & there are plenty that are like this. One thing for sure in my book if it isn't worth working for it is not worth keeping .

There are a host of different class Ticas in CR. It is not so much economic although it has its pull but more how they were raised than anything else. Chi I like your honest findings like this because I see it also. Many Gringos get so disillusioned they start thinking they can score with all. These guys embarrass me showing their idiot status. Some get real mad which really shows how shallow the gonad powered mind he has is operating on his shoulders. I respect any women’s decision toward me since what other choice does one have but NEXT ? The nice thing about Latinas they are sweet about it unlike some gringas. Obvious if you want to get in with the real quality crowd you better know how to compose yourself & if you have any idiot friends that are overly twiterpaited leave them at the pound . These type guys will ruin your chances of something real special happening from what I know. As always YMMV

Chi I am sure you have seen this type like many of us have. It is the one like you are going out with. You know she is a non p4p type for real. Well this is pretty much what I exclusively look for but I catch some like this looking around in HDR or on the streets shopping etc. They are obvious that they have hit a wall & have to come up with some money right away so they turn to us . Yes they would not starve but they would lose something dear to them if they don't come up with some quick cash.

They don't hesitate to tell you because you can read they feel bad about it etc. Some are BS stories others are not. This is what makes it so much fun sorting this out. It is a big crazy puzzle of life. If you get lucky to run into the good ones that hardly ever do this it is just a blast for me. I speak pretty well even faking their accent sometimes that throws them. Knowing their slang Spanish is a real RIOT . It blows them away coming from a real Gringo looking guy. I will PM you about something that may help you have some funny things to play with

I know I am a bit off the wall but they seem to find me as some entertaining oddity of sorts which seems to intrigue them It is my biggest thrill to find one totally out of place (easy to spot). Most these don't speak any English at all which keeps many Gringos at bay . Once they see you can not only speak to them but joke & get them laughing it is a plus plus since you have not only temporarily taken their mind off their troubles for that moment but they actually start having fun ! This shocks many since they had been dreading having to come out & had bad expectations which are now starting to look like it might not be so bad. Once they see you really understand their true culture & respect them it gets better. It literally feeds off of it self if all goes well.

Maybe it is a stupid game to some that I play but these Latinas tend to have very childd like minds so really it is relatively easy to do this. Sometimes it is a hard adjustment coming from gringa landia where you have the gringas games planted so deep in our little gonad powered minds Many Gringas love to rip your head off ruining many men’s confidence. This is the big plus to good Latinas as most are respectful & kind hearted. Many times even after all my years messing with this I have trouble shifting gears. You see when I find one that is so stunning & tall for a Tica that has literally model qualities I think Holy Shit can I pull this off because of the Gringa effect knowing how intimidating her looks would be in the hands of a gringa.

The worst thing I feel you can do is change your style back to what works better for Gringas. Treating them like royalty is a huge mistake in my book.

The bottom line is turning the tables of what everyone dreaded into a great time! This way they usually do not talk about $$ & most don't want to leave you & when they do they are fumbling around making sure you have their phone #. Some even get insecure saying Call Me I Know you, you won't call will you etc. That is the give away to some good progress you accomplished. These are fun nights where I was dreading only seeing nasty Pros out that I can't stand with their stiff lipped " DEAL OR NO DEAL" WHAT WILL IT BE AS THEY GLARE AT US & then I find this breath of fresh air so you can see how it builds. I may not even find them in the Hotel but out & around the perimeter of the gulch like the restaurants & shops. Chi you know when they just give you that hungry in need look that is all you need even if it is in passing in a non mongering setting. It is the way you come across with more than entertaining Spanish that seals the deal.

Obvious you do not need to do much to get laid & have fun but that shit gets old real fast I feel compared to what I get out of what I do for me anyway. I really get a cheap thrill out of this. I think if you become of the mind set to ride into town to be a savior which is very Noble you will be consumed but if you ride in with the mind set of sharing joy while trying to entertain & learn in a humble funny way you will be much more satisfied with the end results. Kind of like Old Circus the Clown

Chi for what ever it is worth I like the direction you are going down there. You watch you will reap some great rewards !

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Why monger? It is very complicated for me: I like lots of sex with multiple women (usually at the same time) and I want it on demand.

This is the main motivation. I also find myself craving more male contact (get your head out of the gutter LatinoHeat ) than my busy "real" life can afford me.

I love adventures; I love the trill. A good life is a balance between meaning and pleasure. For meaning, the meaning is here, and the pleasure (at least the more dark varieties) are there.

Together, all is well.

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Ruff and TP,

I agree with you guys, but find that I can be either way. Since I have experienced the additional pleasure of great sex with an emotional attachment, the GFE experience is more attractive to me than the thrill of great sex with many different women. When it works with a woman who is exceptionally attractive to me, it's really great. From my observations of some of the gringos in CR, they may have never experienced great sex along with an emotional attachment to the woman. Therefore, the quantity of sex with many chicas is their measure of good sex.

However, I'm not one to endure much bullshit in personal relationships. My motto is; Darling, if you don't start no shit, there won't be any shit, since I won't be starting any. So far in my life I've not yet met the female who could avoid starting some shit. Although I prefer to be in a relationship, in between women, I enjoy sport phucking as much as anyone else.

Like you Ruff, I have met a cutie in CR and despite the warnings of many I have now rented a condo in CR and trying things out to see if the great sex and emotional attachment can last and grow. However, I'll still look forward to seeing you guys at the SL since that is as much a part of the joy of CR as the lovely ladies. Please say hello when you see me, and it's Ok to ask how my trial monogamy is treating me. Serial monogamy may not be all that bad.

Len

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Is low self esteem a prerequisite for being a good Ho or is it a result? ;-)

Hey give me a break I was never good at geometry in school. [sic]

I've always been happy being single all my life. My longest relationship was probably about 1 year, twice. I'm also not the type of guy who likes putting up with the shit women seem to want to bring to a relationship. Also don't like women planning my weekends when it's only Thursday. I have walked away many a times from relationships when the bullshit starts.

I'm 37 and over the last two years I've had this feeling that I needed to find a woman and settle down and maybe start a family. I'd like to have K*ds of my own. I met a 23 year old gringa in the states and she was very cool in the beginning and after a few months she changed drastically from the person I first met. Women sure have a way of hiding alot of baggage until they think they have you hooked. I was through with her.

Then I took a trip to Costa Rica and was amazed at how well these chicas treat you like a man. They make you feel like you like a king. And this could lead to lots of trouble for you in the long run, if you let your guard down. The chicas are great at the GFE and the allusion that comes with it.

I was new to mongering twelve months and thought all hookers where like the ones you see in movies, strung out junkies who looked like they've been beat by their pimps too many times. In Costa Rica I discoverd many young affectionate and beautiful chicas who do not look like hookers at all. It is surreal and very dangerous territory.

You could get caught up inall the drama without even knowing it until it's too late.

I kept in touch with several chicas I met on my first two trips and found myself living this double life back in the states. I was exciting at first but after awhile you start to see the real motivations for chicas wanting to keep in touch with you.... RFM!!

After several trips I thought that I had "friends" in Costa Rica but the truth is they have their own motivations for being "friends" with you and it's all about the MONEY!! A lot of guys begin to think they have friends in CR but the truth is the only people you can trust in Costa Rica are gringos. Sure lots of chicas are sweet and cut you deals and are fun to hang out with but I don't need to pay for my friendships. I've met a lot of chicas working with "friends" on one trip and when I see them again on my next visit I ask where is "what's her name" and they usually reply with some story of betrayal and theft. These chicas steal from each other as well. I no longer see these chicas as friends just working chicas.

It's all part of the game, the scene. If you weren't in the scene you have no use for said friendships. I use this analogy. When you're a crackhead, dopehead or drunkard you find yourself hanging with the same crowd but when you decide to quit all the bullshit you don't continue hanging out with your so called "friends" you move on... hopefully to better things.

As far as relationships with the chicas is concerned in the beginning it can be grea. It's always great in the beginnig with most woman on this planet. But the truth is the chicas are women and in the end they can turn out to be just like the gringas we try to escape, sometimes the chicas can be worse than he gringas. Try communicating to a chica what is on your mind. Good luck arguing with them. They are all Ch*ldren and Ch*ldren act irrational and cannot comprenhand the difference between what's right and what is wrong with many issues at hand.

I met a chica that treated my like a king. Sexually and emotional it was all good. She was very humble and shy in the beginning. I let my guard down. I left myself open to a lot of pain and misery, which I could have done without. Women are all irrational but you at least have a chance of communicating properly with a gringa. The chica I met dressed like a woman, acted like a woman, enjoyed going out dancing, dining out and didn't have a problem whenever I wanted to hang out and have a few drinks. And whenever I wanted sex it was no problem. Anytime of day as many times a day as I wanted.

That all changed over the twelve months I spent with her. She started wearing jeans, gym shoes and baseball caps. She didn't want to go out of the house for long periods of times. She was too tired for sex. Wanted to relax and watch cartoons all day. She couldn't understand that I didn't watch TV and thought I was crazy for not owning a TV. She wanted to control the relationship and tell me what to do. She asked my why I wanted to drink all the time? My smoking started bothering her. The chicas are not just like gringas they are worse because at least some gringas have something to add to the relationship. Sure I could find a chica that I could have total control over but that's not what I want in a relationship. Her family has several succesful business venture and she refused to work. She is LAZY!! Always looking for the easy way to get what she wants. It's impossible for her to think about the future. And once she makes up her mind, right or wrong, it's done. There is no changing her mind.

It's funny after talking to sevaral Ticos in CR, taxi drivers, hotel staff, lawyers, and your average jose, they all say the same thing about the Ticas. "they're all the same. And they always have an agenda for many of the things they do and say."

I am beginning to believe the P4P scene works better for older gents and can be very detrimental to younger guys who have yet to make their mark in life and have truly found what they are looking for in themselves.

I've never had a problem with one night stands in the past. Now I have to look at the chicas in CR in the same manner. One night stand, thank you and move on.. no more pretending we are "friends".... it's NEXT!

Those overwhelming feelings I had about finding a woman to settle down with and start a family have disappeared and I'm beginning to feel awhole lot better about myself and my life. I have always been happy doing things my way without someone else trying to planning my future. And after talking to a lot of married guys I know they all seem to be in miserable state.

The best part of this experience is I can now truly appreciate everything I have and everything this great country has to offer. The change in perspective has really helped me to see things for what they truly are, good and bad.

I'm a better monger after all is said and done. It's all a fantasy!!

Life is good!
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I havent been to CR yet but what I've found is women are women. No matter where you are. But what it sounds like it the ticas can be MUCH WORSE then gringas. Dont get me wrong I love my gringas... but from what Ive read some gringos think ticas are better only to find out they can be MUCH WORSE.

My guard is up. At all times....


- Buddy

I have heard the SAME thing from all of my contacts in SJ. In fact, the ticos say that all ticas are the same. The ticas say the same shit about ticos. It goes back and forth.

Enter gringo...

What I've learned about these querky ladies is that they are extremely immature in most aspects of life. The only wisdom they truly learn in life is survival. It seems that age doesn't matter. I was dating a 19 year old and a 37 year old down here. In both cases, I felt like I was dealing with a Ch*ld. For example, when I blew off the 37 year old, she began prank calling me at all hours of the night. Weren't prank phone calls pretty much boring after the age of 12?

They are also extremely LAZY. They won't work unless its absolutely necessary. If they are living with you, they just assume you will foot every bill including taxis, zapatos, food, drink... EVERYTHING!!! I've sent her home with job applications to no avail. They also assume that because you are born in the USA that you were born automatically rich. When I explain that I've had a job since the age of 15, their eyes kind of glaze over... like in confusion and bewilderment. They are perfectly content with doing nothing. They live in today and don't have ambition much beyond today.

Their agenda is money, and if you have it, they are constantly day dreaming about ways to extract it from you. I didn't believe this at first, but have first hand evidence. I caught my ex novia going through my investment account statements while I was at the gym. I also had my rolex hidden in a certain pocket in my bag. It was hidden so well that I actually forgot where it was. One day I was looking for it and couldn't find it. I freaked thinking the maid stole it. She SOMEHOW knew exactly where it was. However, I never told her where I hid it. NO, SHE WASN'T A THIEF. But, she seemed to constantly be taking inventory of my wealth. I explained these two events to my tico friends and they just laughed their asses off.

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Good post TP,
Tica/chica bashing threads are rare but you guys point out some very realistic things to expect from an LTR with most CR chicas.
And C_t your experience is exactly like an amigo of mine, she snoops thru his emails and tries to find out about his bank accts., etc. so he put a password on his computer. I was recently discussing the differences based on my research of most program Ticas versus Colombianas in Colombia. I haven't been to Colombia yet but from what I've learned most semi and non-pros tend to be classy, intellegent and working towards actual goals in their lives. And that Colombia is a much better place to look for a wife or long term novia if that's what you seek. Here's an example from Coolhand's recent report-

Many chicas in CR claim to be in school but I think most lie about it, after all it makes us feel better and willing to let go of our money if we think we're helping a struggling college student. I told my amigo the other night about the good things I've heard about Colombianas looking for love and the differences with the Ticas. And that the most he could ever expect from his ex-pro Tica is the usual bullshit which is posted above- she will never work any normal job or do anything to better herself, likes to sleep late every day, doesn't pick up after herself, watches tv all afternoon, and plans how to spend his money during her waking hours. She's in her late twenties but behaves like a teenager. Lazy and unmotivated unless looking for a gringo to mooch off of defines her and many others from what I see.
Buyer beware.

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The problem here is most of us are dealing with bottom feeders. Try making a change to dating a successful College Grad & you will see some major differences. One real cute Tica is in Med school that works behind the bar at the Morazon Hotel. I was in the elevator with her & we talked a lot about the school & classes etc. She was in her scrubs from the hospital at this moment. I made little progress & heard she has a Tico Novio. I haven't seen anyone get anywhere with this one. Some are quality like this one but most are not.

I am sure she saw me as one the typical guys with Monger Stamped on my forehead. It doesn't take much imagination to see this. No biggy to me because I don't have time to deal with her realities since I just came to phuck nice hot chicas but if I was looking for something worth while to date it would be this type, only I would have to find one that works further away from the clutches of the gulch. The gulch is a very strange spreading disease that emanates in a 360 degree radius from ground ZERO !

It is really not that much different dealing with any bottom feeders anywhere except in the USA. Bottom feeder Gringas tend to be into drugs & bitchey while they put out very begrudgingly. Tica bottom feeders we get what we want or are willing to pay for generally with a smile. Deal with the upper crust & it is all about the same but I believe Latinas are still sweeter & more genuine by nature.

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TP and Chi, great posts. I can personally verify that everything you said is consistent with my personal experience. I don't believe that a chica working in a bar is incapable of love. I really do not. What we as gringos are missing is FRAME OF REFERECE. In other words, really put yourself in their shoes. We think as gringos based upon our culture and upbringing. They have an entirely different set of circumstances. Look past the obvious things and you will discover that our views and theirs are entirely different. Not all of us are cut out to be with a LATINA. Born and raised in a latin country. We as gringos just can not make the connection to totally understand them and they can not make the connection to totally understand us.

When a "relationship" fails we are quick to point a finger at the chica. Particularly if she is a working girl. In fact, I think some gringos who don't do so well with regular "normal" relations like the idea of having a hooker g/f. It gives a built in excuse for us when it fails. Oh..she was just a wh*re anyway. Etc.. I'm not defending them. I'm just asking to look past the obvious. Their world was shaped different than ours. Not everyone is meant to have a latina g/f.

Now, as for theft. That is a deal killer. We all know that is just blatently wrong and an act of deceit.

dapanz1

Dapanz,

Your post conjured up a couple of my "life conclusions."

"You are who you are......because of where you were when."

And

"No matter where you go....................there you are."

Luck