ColombiaLover wrote:
Mr Adventure wrote:
[ While we may not being able to change anything, you can certainly let them know that her behavior is unacceptable. Hit her where it hurts-the wallet.
...I explained why I was no longer a customer and detailed briefly the amount of money she would have gotten that would be going to some other girl. No this won't change her behavior, but I can change girls. She taught me a couple of lessons so I returned the favor via arithmetic.
Good for you! If nothing more, it probably made you feel better and at least let her know that we are all not as dumb as we sometimes seem.
I would estimate that about 20% of the girls(my novia is like this) I've met are decent honest human beings who just want to go to work, do a job well, get paid well, go home to her Ch*ld/family( her real life) and leave the job at work.
I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression about this girl. She has her faults, but I think she's, for the most part, like the "20% girl" you are describing. A big part of the problem was me...I tried to move her out of the comfort zone, beyond the idea of me being part of her job. That's my fault. I didn't appreciate the way it was handled, but it probably had to do with what she perceived from me. Learned my lesson, I hope.
Good info, one big reason I have been w/same novia 16times is that she absolutely refuses to go down the road of emotions. Keeps her personal life totally separate from her job, never said "I love you" in person or email, she'll do just about anything I want with as far as her body goes but her feeling are "off limits". Many times I've tried to look deep into her eyes but all I've ever seen is dark brown. Most of the time she keeps her eyes closed anyway. She's one of the decent ones that when she saw I was getting emotionally involved she distanced herself. In a way she's protecting me from myself, I'm lucky suppose.
I had though about getting her a visitor visa but don 't think they will issue her one due to her profession. But this would be probably doing the same thing, moving her out of her comfort zone, and I should expect to be disappointed. Truth is she's a sex worker who likes me as a customer and at her age 28, has the maturity to know how to keep a customer.
Like Netgems had said when were at home pineing for them just remember what they are doing.. at this moment my novia's head is bobbing up/down on another customer or she's in-between. As gut wrenching as the thought is it's the reality. But somehow when were alone I forget about all of that...but I'm a clown, so what can one expect.