Thirdworld wrote:
Believe me, once you think you "know" is when the trouble starts.. Not trying to be funny just a cautionary tale... In 9 years I've seen so many guys think one thing with a chica and the situation is totally the opposite.
That is true of Costa Rica in general. It is not just a puta thing.
If they don't love you, they will play you. How do you know if they love you? No easy answer to that. If you can break them of asking for money, that is a good start. Get them to ditch the cell phone, that is another good sign. If they get a real job and start living a normal life, you are certainly making progress.
Never send money, unless you are happy with the value you are getting out of the transaction. Long distance relationships are strictly business. You can help with bills, but NEVER give them the money. Set up a Banco National account and pay them electronicly yourself. If they are not happy with this arrangement, well then they are playing you. If you think they might be playing you, then they are. NEVER give them the benefit of the doubt, particularly if they are not working and they have a big cell phone bill. If you are paying her "not to work in the Del Rey", then you are a client and she is working their when you are not around. Don't be a sucker, that is what they do. There is a script on how they work you guys and the stories are almost always the same.
You must earn their respect. You must demonstrate that you know the game and you are not playing. Once you have their respect, then and only then do you have a chance to you win their heart. It is true that most of these women, especially the hard core ones, have no respect for men, especially Gringos because they are so gullable. They are just there to play you if you are not strong in the relationship. You will NEVER earn their respect if you act like a client. They will never respect you if you give them money every time they come up with one of their sob stories.
If you are not strong in the relationship, they will walk all over you. That is an absolute fact. If you are strong, they have an attraction for you and if they are REALLY tired of the game, then you have a chance. How do you know if they are really tired of the game, check out their cell phone bill or their email account. If they resist you are being played.
Hope this helps guys.......Happy hunting and good luck! You will need it.