D2864 wrote:
Yeah, it is difficult, but a lot more aren't hookers and they are making it.... still I don't understand the whole situation.*
This is a question I've asked myself for sometime. NO easy answers but the following example is something that might make the difference between the "working" and non-working chicas.
You have a nice Tico family living in a house that has been in the family for generations, this includes Mother/Father/Ch*ldren/Grandparents. An older male usually a neighbor, family friend or employer takes a fancy to one of the young innocent daughters and before you know it she ends up pregnant. It doesn’t matter what angle the man works to get her to have sex with him, but keep in mind that a lot of the men practically force themselves on these young innocent chicas. In the U.S. the law would consider this RAPE. Anyways, after the chica is pregnant the man denials that it’s his and walks out of the chicas life forever, leaving the chica to have the baby on her own. No support from the family because they feel ashamed because what the neighbors must think about them having a young pregnant daughter. The parents ask themselves, “where did we go wrong?â€
Most of the homes they live in are small and overcrowded, so the chica is made to feel like she is a burden on the family. These chicas don’t have the highest self-esteem to begin with and now they find themselves young, pregnant, alone… basically worthless. They may make an effort to find real employment. Keep in mind that jobs are hard to come by in Costa Rica and when you find one they don’t pay enough to support yourself. And if the chica is lucky to find a job as a maid which includes room and board she still has to contend with the male in the house, who will eventually try to force himself on the chica. She is easy prey.
After a period of time working as a maid and sleeping with the man of the house, she may come to the conclusion that it would probably be better working at HDR because at least she is her own boss and she does not have to live like a caged animal. A lot of the chicas working as maids are expected to stay inside the home and are not encouraged to go out with friends and/or boyfriends.
So you have a young chica with a bebe, and somewhere along the way she usually winds up getting pregnant again, and you have the Ticos with the whole machismo attitude who are not going to waste their time on some chica with bebes, they have a plethora of other chicas to prey on instead. The chica doesn’t have a chance to meet a nice Tico who would be willing to take on two/three new mouths to feed… his life is difficult enough already.
The newbie chica starts to “work†at the HDR and there she finds a whole new group of “friends†who may have had similar experiences in their young lifes, so they can relate. After sometime working it just becomes a job to them. It’s easy money, lots of new friends, gringos treating them well, they receive gifts and lots of attention, something they’ve never gotten before. It feels good to have your own money to pay for the things you need. The chica has a “new†life!!
But at what cost?
Because in the process they loose their innocence and any dreams they may have had in the past. They are lost to this world… the world of a working-chica.
This post is not specific to any chica I know… but is a composite of many chicas I have met and spoken to in the past. All the chicas have mentioned to me how thye have cried themselves to sleep for days, months after getting pregnant and being abandoned by the father, who is usually a married man with Ch*ldren of his own and is almost always 15-20 years older than they chica. After awhile they build walls around themselves and this is something that usually helps them in making the decision to “work.â€
As far as the possiblity of making a lot of of money a lot of chicas I spoke to work only to make enough money for to make ends meet. There are not a lot of chica pulling in $2000 a week. I've been at HDR/KL and have seen many a chica stand around for days without any business. And I'm talking about good looking chicas.
It's incredible how whenever you ask a chica how she is doing they always reply “PURA VIDA!!!†with a great big smile.
How they do it I will never know.