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How should a veteran CR guy handle this newbie?
Dapanz1, you are the devil in disguise. Bring him and introduce him to all the vices available in CR. 41%  41%  [ 20 ]
Bring him but hold him by the hand and give him sage advice 22%  22%  [ 11 ]
Discourage him from going. Tell him CR really sucks and that I've been lying to him about my fun. 8%  8%  [ 4 ]
Tell him I'm not going and we'll hook up another time and place. 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
Go along with his decision to go or not go. But, make a disclaimer that I hold myself harmless. 27%  27%  [ 13 ]
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Dapanz1
PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 1:50 pm 
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Dear CRT Brotherhood,

Paco Loco wrote:

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Anyway I'd never take lightly introducing someone to the hobby, it will change everything.


So, I get a call from a friend/business associate yesterday. He is going through some major changes in his life. Just dumped his fiance and is changing jobs. He is a younger guy about 30 or 31. Very nice looking guy. (No, I have not been spending too much time with Hand Solo) Makes about $130K a year. Educated. Basically has everything in life. He happens to be one of the very few people I tell about my adventures in Costa Rica. Here is an excerpt from our phone conversation:

Friend: Dapanz, are you still going to Costa Rica when you said you were going?

Me: Yeah, I going next Thursday, why?

Friend: I want to go with you, man. I just broke up with my girlfriend, we are no longer together. I'm leaving XXXXX and I'm going to work for XXXXX. It's a much better deal for me.

Me: Cool, man, I'd love to have you come. I know lots of people there, I can show you around. I have a big room at one of the hotels close to all the action. It will be a great time. Have you booked a flight?

Friend: No, not yet. Lately, I have just been partying like a rock star, spending a ton of cash, banging lots of different woman and having the time of my life!! But, I do want to go to CR before I start working for XXXXX.

Me: Well, let me check the flights. I'm always on AA. Hmm..looks like right now the cheapest fare is $650 RT w/tax. This is the exact flight that I have. When you get to your computer go on the AA site and hold the reservation.

Friend: I don't care what it cost, within some reason, but I'm pretty sure I'm in. I'll let you know over the weekend. I have to double check with my new firm XXXXXX and make sure everything is set.

So, CRT'ers what should I do? He's never been to CR. I think he has P4P before, but not sure. I feel like I'm carrying a personal responsibility.

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PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 1:57 pm 
does your friend have a passport? if so sounds like he really needsto get away and go to CR. and who better to show him around? pura vida
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Yes, he has a passport. And, he is getting ready to get a visa for Brazil. He is going there early 06.

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Be his tour guide if you enjoy his company. Doesn't sound like he has time to read all the helpful information that abounds on this board.

Does he speak any spanish? How dependent on you will he be?

However, you are expressing some reservations through this thread. Don't let him spoil your fun. If dude really wants to go to CR, he will make it happen on his own.

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If your friend is getting a visa for Brazil, I suspect he knows what he is getting into. Why don't you hold his hand on this trip and see how he makes out.
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Dap....

It shows charicter that you care about him enough to consider what do do. He is a big boy, and can make his own autonomous decisions.Let the head shrinking to the shrink; if it messes him up. I guess my question is, what does this say about your state and what this has done to you, to even ask the question? Perhaps, that is the issue my friend, and what needs to be adressed (or not :wink: )

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Dapanz1 wrote:
He is a younger guy about 30 or 31. Very nice looking guy. Makes about $130K a year. Educated. Basically has everything in life.
What makes you think he even really needs any hand holding? It sounds like he at least has an idea what is in store for him and he's fine with it. In fact it was his idea. If he over pays, he can afford it and if he doesn't want to pay, he probably won't need to with all his various attributes. The only thing that could help him with the non-pro's (and pro's too for that matter) that you didn't list was spanish fluency and perhaps the ability to dance salsa. About the only thing you might have to worry about with him is his falling too heavily for the GFFE, but the fact that he's been banging hot gringas for the past few months probably has lessened his susceptability to even that. In fact given the way you describe his life in the US, I have to wonder why he would feel the need to go to CR for that in the first place. If airfare is not a concern and hot latinas is all he's going for than I think he'll find Brazil a lot more interesting than CR.
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He will be very dependent upon me at first. He speaks NO Spanish. His biggest concern is "If I go down with you, will you be spending your whole weekend with that broad of yours?" Answer: Not the entire time. But, I will guide him to happy hour, which in itself will lead to a bevy of activities with the boys. Then, there is the get together on the 22nd at SL. Also, the poker party on the 20th w/the Sexy Bitches. He'll get acquainted quickly. Who knows, he might even find the "love of the hour" at SL.

Psych, I'm only asking because of the recent posts/threads about what CR has done to hobbyists outlook after discovering CR. My experiences in CR have been pretty well documented. I have no qualms saying CR has brought great joy to me in some aspects. And,conversely, there are times when I wish that I had NEVER known of CR. Some day I will do a spreadsheet of the good vs. bad and see what I really think.

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San Jose: sure is the garden of good and evil. Once you step foot in it, you'll never think the same way again.

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RHM....Amen my brother....Amen
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Dapanz1,

Just have him read this board & that should cue him in on the good & the bad & the risk potential of a forever changed life. If he is a soft gullible guy I would try to steer him else where. Just remember how so many people work in life. If you give someone a tip on an investment & put your money into this also so they know you are at risk & you did this as a favor. It has been my experience that if things go well many want to take credit them selves that they were smart to do this which is no problem but if things go bad many will blame you for telling them about it & it becomes your fault in their minds.

I would not push anything but warn him & educated him on the reality of this. Many inexperienced guys I know thought oh yeah these are whores no way to fall in love with that subspecies. Well their mind is thinking of whores back home & have not experienced this different breed & style of P4P. Many I see get stuck in the gulch as we have seen over & over as they get seriously hung upon & hurt by these women.

Thought I might add this since I have been around this for so many years. From my experience the most dangerous time for men are the first 3 years of continued contact with the gulch. Most the men I know of that survived the clutches of the gulch after this period moved way beyond it & only use it for what I see as its intended purpose in this life. YMMV


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Dapanz1 wrote:
I have no qualms saying CR has brought great joy to me in some aspects. And,conversely, there are times when I wish that I had NEVER known of CR.
Before you go, offer him two pills - a blue valium and a blue viagra. And let him decide whether he wants to take the valium and remain in his drugged out state continuing with gringas while having nagging dreams in the back of his head that there must be something better out there or take the other blue pill and learn the real truth and never be able to be satisfied with gringas again.

The Matrix wrote:
Morpheus: I imagine that right now you're feeling a bit like Alice, tumbling down the rabbit hole.
Neo: You could say that.
Morpheus: I can see it in your eyes. You have the look of a man who accepts what he sees because he's expecting to wake up. Ironically, this is not far from the truth. Do you believe in fate, Neo?
Neo: No.
Morpheus: Why not?
Neo: 'Cause I don't like the idea that I'm not in control of my life.
Morpheus: I know exactly what you mean. Let me tell you why you're here. You're here because you know something. What you know, you can't explain. But you feel it. You felt it your entire life. That there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but it's there. Like a splinter in your mind -- driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me. Do you know what I'm talking about?
Neo: The Matrix?
Morpheus: Do you want to know what it is?
(Neo nods his head.)
Morpheus: The Matrix is everywhere; it is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window, or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work, or when you go to church or when you pay your taxes. It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.
Neo: What truth?
Morpheus: That you are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else, you were born into bondage, born inside a prison that you cannot smell, taste, or touch. A prison for your mind. (long pause, sighs) Unfortunately, no one can be told what the Matrix is. You have to see it for yourself. This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back.
(In his left hand, Morpheus has a valium)
Morpheus: You take this blue pill and the story ends. You wake in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. (another blue pill is shown in his other hand) You take THIS blue pill and you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes. (Long pause; Neo begins to reach for the 2nd blue pill) Remember -- all I am offering is the truth, nothing more.
(Neo takes the Viagra and swallows it with a glass of water)
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-I don't think there is anything wrong with him going, as long as you make sure he does not throw around hundreds and fifties like nickles and dimes.

I have seen this all too much with newbies with an axe to grind. It only screws everything up for the rest of us.

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Dapanz1 wrote:
Just dumped his fiance...He is a younger guy about 30 or 31. He's never been to CR. I think he has P4P before, but not sure.
Just ask him if he's done this before. If not why now, to get back at his fiance he just blew off? And you know him better than any of us, can he handle what he's about to get into? Sure he's a big boy and all but it's obvious what Dapanz is really concerned about here...
Dapanz1 wrote:
I feel like I'm carrying a personal responsibility.
Odds are if he has a blast with the hot young sexy gatitas and gets hooked on the gulch his chances of reconciling with that nice fiance may be shot to hell. Or his chance of putting up with any type of "normal" relationship back home for that matter. His whole future could change- squandering all his vacation days and money on trips to hobby, never bothering to marry a gringa or raise a family, becoming a hopeless mongeraholic. Hey I wouldn't want that on my shoulders either, :lol: but it may not be all that.. I'd find out more on what he knows, what he's done and his intentions in Brazil... If he's for sure a newbie and insists on going to CR just let him know what he's getting into.

This kind of makes another point in my argument against bragging to "civilians" back home about our escapades, telling on ourselves can put us in all kinds of uncomfortable situations sooner or later.

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In September, long Labor Day weekend, I took my 24 yo nephew to CR. This guy got back from Iraq in May and apparently saw a good bit of action with a Marine company.

I gave the same instructions to him as has been discussed here and had the same reservtions as has been described.

On the flight down he told me he has an 18 yo and two 20 yo that switch off during the week. I said, "man, this trip isn't going to do you a bit of good."

He hung out two nights in DR, one night in KL, I took him to ZB and I took him to dinner with two colombianas.

To my knowledge he did not partake. My fears were unfounded and I was left with some bewilderment. I guess you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

Dapanz, if the guy goes with you, what happens or not is his doing. If he does not go, what happens or not is his doing. He controls all outcomes.

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