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Whether one is happy depends in large part on where one has come from; not only where one is born, but when, with what skin color, to what parents, and with what set of genes. Setting aside the extremes, those who make a great life out of nothing, and those who squander their good fortunes, most of us can thank (or curse) the stars for where we are. That's not to say one can't "improve" one's position in life. However, if you're born with American Indian roots, you may think one way about the States, and if born African American, perhaps another. If one is born in a New York slum, that's a long way from the Waldorf. But assuming one has a good start in life, it's up to that person not to "blow it." But not "blowing it" doesn't equal "happiness."
Happiness involves safety, security, love, food, shelter, pu*sy....and yes, not getting shot in the street. But in the U.S., your chances of getting shot in the street are way up, compared to other countries. Fear brings the "happiness" quotient way down. Stress is another "deal breaker," and we in the U.S. have (IMHO) too goddam much of it. Simply put, people work too much, chasing the latest consumer goods and services. Families are strewn all over creation in the States. I don't see that in my travels in Costa Rica, Colombia, or Brazil. People eat, drink, and smoke too much in the States, and nothing kills the mood like a grapefruit-sized tumor in one's lungs, or an amputated leg from diabetes. What about the sexual revolution in the '60's? Isn't that when all the shit hit the fan, causing angst, volatility, and even enmity between the sexes? Isn't THAT at the heart of why we travel and prefer Latinas and other exotics?
Yet, people purportedly come to the States seeking a "better life." The world is a big place and you're bound to have plenty of folks wanting a "piece of the action" in the U.S. But zealots like to point to that as proof it's the greatest country in the world. My experience has shown there are lots of people who have zero intention of traveling to the States anytime soon, let alone live there. If for no other reason, people avoid coming because the cost of living is prohibitive unless you make good bucks, or live in a trailer like brother Circus. And having "nothing" in the States is far different from having "nothing" in many other countries. That's because having "everything" is the mindset of Americans, and having "nothing" means total failure, more stress, and maybe abandonment and madness. I have met plenty of folks in Latin American countries who have "nothing" and are not coming "unglued" over it. They have family, friends, drugs, whatever...but they're "connected," not estranged or "outcasts."
Finally, people say “Hello!†in elevators in other countries. I’ve been to Italy, the Netherlands, Switzerland, Canada, the Islands, Central/South America; people are civilized, even in poor countries. It comes from a sense of “community†which, unfortunately doesn’t exist in the U.S., at least in the cities.
I think the chickens are starting their roosting thing in the ol’ red, white, and blue. More people are disillusioned and they got that “quiet desperation†thing goin’ on. I see it in colleagues, friends, even my family. My brother is 9 years older, going crazy with his ol’ lady, just when “retirement†was supposed to mean riding off together into the sunset. I’m sending him pic’s of some girls to see if he wants to “ride†sumtin’ else.
I’ve only been out of the country 2.5 months, too early to make any summations yet. But I will say this; I’ve been quite happy lately, and while I can’t quite put my finger on it, it has something to do with hot beaches, hot women and hot sex.
Miami has the first two, but misses bigtime on the last….
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"Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."
"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."
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. Too me the weak guys come in & mess everything up especially themselves by throwing money around on a hopeless situation that can never be real but somehow they are determined to try to make real cumm hell or high water 
. From my experience the guys that are enjoying it all to no end are the Pro Sportfuckers (example who other than VB) 
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One thing for sure happiness is your state of mind not money as you have seen in these other countries. We have to be strong enough not to let unhappy people drag us into the trap they have fallen in. It is almost a full time job in the USA now 
. Somehow it is much easier to "FEEL ALIVE" in these don't worry be happy 3rd world places.
