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PostPosted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 12:09 pm 
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Living & Retired in Costa Rica & Available - Desirable Gringa Women
Margie Davis

Even though I love my life in Costa Rica, there's one big gaping hole - I have no one to date. I am attractive with a petite body, yet I can't find a suitable man to ask me out.

I am not alone in this situation. My single gringa and Tica women friends in their 40s, 50s and 60s have the same lament. The lack of datable men is a leading reason why single gringas move back to their countries or onward to different locations.

I know two women who are leaving Costa Rica for Buenos Aires, Argentina - land of European transplants, culture, and the tango. Actually, I have a U.S. friend who moved to Buenos Aires in 1998 who has a similar complaint: There are men to date there, but they lack the staying-power qualities of fidelity, honesty and respect for women that are necessary in a long-term relationship.

I realize that the older we get, the more set in our ways we become. That's true for both women and men. It's more difficult to make a relationship work unless you loosen up on the expectations. My complaint isn't about making a relationship work, though - that would be step two. Step one is finding eligible men to date.

Generally speaking, the single gringo men who come to Costa Rica are looking for young Tica women. I realize how ignorant and biased a general statement can sound, but this one is based on considerable research and observation.

These Ticas tend to be very attractive and have been brought up to treat men as gods (another general statement that is true in my experience). These women don't think of themselves as independent thinkers with aspirations for personal or career growth. They want to marry wealthy men (even poor gringo men are viewed as wealthy), and secure their futures by having Babi*s. Procreating is what they've been trained to do.



So looking to date a gringo male in Costa Rica is mostly a futile attempt. While there are exceptions, I have found that most gringo males don't even realize that there is a population of gringa women here. The typical gringo men who make the move to a foreign country just don't consider that gringa women could have the same kind of courage and wanderlust that prompted their move.

Personally, I would love to date a Latino man, whether he's originally from Costa Rica or from any other Spanish-speaking country. Learning language from each other could be fun, as could learning about other cultural aspects. But the same question remains: Where are the eligible Latinos?

I've tried bars, endured karaoke renditions of "Escúchame," and frequented dance halls with only a couple of invitations to dance. I've been taking Latin dance lessons to improve my chances of finding a lively Latino. I went on a nature walk. I've spent leisurely hours at cafés, looking desirable and approachable.

What I'm realizing is that people here socialize within their groups. If a group goes out at night, all the members stay in that group, making it just about impossible to meet someone new without a proper introduction. I have broadcast to all my Latino and gringo friends that I am looking to date, but they claim to know no one for me.

When I moved down here I left a 17-year marriage, and getting into another relationship was the last thing on my mind. But now that I've been here and gotten on with my life, I want to date again. I've had three dates in 13 months. While two of the guys didn't float my boat, I liked the one who is Tico. We got along great but he moved to Guanacaste and I didn't want to carry on a long-distance relationship, plus language was too much of a barrier at that time.

I don't know that things would be any different in the US, probably not in my former home of Florida where women way outnumber men. Part of my problem is that I look, act and feel at least 10 years younger than I am. My Tico was 40 to my 55, yet age didn't matter to either of us. I've noticed that Ticos in their 20s and 30s are attracted to me, but they're the age of my stepsons, and I've got to draw the line somewhere.

What other lines have I drawn? I've made a shopping list for a suitable date and posted it at a few online dating services. Responses have been disappointing, I think because of my age and not because of the type of guy I'm looking for. Here is my ideal date:


Single
Age 48-64
59" or shorter
Self-confident
Talks, listens, shows empathy
Trim
Nonsmoker
With any luck, he'll also be intelligent, have a sense of humor, and will take me dancing, but I'm willing to compromise on these aspects.

So what's a single, desirable woman to do? Well, until my next date, which by the law of averages should be in about three months, I'll continue enjoying my time with my female friends. Fortunately, I have no shortage of those.
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These Ticas tend to be very attractive and have been brought up to treat men as gods


Gee, why would a guy want to have that when he could have an older, feminist gringa to make his life miserable?

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Actually I fit all of her criteria (OK, I could drop 15 lbs) but even though I'm sure she's a wonderful woman and would be a GREAT catch (uh, huh) I'm sorry, madam gringa, you're just not in my "control group" for female companionship.

Why, you ask? Let me count the ways:

1. You're a gringa.
2. You're over 45 (10 years over. Compare the feel of the skin of a 25-35 yr old to a 55 yr old woman).
3. You're set in your ways (you even said so).
4. You prove the points as to why gringos go to Latin America in search of female companionship by your very arguments.

I had a woman (a "friend" pushing 60) tell me a couple months ago that men travel to third world countries looking for women they can "control". Funny, that never enters my mind when I make reservations for a trip.

When women (including my mother) ask me why I don't date American women I ask them, "Have you ever DATED an American women?" That usually stops them in their tracks.

The funny thing is, the more they try to convince me American women are so much better than their Latin American sisters they just keep proving my point as to why I have so little regard for them, let alone actually want to get involved with them.

One of life's little dilemma's. Hopefully I'll have a solution sometime in the future.

Pidd, thanks for posting the article.

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She has the same problem that many of us do. I feel sympathy for her, but P4P seems like the only solution for both of us.


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This is some funny shit, thanks for posting it.

In my May trip, I had a long conversation with a Tico taxista. He is married and has 3 girlfriends (and his wife knows). He said that sometime back one of his gf's was a gringa. He dumped her after a couple of weeks. According to him, she was "LOCA". She probably had a similar attitude to this woman in the article. And they wonder why Latinos want NOTHING to do with them... :roll:


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Personally, I find it accurate and a bit sad. She seems to get it, but isn't quite ready to accept reality. A third world country is no place for a gringa looking for a man.

The equation in the States is tilted in their favor. The main thing in their favor is the fact that younger women won't even look at older men. As an older (boy howdy) guy, I am stuck choosing among grandmothers, so if she's not 100 lbs overweight and psycho, she's in demand among the lonely old farts. I know some who have 20somethings chasing them because the 20somethings can't get laid either.

But in the third world, younger women are not as choosy (or choosy in a different way) as their first world counterparts. Third world girls/women are not complacent about their economic future. Most first world girls/women are. The problem for an older gringa in CR is that they are not comfortable, feminism notwithstanding, being a sugar mama. The stigma among their peer group is something they don't want to deal with. Compare that to the 'stigma' we feel being seen in the company of a hot 20 year old... Among our peers, it's mostly looks that say 'wow, dude, way to GO!'

Russia, the Philipines, Thailand, Nicaragua, any poor country without overbearing religious/cultural repression will be similar. I chose Costa Rica because I felt I could learn Spanish and I like the climate. If the weather was as good in Romania, maybe I'd be there instead.

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This is so appropriate to my situation. My trip in October (my first) will coincide with my divorce being finalized after 21 years of marriage. I thought it would only be fitting to visit CR and scr*w my brains out, since I did so little in the end of my marriage.

Prior to marriage I was an alcoholic, drug addict, male whore, and at times homeless who lived only for his next lay of the day. I was very, very good at all of the above. I was told by a doctor specializing in alcohol that I would die in the gutter by the time I was 50 (he was wrong). Why be average? None of this I am particularily proud of, but I was young, dumb and full of c*m.

Then comes marriage................. I quit drinking, drugs and never cheated on my wife. I did not beat on her mentally or physically. Gave her my check. I maintained employment that allowed us to live well above an average lifestyle, even with the unreasonable cost of living in California. All of this I did happily for my marriage and my chidlren. I basically became a wimp. So what, that wasn't quite enough. I was told in a marriage counseling session that if I changed "just a bit more" that she may actually want me. That was our last session, I stood up even before the words had finished leaving her lips, walked out, and never looked back. American women are treated the best in the world, and appreciate it the least in the world. It doesn't matter how much we do, if we only did a little more........! It never ends.

As she says, "she is set in her ways". Which means, I hate men because of my poor choices earlier in life. Women love the bad boys, which is one of the reasons I did so well in my youth. After they catch the bad boy, they demand that they change. Remember all the things that you did prior to marriage that were unacceptable after. It is never necessary for the woman to change, she is perfect already. The odds of me marrying, or even dating, and American gringa is somewhere between never and I'll kill myself first.

American women deal in "feelings" with no data needed. American men deal in data, screw the feelings. This union is like trying to mate a dog and a cat.

Thanks for the soap box. I feel better already. Her sniveling seemed to have gotten my blood pressure up a bit.

Santas bro

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Response to Gringa........ Gringa GO HOME. Don't you understand that we Gringos came here to GET AWAY FROM YOU. As was said here before,the answer for you is P4P just like it is for us. (but don't fall in love) If you pay a young,handsome Tico enough money he may phuck your brains out AND listen attentively to all your bullshit. He will even pretend to be interested in the things that interest you. (may have to pay him cien/hora) If you have trouble understanding what I am saying,go to the Del Rey one night and see for yourself what you are competing against.

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Gringas in CR? I never notice them....and certainly don't talk to them. They are certainly not a part of my world in CR.....


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PIDD: Thanks for posting this. It is priceless. Like you said, she just dosen't get it.
ID: I'm still ROTFL.
Vegas Bob: Good reply. You say it all when you remind her that SHE's the reason we left in the first place.
Whit: Excellent Points all.
Santos: Wow! Your experience was so similar to mine, it was mind boggling!
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Hey! New idea for marriage counciling: send the couple to live in CR for a month, in separate places, where they meet only for a few hours every day, say for lunch. Give them both a mongering budget! I'll bet that would fix many a marriage.

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C'mon VegasBob, be a sport and take the nice lady out on a date. She is attractive with a petite body, so what if it has a few wrinkles and gray hairs? :lol:
Why does a divorced gringa move to CR anyway? G&G ******* hac some young studs that could give her a good pounding but she is looking for "a suitable man, with the staying-power qualities of fidelity, honesty and respect for women that are necessary in a long-term relationship." VB if you don't want her then fix her up with the new guy on the block down there- Easy. :wink:

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PostPosted: Mon Sep 18, 2006 2:48 pm 
Chesscat wrote:
She has the same problem that many of us do. I feel sympathy for her.....


Bilko wrote:
Personally, I find it accurate and a bit sad.


I feel for her as well. She wrote an impassioned post (or whatever it was) to her dilemma. She’s right on the mark. Life is more tough than easy so still not sure why this world thing even exists.


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You guys don't see the big picture.........

There are gringas in CR begging to get laid and you phuckers are turning your cheek.........

You guys are mean....... If you see any gringas just send them my way, I will take one for the team. :)

On one condition..... they have to be gagged cuz I don't want to hear any bitching and complaining. :D

It will be a hit and run. Only Cien an hr. :lol:


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