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i think i'm burnt out on the whole scene. damn if i did not want to move here after my first trip. the people, the culture, the food, the smells, sights and sound have a certain allure for a newbie. but after 7 trips in 9 months i'm spent.

the people that are so happy to see you on your second trip become just like the people you know back at home. if you know what i mean.

i need a break from the land of good and plenty. too much of something good is always bad for you.

i'm having a talk with my novia tommorow about me not coming back, probably for a while. unless i win the lotto and can retire i will stay away.

the novia changed drastically from the first time i met her. we used to have so much fun together;dinner, dancing, dressing up, sharing stories, acting like fools in love, not anymore. now we spend most of the time fighting like cats and dogs. the make up sex is great but i've tired of the whole drama involved. this has been the longest realtonship in my 36 years and damn if i don't know how anyone can get married.

i've been here for 8 days and i'm tired and want to leave sooner than planned. i will call AA tommorow to see if i can get an earlier flight back home. i only hooked up with one chica out of the dr this trip and even then i didn't feel like it. i probably would not have done it if she wasn't so freakin' hot and cool. she is a friend of a chica i know and we sat at the dr drinking and shooting the shit for hours having a great time. i decide to take her back for a well spent $50 during the day.

the sex seems so empty to me and i want more. even though me and the novia fight a lot i enjoy the sex with her because it means something more to me. she is not the one for me, i tried. but you can't change people. she is too damn stubborn and always wants her way. i was staying at her house and after two days i couldn't take it anymore so i went to the dr, just to hang out with the boys and have a few beers and she new exactly where to find, i told her i was probably going to meet some gringo friends. i went she followed me and the rest... well you guys know the rest.

i thought i had this trip all planned out. i was sober for about five weeks before my trip, but after two days i wanted a drink. also wanted to spend a month living together to see what it would be like and I found out. it's not all it's cracked up to me. you also have to take into considerationt that one person is on vacation and the other is going about their day like any other day. she has a small apartment and everywhere you turn their she is, the K*D too. who is a great K*D in spurts but after awhile he can wear you down. especially how the mother gives him everything he wants. all he has to do is start crying and she gives in quickly. i spent a day alone with him at the mall and he behaved with me. he need discipline in his life. with me it's, sit up straight, walk along side me, no plata for everything he wants. order only what you want to eat. damn the novia orders him food he never eats. i talked to him like and adult and he listened. the mom spoils him too much.

also tired of seeing the same old faces in the gulch... lots of people have aged sinced i made my first trip. too many dumb ignorant gringos acting like they're the shit throwing money around. these goofs flashing wads of $100 at the DR made me ill the other day. i wanted to tell them that anyone can get luck more than once in the DR, more than once in an hour. what a bunch of dopes.

i'm rambling but i'm bored and just wanted to get this out. the fantasy is over for me.

in the beginning i used to find a lot of the people i met to be interesting but that has also changed for me.

i'm tired. i want to go home.

I need to get to SLEEP!!!

Damn TP you go from thrown out to burned out. ?????

Hang in there buddy, sober up & get some rest. It has got to get better!

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Spunk glazed Chicas are the building blocks of the universe!

Sometimes you just have to throttle back. I live down here and used to do the gulch thing a lot more than I do now. I go to the occasional ZB session, but it has been almost 3 months since I took a girl from the DR. It actually depresses me to spend to much time in the gulch now. Maybe you just need to step back, get away from the drama, and come back and approach your fun another way. I've lived here 7 years and hardly any chicas know me or make any drama. You can definitely overload on that scene.

Puts me in mind a little of Chuck Green's "Leaving the Dream." I think I know how you feel TP. I get that same feeling after about a month, the CR burnout starts to settle in and then I'm ready to go back to the U.S. The good thing is that after 4 or 5 months in the U.S., CR starts looking pretty good again and I'm ready to go back. I guess you just need to pace yourself and keep it all in the proper perspective. Prabably a good reason for the guys that want to move to CR to rent a place for awhile as opposed to buying until they're certain it's what they really want.

7 trips in 9 months, TP....that's a lot.

It's been about 4 months since my last trip to CR.....I'm anxious to get back there in a few weeks.

Zebra

but after 18 trips there, next stop....THAILAND, 24, but there is so much more!!!

and he told me that he was not into the sexo, when he turned, uh 66, therefore, a huge reason why c.r. was not pura vida!!!! If the chicas dont do it for me, then, it is no pura vida, as that is reason numero uno to be there!!

I could see where one could easily burnout if he were there every month. I got kinda burned out on my last trip when I stayed ten days. One needs an occasional break. The newness of anything wears off in time.
I wait until I feel the overwhelming need to return and by then it's all new again. Of course it helps that I can't afford to go very often.

dph55

If you ever do come back, spend some time learning Spanish, the culture and history. You may have a different outlook. But, like many have said here, it's not for everyone.
LVSteve

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TP is hispanic. I think English is the second language. Correct, TP? I've got lots to add to this thread but, at work, have a meeting in 4 minutes.

dapanz1

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Paradise= Sitting outside the Bodega in Panama City about 1 am. Drinking cool Balboas with cool friends and blazin' hot Colombianas. I want to be there..RIGHT NOW!

I know what you mean. Last trip I threw money at my d*ck like it was on fire and $50.00 were asbestos. This trip I don't have the funds even though the body is willing. I'm saving up for a little trip I've got planned with a good friend Fathers day weekend.


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Xman

TP.....

sorry to hear you hit bottom but this expeience may help put things into perspective. Everything in life get old after a while... Costa Rica, Del Rey, working novias, pura vida, etc if that is the only focus.

I agree with LVS... get out of the gulch, learn Spanish and the Culture, make Tico/Tica friends from outside the mongering world....

I've been coming to Costa Rica for over 10 years and now in final phase of downsizing my US obligations and spending 6 - 8 months a year in Costa rica. While I have reservations about living in CR full time, I'm happy to have a Costa rican "life" outside the gulch. I've made friends with non-mongering expats and ticos, dated a non-working Tica, and become involved in local organizations and projects.

Even with this I know that 50% or more expats eventually leave and have made provisions if this becomes the case...

Best two pieces of " advice ' I have been given and come to believe is true about Costa Rica are a quote attributed to the late Pat Dun that " expats are in Costa rica because the are wanted or.. not wanted" and that " Everything in the Gulch is an ILLUSION"

Today's my birthday and now it's time to get on with the rest of my life...

Give CR a rest for awhile then return and see if you've changed... the Gulch won't ... still will be an Illusion...

good luck amigo

Peace

PIDD

Pidd;
Feliz Complianos, mi amigo!
Steve
Did this via the PM cause I didn't want to hijack the post.

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At first most mongers think that living here in CR would be utopia. Well for "some" of us it certainly is close. I,for one,have been living here for 2 1/2 years and can honestly say that I haven't had a single regret.There hasn't been one day that I have thought that perhaps I should go back to the States for more than a visit with the family. That doesn't mean that everyone will adapt the same way.We are all different. My friends,Pidd and Easy will be moving here shortly.They will love it,because they will adapt to the difference between vacationing here and living here. It IS different. You can't live anywhere the same way that you vacation for a week,especially in a mongering lifestyle. TP,I am not surprised that you are burnt out.You do all those trips in a heavy drinking and mongering manner,then you move into your novia's casa and can't understand why it's different. So you lie to her,and run back to the DR. Hmm sounds like I used to live in the States with my ex-wives. Yes I am a true monger BUT when you live here there is no NEED to hurry up and have a good time. It is best to slow down and live the stress-free lifestyle that I love about Costa Rica.

Steve,
Still learning how the board works, eh?

Wit
ps. just for the record it's "cumpleaños feliz".
Pidd, I pass on my best wishes also.

Oh Yeah !!!

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