www.CostaRicaTicas.com

For those of you who have never experienced a tica/nica/columbiana or latin american women before Watch Your Step

Latina women know how to make you happy. Both sexually and emotionally. They have a talent for it when they are born. It is not learned although experience perfects it.

If you come to CR tread lightly. These women kjnow how to play and manipulate your insecuritites very well. DO NOT flash your money around, do not expect them to "fall in love" with you. They will act like it but their husbands or boyfriends are the real people in their lives.
Family comes first !! and they will do most anything to see to it including working.
Do not answer the requests for money (RFM) with money. Lie some how.
When the emails come reply but be vague in you answers.
If phone calls come do the same. lie.
What ever you do try not to allow them to get to you and allow them the upper hand, you'll loose.
The ticos, ( Latin men ) know this and do not fall for their tricks. We are gringos and are coming down for some P4P. Leave it at that.

If you use an agency, these girls are specially trained to be better than the ones at the gulch establishments. Many of them speak english very well. They also have some specialized "tricks" they use. The companionship is wonderful but believe me it is the money these ladies are after. Nothing else. Unless you are very rich save your money

I speak from experience. Please pay heed.
Also,
Search this board. There is a wealth of knowledge about latin women here and most of it comes from the experiences of the person who posted the thread. And as we all know experience is one of the best ways of learnig.

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

I understand how guys can go to CR and fall in love with the women there but unless you are willing to move there is no reason to treat your trip as anything other than a business vacation. You need to remember that you are going home and it is their job to separate you from your money. There are exceptions to this rule but good luck finding them it will be expensive. Treat you experience like a business transaction you will have the time of your life and not be disappointed. Treat the girls the same way you would a business associate and take everything they say with the same level of skepticism and you will be alright.

To those of you that have found that special someone in CR I salute you and wish you well. This manner of behavior in CR works best for me. I may have favorites there but I am always coming home.

Xman

I agree, if you don't plan on moving to Cosa Rica then the first question you should ask your novia is "Would you move to the US?" If she says "NO" then it's only the money she wants from you.

"Mi amor, te quiero mucho" has nothing to do with love and wanting to be with you forever. Because if someone truly loved you and/or was interested in possibly developing a real realationship with you then she would follow you to the end of the earth. That is LOVE.

What a wonderful life we (mongers) live.

Good, bad or otherwise it sure a roller coaster of an experience.

Good advice Patriot I've been down all the roads and they certainly don't lead to oz...
Have fun enjoy the ride enjoy the fantasy & remember MG's famous quote NEXT...

PS.. LOVE THIS NEW T-SHIRT.......

Blue Marlin Bar...... The girl with me is Not my Novia its just my Turn!

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The Boss of All Bosses!!! Hey I'm a drunk alcoholics go to meetings!

Here is my twist on the subject which is largely similar to the others:

a) Those who go looking for a real novia in the Gulch (or any P4P venue) is going on a fool's mission.

b) Those who are going to CR for a week at a time just a few times a year (or less) might try to pursue non-pro chicas while they are there over the course of a few visits but they'll have their work really cut for them with so little time.

c) For most s/t visitors, the pure P4P route is the most cost and time effective way to go. You can play at GFE but don't delude yourself what it really is.

d) For those gringos, who spend more time in CR or even live there full-time, non-pros are still the only way to go if you're seeking a real novia relationship, but even there, if there is a wide cultural, generational (20yrs+) and economic gulf between you and her, the attraction is most likely still essentially P4P in sheep's clothing. That may be perfectly fine, but be aware of it, control it and let that guide your actions.

Patriot is right. Enjoy the Novia fantasy if thats your thing but don't fool yourself into believing it is really any more than a commercial exchange. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that spending more money while you're there or worse fulfilling RFM's from home will change any of that. It just makes it worse and marks you as sucker that can just be played even more until you finally wise up.

I don't buy TP's strategy however. Just because she says yes doesn't mean she isn't just into you for your money. It justs means she sees you as a more promising long-term meal-ticket. And just because she says no doesn't mean anything either. After all, you're not willing to move from your country for her either and you think you love her. Don't get me wrong. She's probably into you for your money either way, whether she says yes OR no. Its just that the question by itself doesn't really mean anything at all.

Better yet, do not give them your email and/or phone number. The only good thing that those ladies can provide us requires proximity and a bed.
Spanish is my first language and I've never had any (real) meaninful exchange of communication with any of those ladies. Given time, and us asking the wrong questions (how a beatiful woman like you ended up in this line of work?, would you leave this line of work if given the opportunity?, etc.), they will feed us the BS line (poverty, K*ds to support, K*D's father doesn't help (of course, she won't tell you that she supports the leech too!), but then again, I never hooked up with medical students like some of you guys.

I'm sorry TP, but answering yes doesn't cut it either, it could very well mean that she wants your money and a green card.

The "NO" is a bit extreme especially if she has to leave everything/everyone she knows behind in order to be with the man she loves. Something I've been thinking about for some time is how no one seems to want to make any sacrifices in order to make the realationship work. I'm not specifically talking about chicas because from my experience in the states everyone seems interested in making themselves happy first and then maybe if it benefits them in one way or another they may bend a little, not much though.

Any "YES" can mean a whole lot of differnt things and/or reasons but from my experiences the Ticas don't want to leave their country. Colombianas and Mexicanas are a whole different subject.

"YES and NO" really means nothing to a whole lot of people out there.

The best plan is to move to CR and have a live in novia but break up with her before three years otherwise she is entitled to something in return. I may be wrong but I think it's three years, something like that.

I have to agree with most of what has been said. I have a dear friend who fell into the trap with a Mexicana and now he is dealing with the unfortunate results of a relationship gone to hell. Now he can't seem to get rid of her.
Whether it is CR, US, Mexico, or wherever it is pretty much the same. We as they are there for all different reasons but the bottom line remains the same. it is a temporary situation at best.

dph55

Patriot wrote:



This post should be clipped out, carried in every mongerer's wallet, and read daily with the first cup of morning coffee.



Very true...however, it is one trait I admire and respect in the ticas even though it doesn't always work to our advantage.

Traylor Park wrote:



TP,

Yes, you are correct. Costa Rican law stipulates that if you have lived with a woman for 3 years, consider yourself married. The ex-novia is entitled to the same share of possessions as a woman married in a church or civil ceremony.

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Blue Devil

Pura Vida...enjoying life to the fullest...

Why would a monger even consider giving out personal info like your E-mail address? If your're looking for a pen pal, then join an organized Pen Pal club. If you're looking for a wife, I suggest the Phillipines where you can meet nice women looking for husbands, not pros. But if you're looking to get laid, then of course go to SJ. I may be a newbie to CR, but I have been to most of the rest of the world. It's a big world out there guys.

You just have to prepare in advance, and giving your email is not a problem.

With so many free options for mail (Yahoo, Gmail, etc) why not create an account specifically for sharing while on your trip? That's what I do. Sharing the email is one way to keep in contact with a favorite before a return trip. I'm sure other people have other reasons to swap email addresses.

As for the main idea in this thread, this may be the best advice you are going to get on this board or any other. There is nothing like a latin woman, if you ask me. Enjoy the show, but remember that's exactly what it is.